How do i cope with lifes problems

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9/23/2015 7:21pm Edited Date/Time 9/23/2015 11:30pm
Sandberm wrote:
Get new friends
Yup.
9/23/2015 7:35pm
Im sorry.

Ive edited it but the quotes still show it.
9/24/2015 1:43pm
Don't apologize to us. Go tell your kids that your sorry. Pull it together man! Your stuck in the mud spinning your wheels. Now put it in 4wd and pull out of this hole.
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9/25/2015 1:10pm
Hey man u need to cheer up, you have kids ya know, you want them to go through life without you involved?? Do u not want them to continue the legacy of yourself and your parents and their parents and so on and so forth ?? Life can be a terrible feeling sometimes but it's how you make it through it is what counts. THE BLOOD YOU SPILL WHETHER IT IS YOURS OR SOMEONE ELSE'S DOES NOT MAKE YOU A MAN, IT'S YOUR FAMILY, YOUR FRIENDSHIPS, THE GOOD THAT YOU CAN DO FOR OTHERS AND YOUR CHILDREN, THAT IS WHAT MAKES A MAN. Hope shit gets better for ya!!

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9/27/2015 9:03am
when my wife left me I was at work. just don't dwell on it and move on. no girl is worth losing sleep over.
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9/28/2015 11:14am
Travis , I hope you get your spirits up. Women can be an evil creature for sure. My advice ( and it always worked for me ) was " fight fire with fire ". It's also extremely gratifying. Smile

Find one , two or three of her best friends , or some chick that your ex can't stand. Bang the hell out of them , take pics and send them back to her. Then send her texts or whatever , thanking her for giving you your freedom back. And that you didn't know how much good of poon was actually out there until she left.

Women don't call us dogs for no reason , because when it comes to fighting dirty , we can be the best at it. All you have to do is be creative and you can have the ultimate revenge AND have a lot of fun.

Of course the overly politically correct guys will tell you not to listen to me. I'm just telling you what I would do. I believe in being faithful to the one I love , but if that chick pulls the kind of shit your ex is??....it's fucking game on! Smile
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9/28/2015 11:28am
jeffro503 wrote:
Travis , I hope you get your spirits up. Women can be an evil creature for sure. My advice ( and it always worked for me...
Travis , I hope you get your spirits up. Women can be an evil creature for sure. My advice ( and it always worked for me ) was " fight fire with fire ". It's also extremely gratifying. Smile

Find one , two or three of her best friends , or some chick that your ex can't stand. Bang the hell out of them , take pics and send them back to her. Then send her texts or whatever , thanking her for giving you your freedom back. And that you didn't know how much good of poon was actually out there until she left.

Women don't call us dogs for no reason , because when it comes to fighting dirty , we can be the best at it. All you have to do is be creative and you can have the ultimate revenge AND have a lot of fun.

Of course the overly politically correct guys will tell you not to listen to me. I'm just telling you what I would do. I believe in being faithful to the one I love , but if that chick pulls the kind of shit your ex is??....it's fucking game on! Smile
That's dumb and terrible advice! Why stoop to her level? Why act like a high school kid?

Block her/ignore her/file a 'no contact order' against her... Take your phone to the police department, file a report that she is sending unwanted sexual content and you're afraid that your child will see. That way you'll have a record or her craziness if you ever need it for custody issues.


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9/28/2015 11:40am Edited Date/Time 9/28/2015 11:42am
jeffro503 wrote:
Travis , I hope you get your spirits up. Women can be an evil creature for sure. My advice ( and it always worked for me...
Travis , I hope you get your spirits up. Women can be an evil creature for sure. My advice ( and it always worked for me ) was " fight fire with fire ". It's also extremely gratifying. Smile

Find one , two or three of her best friends , or some chick that your ex can't stand. Bang the hell out of them , take pics and send them back to her. Then send her texts or whatever , thanking her for giving you your freedom back. And that you didn't know how much good of poon was actually out there until she left.

Women don't call us dogs for no reason , because when it comes to fighting dirty , we can be the best at it. All you have to do is be creative and you can have the ultimate revenge AND have a lot of fun.

Of course the overly politically correct guys will tell you not to listen to me. I'm just telling you what I would do. I believe in being faithful to the one I love , but if that chick pulls the kind of shit your ex is??....it's fucking game on! Smile
huck wrote:
That's dumb and terrible advice! Why stoop to her level? Why act like a high school kid? Block her/ignore her/file a 'no contact order' against her...
That's dumb and terrible advice! Why stoop to her level? Why act like a high school kid?

Block her/ignore her/file a 'no contact order' against her... Take your phone to the police department, file a report that she is sending unwanted sexual content and you're afraid that your child will see. That way you'll have a record or her craziness if you ever need it for custody issues.


Why not? He wouldn't be doing anything illegal and from the sounds of it , he's single by " her " choice. Might as well kill two birds with one stone , try out some new chicks and piss her off all at the same time. Standing on the sidelines is a great way to stay politically correct in this instance , but if it were " You " any dude with a heart beat had this going on , you would be seriously thinking about doing it the way I explained it up above.

All this filing papers , taking records , recording things , blah , blah , blah! Fuck that , go find poon and rub it in!

From my point of view it's the best advice so far.
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9/28/2015 12:46pm
jeffro503 wrote:
Travis , I hope you get your spirits up. Women can be an evil creature for sure. My advice ( and it always worked for me...
Travis , I hope you get your spirits up. Women can be an evil creature for sure. My advice ( and it always worked for me ) was " fight fire with fire ". It's also extremely gratifying. Smile

Find one , two or three of her best friends , or some chick that your ex can't stand. Bang the hell out of them , take pics and send them back to her. Then send her texts or whatever , thanking her for giving you your freedom back. And that you didn't know how much good of poon was actually out there until she left.

Women don't call us dogs for no reason , because when it comes to fighting dirty , we can be the best at it. All you have to do is be creative and you can have the ultimate revenge AND have a lot of fun.

Of course the overly politically correct guys will tell you not to listen to me. I'm just telling you what I would do. I believe in being faithful to the one I love , but if that chick pulls the kind of shit your ex is??....it's fucking game on! Smile
huck wrote:
That's dumb and terrible advice! Why stoop to her level? Why act like a high school kid? Block her/ignore her/file a 'no contact order' against her...
That's dumb and terrible advice! Why stoop to her level? Why act like a high school kid?

Block her/ignore her/file a 'no contact order' against her... Take your phone to the police department, file a report that she is sending unwanted sexual content and you're afraid that your child will see. That way you'll have a record or her craziness if you ever need it for custody issues.


Listen this guy... Good advice regarding showing the police the messages, It can be usefull in a future if you have to fight for your kids.
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9/28/2015 7:31pm Edited Date/Time 9/28/2015 7:34pm
newmann wrote:
Somebody needs to be a good parent to your kids, it needs to be you. Save the pics for the custody battle, you will need them...
Somebody needs to be a good parent to your kids, it needs to be you.

Save the pics for the custody battle, you will need them.

Whatever you do, do not get pissed and show them to the kids or tell the kids about bad things mom does.

Straighten your ass up pronto and don't worry about a fuggin race. Raise your kids well and take them to the races when things get sorted out.

Sorry you have to go through something like this and glad I never had to but don't fuck the kids over.





^^^^^^. A psych would charge you untold euros for this sage advice. You have an important job ahead---for you are a DAD, which is a blessing. You're gonna get up off the ground, shake this shit off, rip that fucked-up thrashed visor off your dome, put your goggles around your arm, kick that fuckin life of yours back to life, and remount. Good luck and charge on!!!!
9/28/2015 7:55pm
Traumatic experiences are forever engrained in our minds. It is how you react to those experiences that determines the future. The mind / brain feels a million miles wide sometimes, as it processes thoughts, hopes, dreams, etc., that life brings our way.

Stay calm, and just try to do the next right thing. You will know right from wrong.

Got a note on a napkin left on the kitchen table eleven years ago, saying it was over. I quit all narcotics, alcohol, etc. ten years ago. A lifetime of drugs and drinking never made things any better for me. It only took 30 years to figure that out.

Stay busy, do not isolate, and most of all stay sober. Much clearer decisions are made that way.

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9/29/2015 6:34am
Man i wish i could arrange a get together, bit hard when there is about 13 thousand miles between us as a whole lol
jtomasik wrote:
The main thing you need to do is go seek professional help and don't burn your time asking advice here. Hell, one of the posters in...
The main thing you need to do is go seek professional help and don't burn your time asking advice here. Hell, one of the posters in this thread stole $2K from me and is nothing more than an irresponsible partier...last thing you want is someone like that telling you what to do.

Go seek professional help. Don't drink or party while you go through this. I wish you the absolute best.
You mean Tommy?
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9/29/2015 8:04am
Hit the gym bro get your body right while you get your mind right.
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9/29/2015 9:39am
Hit the gym bro get your body right while you get your mind right.
As of late I've cut way down on drinking, few beers a week, and hve been hitting the gym regularly. Its crazy what a shift that brings. I don't feel like I was ever all that close to being an alcoholic, but the marketing appeal of a beer definitely started to make its way into a few parts of my life.

So yes, the mental effects of exercise are as great, if not greater, than the physical effects.
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9/29/2015 10:12am Edited Date/Time 9/29/2015 10:21am
This is it, ive lost the friends i had. Its wat happens wen u get serious wirh a girl, here i am ten yrs later with...
This is it, ive lost the friends i had. Its wat happens wen u get serious wirh a girl, here i am ten yrs later with noone.

Where as she has a line of men just waiting
If they truly were your friends and you were tight, they still are. You have to just reach out and reconnect again. Women come and go, but friends stay forever, even if there's a period of time that you were not in contact.

Here's a song wich lyrics I find very advisable and comforting. That's why I have the song title tattooed on my leg.



Hang in there.. It will get better and better. Slowly, but for sure it will.
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9/29/2015 10:17am
jeffro503 wrote:
Travis , I hope you get your spirits up. Women can be an evil creature for sure. My advice ( and it always worked for me...
Travis , I hope you get your spirits up. Women can be an evil creature for sure. My advice ( and it always worked for me ) was " fight fire with fire ". It's also extremely gratifying. Smile

Find one , two or three of her best friends , or some chick that your ex can't stand. Bang the hell out of them , take pics and send them back to her. Then send her texts or whatever , thanking her for giving you your freedom back. And that you didn't know how much good of poon was actually out there until she left.

Women don't call us dogs for no reason , because when it comes to fighting dirty , we can be the best at it. All you have to do is be creative and you can have the ultimate revenge AND have a lot of fun.

Of course the overly politically correct guys will tell you not to listen to me. I'm just telling you what I would do. I believe in being faithful to the one I love , but if that chick pulls the kind of shit your ex is??....it's fucking game on! Smile
huck wrote:
That's dumb and terrible advice! Why stoop to her level? Why act like a high school kid? Block her/ignore her/file a 'no contact order' against her...
That's dumb and terrible advice! Why stoop to her level? Why act like a high school kid?

Block her/ignore her/file a 'no contact order' against her... Take your phone to the police department, file a report that she is sending unwanted sexual content and you're afraid that your child will see. That way you'll have a record or her craziness if you ever need it for custody issues.


Berni wrote:
Listen this guy... Good advice regarding showing the police the messages, It can be usefull in a future if you have to fight for your kids.
x2
Ingnoring her is way, way, way, WAY better than to strike back.
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9/29/2015 10:26am
huck wrote:
That's dumb and terrible advice! Why stoop to her level? Why act like a high school kid? Block her/ignore her/file a 'no contact order' against her...
That's dumb and terrible advice! Why stoop to her level? Why act like a high school kid?

Block her/ignore her/file a 'no contact order' against her... Take your phone to the police department, file a report that she is sending unwanted sexual content and you're afraid that your child will see. That way you'll have a record or her craziness if you ever need it for custody issues.


Berni wrote:
Listen this guy... Good advice regarding showing the police the messages, It can be usefull in a future if you have to fight for your kids.
sende wrote:
x2
Ingnoring her is way, way, way, WAY better than to strike back.
X3
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9/29/2015 11:13am
chuck317 wrote:
when my wife left me I was at work. just don't dwell on it and move on. no girl is worth losing sleep over.
Same here, came home from work, kids gone, house empty, bank accounts cleaned out.

Two years ago, and she did not break me. I see my children and we get along better than ever. It takes time, I still have bad days, but they are less and less. My girls are all that matter to me in this world.
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9/30/2015 3:39pm
jeffro503 wrote:
Travis , I hope you get your spirits up. Women can be an evil creature for sure. My advice ( and it always worked for me...
Travis , I hope you get your spirits up. Women can be an evil creature for sure. My advice ( and it always worked for me ) was " fight fire with fire ". It's also extremely gratifying. Smile

Find one , two or three of her best friends , or some chick that your ex can't stand. Bang the hell out of them , take pics and send them back to her. Then send her texts or whatever , thanking her for giving you your freedom back. And that you didn't know how much good of poon was actually out there until she left.

Women don't call us dogs for no reason , because when it comes to fighting dirty , we can be the best at it. All you have to do is be creative and you can have the ultimate revenge AND have a lot of fun.

Of course the overly politically correct guys will tell you not to listen to me. I'm just telling you what I would do. I believe in being faithful to the one I love , but if that chick pulls the kind of shit your ex is??....it's fucking game on! Smile
huck wrote:
That's dumb and terrible advice! Why stoop to her level? Why act like a high school kid? Block her/ignore her/file a 'no contact order' against her...
That's dumb and terrible advice! Why stoop to her level? Why act like a high school kid?

Block her/ignore her/file a 'no contact order' against her... Take your phone to the police department, file a report that she is sending unwanted sexual content and you're afraid that your child will see. That way you'll have a record or her craziness if you ever need it for custody issues.


Berni wrote:
Listen this guy... Good advice regarding showing the police the messages, It can be usefull in a future if you have to fight for your kids.
Maybe I came off a bit strong in my reply , so sorry if it came across that way. Sometimes just going out and having fun with family and friends can cheer a guy up. It's a tough deal getting screwed over by your companion , and always sounds easier from the outside looking in. I think I was trying to attempt to help cheer Travis up , and help get his mind off things. Hope you're doing well Travis , and maybe these other guys are right , just ignore her.
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9/30/2015 6:00pm Edited Date/Time 9/30/2015 6:05pm
jeffro503 wrote:
Travis , I hope you get your spirits up. Women can be an evil creature for sure. My advice ( and it always worked for me...
Travis , I hope you get your spirits up. Women can be an evil creature for sure. My advice ( and it always worked for me ) was " fight fire with fire ". It's also extremely gratifying. Smile

Find one , two or three of her best friends , or some chick that your ex can't stand. Bang the hell out of them , take pics and send them back to her. Then send her texts or whatever , thanking her for giving you your freedom back. And that you didn't know how much good of poon was actually out there until she left.

Women don't call us dogs for no reason , because when it comes to fighting dirty , we can be the best at it. All you have to do is be creative and you can have the ultimate revenge AND have a lot of fun.

Of course the overly politically correct guys will tell you not to listen to me. I'm just telling you what I would do. I believe in being faithful to the one I love , but if that chick pulls the kind of shit your ex is??....it's fucking game on! Smile
Jeff, that would be good advice if they didn't have children. With children in the picture things are much different. The best thing Travis can do in this situation is be a parent to his children. Courts normally do not care about the ethical behaviors of cheating spouses, but in this case I think the courts would take notice since the mother is being absent from the children and reckless in her behavior. Travis sinking his sorrows in the bottle could very well be used against him as well if his wife were to see these messages. My advice would be not to say anything at all that could be self-incriminating and hold on to the pictures, texts, etc. that his wife is sending. The courts will look first and foremost in the interest of the children. Even though in situations like this, it is easy to let emotions get the best of us, the absolute best thing Travis can do is get off the bottle, get a clear head and think about the child.

I was in a bad situation and I made a lot of mistakes so I am speaking from experience. I hope Travis does not do the same. The best post I saw in this thread was from flarider; it was a very astute post with great advice.
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9/30/2015 10:36pm
jeffro503 wrote:
Travis , I hope you get your spirits up. Women can be an evil creature for sure. My advice ( and it always worked for me...
Travis , I hope you get your spirits up. Women can be an evil creature for sure. My advice ( and it always worked for me ) was " fight fire with fire ". It's also extremely gratifying. Smile

Find one , two or three of her best friends , or some chick that your ex can't stand. Bang the hell out of them , take pics and send them back to her. Then send her texts or whatever , thanking her for giving you your freedom back. And that you didn't know how much good of poon was actually out there until she left.

Women don't call us dogs for no reason , because when it comes to fighting dirty , we can be the best at it. All you have to do is be creative and you can have the ultimate revenge AND have a lot of fun.

Of course the overly politically correct guys will tell you not to listen to me. I'm just telling you what I would do. I believe in being faithful to the one I love , but if that chick pulls the kind of shit your ex is??....it's fucking game on! Smile
Jeff, that would be good advice if they didn't have children. With children in the picture things are much different. The best thing Travis can do...
Jeff, that would be good advice if they didn't have children. With children in the picture things are much different. The best thing Travis can do in this situation is be a parent to his children. Courts normally do not care about the ethical behaviors of cheating spouses, but in this case I think the courts would take notice since the mother is being absent from the children and reckless in her behavior. Travis sinking his sorrows in the bottle could very well be used against him as well if his wife were to see these messages. My advice would be not to say anything at all that could be self-incriminating and hold on to the pictures, texts, etc. that his wife is sending. The courts will look first and foremost in the interest of the children. Even though in situations like this, it is easy to let emotions get the best of us, the absolute best thing Travis can do is get off the bottle, get a clear head and think about the child.

I was in a bad situation and I made a lot of mistakes so I am speaking from experience. I hope Travis does not do the same. The best post I saw in this thread was from flarider; it was a very astute post with great advice.
I know you went through some rough times brother. I see things happen like this and the caveman part of me comes out. When me and you had some emails back and forth , I wanted to tell you the same thing , but I knew you had kids involved. In instances like this , I tend to go back to my basic instinct which is to react in the most dirty way possible for revenge. But you're right , the kids need to always come first. It's very easy to slip into the bottle over many things too , and I agree with you 100% on that as well , and that he should stay away and occupy his time in a more productive manner. Something that may help him in the long run. Btw , I hope you are doing better man. It sounded like things were really starting to come together for you the last time we spoke. And I hope they keep getting better for you. You have my email too , so write me if you ever feel the need for anything. I'll be there brother.
10/1/2015 6:15am
The smartest thing to do is to simply move on. Its clearly not that easy but that's what you need to do.

Go out and Surround yourself with good positive people that will impact your life positively. Stay out of bad situations and avoid plsces like bars, and Definitely don't go looking for payback nor do you need to go out and bang a bunch of chicks, both will add drama to your already drama filled life.

Think about what your kids need and the kind of dad you think they need and go about changing into that guy. Your kids dont need a drunk spteful dad, they need the dad you know you csn be.

Suicide shouldn't even be talked about, your kids need YOU. Do you want your kids growing up with the mom you described and what ever man she hooks? That's what they will get and a woman like that will do her bedt to cancel out all memories of you.


Don't let some chick control you, be the man you need to be.
10/3/2015 8:04am
Yo yo!

Im doing fine, im just awaiting going to the pub to watch rugby as i type. Its obercast out and cool, i shaved my beard last night and stsyed in and off the coke. So i feel real good today.
Ive seen the boys twice this week and went out today to get rhe twins some dinasaour toys and braxton a big nerf gun so ill c them tomorrow.

To jeffro,
Dont worry man, im going out tonight so ill do you proud. To everyone else, its sound advice so thank you.
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10/5/2015 2:06pm
Sucks to hear about your rough times. But that is how life is, it loves kick'n ya in the nuts.

Enter the suicide hotline number into your cell phone. Ya, of course put it under "Joe Blow" or whatever, but keep it handy. I've lost 2 friends to suicide, neither of which I had any idea they were thinking about it, I often wish they would have had that number handy just in case they decided to give it a try before ending things. IMO, life is short, even a long shitty life is worth experiencing before the unknown after.

About women... there are millions of men around the globe that wish their old lady would take off (btw- i suggest watching a lot of "married with children"). Enjoy being single, seriously. She has moved on, so should you, no matter how hard it is. Find someone else, get on with living YOUR life, for better or for the worse, at least it is yours. At the end of the day, your own personal life is all that matters. Women can walk away, kids can turn out to be a-holes, parents and other relatives can be for the worst of people, so as an adult do what an adult should do, move on and live your life the way you want to.

In closing, I can assure you that the next 20 years will pass in the blink of an eye, don't let your X ruin any more of your time. Focus on the things that really matter- your happiness and your kids.

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