Has MX ever been the reason for your divorce?

Your children will hate moto just like everyone I used to race with. It's supposed to be for fun.

"...and all the divorcees down at the bar agree with me too"

A lot of people with poor taste/judgement in here saying everything but themselves are the problem... 

"It's not my fault that ALL of my exes are crazy, man!"

My guess is your wife sees what you can’t. Your kids will never make a living racing motocross, let alone do it well enough to retire. You are placing your unfulfilled dreams of being super fast on them. And still acting like you’re riding and training for a pro season. You can either back it down, enjoy motocross as a family, just not as often and as serious, or ruin your relationships with your wife and kids and make them all hate motocross. 

Been a race mechanic most of my life put a strain on my family and the missus. More recently been overseas for 5- 6 month periods really was a challenge for us. I missed a lot of my kids growing up. 

My pops and mom went through hell back in the day. My pops and myself were always away racing and all our spare time was working on bikes and practicing in between races. My mom hated it. All hell would break loose when I got injured.

Growing up I had a difficult relationship with my mom. Even now at 52 I have not so good memories.

Occasionally my mom would attend races. I was 14 in 1984 and we were at a national. My mom would stay in the pits and booze all day. After our final moto my pops and myself return to the pits only to find the trailer, spare bike, tools, barbaque and my gear bag....the van and my mom are gone.

We never had cell phones back then so it was panic stations for all. We are like 250 miles from home. My dad managed to get the trailer towed to just outside my town. We got a ride home with some racing buddies who lived close by.

That night when we got home we found the police and fire brigade at the house. My mom had got pissed at the track, took the van and took off home. At home she got even more pissed and set the lounge on fire. She got confrontational with the authorities and got herself arrested.

That almost caused a divorce between my folks.

The shit carried on for years until i had to sign up for two years compulsory national service. I was 17 when I left for the military. 

After my two years service I finaced my own riding/racing through work and sponsorship. My mom had to suck it up as my dad had nothing to do with it.

Great memories and some bad memories but I would not change one thing.

My uncle and his fiancee have both gone through bad divorces, my uncle's been paying alimony for almost the full 10 year period. Before they fully plan the wedding they're getting a prenuptial agreement in place so they don't have to worry about all this bs (he makes a lot of money and she has inherited a lot). I'm surprised more people don't do this, especially on your 2nd, 3rd, or 4th marriage...

So I have to ask...

Did you think you were going to get married to your wife, who would be your perpetual piece of arm candy at the races, who would allow you to do what you wanted whenever you wanted to do it, who would participate in some closed door extracurricular activities with you on the regular, and that you would never have to give up at least a little of yourself in the process? If that was the case, then why get married? 

Anyone that tells you that you can get married and continue operating at your personal leisure without having to make compromises with your spouse is coo coo for coco puffs. Either that, or they are married to someone that is completely incapable of thinking for themselves, which I hypothesize will create it's own separate set of issues further down the road.

I wish you and your spouse well in this situation. Marriage is a lot of work, but it's worth every bit of it. Even if it seems painful in the process. Having a partner to share life and experiences with is a blessing. You aren't going to be dragging the bars in ruts 24/7, so It's worth it to have someone with you for the times that you aren't.  

Back around 2010, I got engaged while simultaneously chasing what I thought was my dream job of working in the motorcycle industry. I got the job, got married and lived on the road visiting dealers and riding dirt bikes all over with the same dealers. My wife was at home working her 9-5 job as a lobbyist. She was making a lot more money than me and was a lot more “respected” in our household amongst her coworkers. She called me a lot crying when I was on the road. It was always the same thing, “I just want you to come home!” My reply, “I don’t have time for this. If you’re going to call me crying to make me feel bad about a job and industry I love, don’t call.”

That went on for a bit until she went to her first race. I won the 25+ and 30+ classes in my first gate drop in almost 10 years. I was ecstatic. On the drive home, the conversation started. “I think we should get a divorce” she said. She continued, “I will never be into this the way you are and I can’t support you the way you would like. Also, what if you get hurt? What am I going to do?” Right then I realized it was easy to point the finger at Moto but it was more of a she and I thing. Later on it came out she was sleeping with her super rich boss. Now she has the picture perfect Facebook life with him and she seems happy.

Now, I have an awesome partner and we ride together with our kids almost every weekend. If we’re not riding Moto, we’re MTB-ing together or at the range together. I have a partner who loves doing things with me no matter what they are. Sure I have to do more laundry than I used to and have to do more shit around the house than I like to but it makes her happy. If she’s happy, I’m happy and we get to do life together. 

Hindsight: I love dirt bikes but I was not the best husband to my ex. I failed my household chasing a pipe dream. However, she wasn’t a saint either. At the end of the day, it takes two to tango. When a marriage fails, it’s a 50/50 fault if you want to lay blame. Both people failed. In my case, I wasn’t a good husband because I wasn’t sensitive to her needs. She failed because she wanted me to be something or someone I was never going to be. 

Alimony might put a kink in your plans homie

Sounds like my ex. God forbid I have a day/weekend to myself to ride my dirtbike. We got a dog to try and patch things up and that turned into her going out with her friends to the bar every weekend and me staying home to take care of the puppy. Fuck that I broke it off after 3 weeks of that shit. 4.5 years down the drain but hey at least we never got married and the house was 100% in my name 

I usually have to watch cops to see decisions this poor in real time. 

No divorce but it was the reason for a breakup back in the day. “It’s the bike or me” type scenario and it wasn’t a very difficult decision for me to make lol.
 

Im fully aware of my addiction to moto and know that it will most likely prevent me from having a long term relationship but I’m perfectly ok with that. 

Never been married but I did break up with my last GF over her being unhappy with how much I ride. Not really interested in making any compromises there so I've just accepted that a relationship just isn't for me right now or anytime in the near future. 

She did you a favor, you can pull chick's with a puppy. My ex left me with her 2 cats, one of them was pregnant.

Ah marriage you got that 19 yr old dirt bike. New used above the ground pool. Your old lady is sun bathing in front of the pool but you can’t see the pool. Haha

My next Tinder match is going with me to Vegas to get married and I want you to be in the ceremony.

"My bloodline ended with me, but who cares, I used to ride dirtbikes!"

10/10 chances of regretting this with a year but do you bro, she ain’t core enough anyways 

😂

If I don’t quit buying shit I don’t need and my wife finds out I don’t have to worry about divorce.  She will gut me with a can opener!!!!!

Shitty attitude toward marriage for a dude that got married. If you cared about your family half as much as you do about moto you wouldn’t have started this thread and your marriage/family life would be in a good spot. 
 

I’m very much pro marriage and never want to see anyone split up so I wish you, your wife and your marriage luck and pray you guys get through this. If it doesn’t though, I hope you are happy living your dream of being the fastest local vet rider in your area who barely gets to see his kids because of his love of moto and I hope your wife finds someone that’s able to take care of her and care for her more than a fucking hobby. Damn dude, get your priorities straight and stop acting like a 15 year old boy!

There are 2 potential issues here so you need to be honest with yourself and figure out what is the problem in your mind.

1. Is this because your wife won't let your kids ride?

1. Is it because you want to ride more than you wife wants you to?

If this is about your kids, how much do they love MX? How dedicated are they? My guess is they are kids, they want to do other things too, so unless one, two, or all 3 are balls to the wall mx and winning locally, by winning I mean smoking other kids, I would calm down a little bit on the pro career goals. Do they have support, are they good enough that you are getting some level of support?

I love MX, I have since I was 2-3 years old. That said, I don't expect my boys to love MX as much as I do. If they do love it just as much great. If they don't I will support them with other hobbies. If they just want to race or even ride for fun that's fine too, but if they want to race at a top level, then they need to get good results. I pretty much have it in my mind that after I spend so much a year, it's up to them to get us some help by doing their part and winning. I don't know what that number looks like yet, and honestly I don't need to, my oldest just turned 4 and he may never even want to race. Really, I'm going to have that same mentality for any sport.

If this is about your riding time, you need to work that out with your wife. I like mx and hunting. I hunted 5.5 days this year and I rode like 5 times. Both of those are way lower than I would like to, but I have two kids under 5 and I have stuff I need to take care of at home. You should be able to ride some, but it probably won't be as much as you would like or you did before you were married.

Dude, look at your response at the top of this page. You made it about you in multiple responses and then your wife came in here. The best thing you can do is delete this thread and work on your home life. Your family comes first and moto is somewhere down the list after all other priorities are taken care of.

Get your shit together and stay off of here until you do. 

And to answer your question, No and I will never let it be the reason or even a reason for divorce. No reason for it to ever let it even get close to being a reason for divorce.