I want to apologize

KennyT
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Edited Date/Time 10/22/2022 6:04am
My old buddy NevHermit woke me up to what I’ve become on here. Acting like a little grade school asswipe and going back n forth over most any topic nowadays.

I gotta say I’m just been n a bad place, like I’m sure all of us have experienced at one time or another. Not looking for ANY sympathy whatsoever, I just wanted you all to know I’m currently in a mental “low” but I’m confident with the love of my family n friends I will bounce back.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard the words “it wil get better with time”. Well it hasn’t so far. Each day at work (Cam was a master craftsman and worked with me) something reminds me of him and the next thing I know my face is filled with tears. And me trying to explain to a client who may see it and ask if I’m okay. My birthdays n a few days and I know it’s going to be brutal remembering how Cam would go all out for me even when he was at the lows of his drug addiction, it didn’t matter. He would always know what to say to me on my birthday to make me happy. I had his birthday a couple months ago, that was a bad day. Now all the holidays r coming up and I have no idea what those will be like. I know so many of you have had MUCH worse stuff to happen n your lives and I don’t know how you made it.

Anyway I’m done bickering over stupid little crap. I promise….if anyone sees me falling back into that pattern please let me know 👍
I’m here for enjoyment and not to get angry or piss off anyone else. I’m embarrassed for some of the tings I’ve said.

You all take care and please accept my deepest apologies for my childish post/replies
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10/21/2022 10:54am
You take care, Kenny. No apology necessary!
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10/21/2022 10:55am
Hang in there my friend.
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10/21/2022 10:57am
Forgot to mention going through a divorce after 44 years. Just gotta tell you the stress level is off the charts. No excuse for being an asshole though and I’m gonna work on that as hard as I can. Thanks
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10/21/2022 11:03am
KennyT wrote:
Forgot to mention going through a divorce after 44 years. Just gotta tell you the stress level is off the charts. No excuse for being an...
Forgot to mention going through a divorce after 44 years. Just gotta tell you the stress level is off the charts. No excuse for being an asshole though and I’m gonna work on that as hard as I can. Thanks
Holy crap, I can relate. So sorry. Divorce is the worst thing ever in my opinion. It’s so unnatural. A death is easier to take because a death is a natural ending to something.
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10/21/2022 11:04am
Reach out to your circle of friends and family and try not to overdo it with alcohol. There are support groups out there and some great forums as well. It will be ok.
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10/21/2022 11:18am
KennyT wrote:
My old buddy NevHermit woke me up to what I’ve become on here. Acting like a little grade school asswipe and going back n forth over...
My old buddy NevHermit woke me up to what I’ve become on here. Acting like a little grade school asswipe and going back n forth over most any topic nowadays.

I gotta say I’m just been n a bad place, like I’m sure all of us have experienced at one time or another. Not looking for ANY sympathy whatsoever, I just wanted you all to know I’m currently in a mental “low” but I’m confident with the love of my family n friends I will bounce back.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard the words “it wil get better with time”. Well it hasn’t so far. Each day at work (Cam was a master craftsman and worked with me) something reminds me of him and the next thing I know my face is filled with tears. And me trying to explain to a client who may see it and ask if I’m okay. My birthdays n a few days and I know it’s going to be brutal remembering how Cam would go all out for me even when he was at the lows of his drug addiction, it didn’t matter. He would always know what to say to me on my birthday to make me happy. I had his birthday a couple months ago, that was a bad day. Now all the holidays r coming up and I have no idea what those will be like. I know so many of you have had MUCH worse stuff to happen n your lives and I don’t know how you made it.

Anyway I’m done bickering over stupid little crap. I promise….if anyone sees me falling back into that pattern please let me know 👍
I’m here for enjoyment and not to get angry or piss off anyone else. I’m embarrassed for some of the tings I’ve said.

You all take care and please accept my deepest apologies for my childish post/replies
I know that you aren't asking for sympathy, but I hope that you will accept that I feel empathy for what you are going through......

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10/21/2022 11:23am
Hang in there, Kenny. Different kind of loss but, I felt what you're feeling back in August/September back when I lost my job. At first I wasn't too worried about it. We were super slow and the pay absolutely sucked. And the chick who hired me just turned on me all of a sudden and was super bitchy for no reason. As the days went on I was just so mad. I kept combing through my mind with "What the hell did I do wrong? I've never lasted that little at a job before. This is complete bullshit." That pissed off, disappointed in myself feeling lasted for about two months. I didn't want to ride or see my friends, or go out and talk to girls. Basically camped out in my room for a month and a half. But each day I noticed I thought about it a little less. Then, BOOM. Take a guess at what got me out of my funk......

Man I swear, you just can't bottle up and ingest what a good day of riding with your friends does for you. I was BACK! Every now and then I think about those dicks who fired me, but it doesn't last long. I just do what makes me happy and save all of my energy for the next job I have. And goddamnit, I swear I'll be the best employee who walked the earth at my next job!

Take care Kenny.
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10/21/2022 11:28am
That's a heck of a 1-2 punch. Hope you have a motorcycle to ride and clear you mind every once in a while and get some 2 wheel therapy.
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10/21/2022 11:39am
Hang in there, Kenny. Different kind of loss but, I felt what you're feeling back in August/September back when I lost my job. At first I...
Hang in there, Kenny. Different kind of loss but, I felt what you're feeling back in August/September back when I lost my job. At first I wasn't too worried about it. We were super slow and the pay absolutely sucked. And the chick who hired me just turned on me all of a sudden and was super bitchy for no reason. As the days went on I was just so mad. I kept combing through my mind with "What the hell did I do wrong? I've never lasted that little at a job before. This is complete bullshit." That pissed off, disappointed in myself feeling lasted for about two months. I didn't want to ride or see my friends, or go out and talk to girls. Basically camped out in my room for a month and a half. But each day I noticed I thought about it a little less. Then, BOOM. Take a guess at what got me out of my funk......

Man I swear, you just can't bottle up and ingest what a good day of riding with your friends does for you. I was BACK! Every now and then I think about those dicks who fired me, but it doesn't last long. I just do what makes me happy and save all of my energy for the next job I have. And goddamnit, I swear I'll be the best employee who walked the earth at my next job!

Take care Kenny.
A loss is a loss so I get what you felt.
I do ride my street bike, but that was a huge deal for me too. Cam was my riding buddy right up until we lost him. For years I was averaging 100-200 miles a week, then when he was gone it took me months to get back on my bike. My head was not n a place to be out on the roads. One day I was 20 minute into my ride and thinking how nice it felt to have the wind in my hair. The only problem is in Cal you don’t have the wind in your hair, it’s a helmet State. So I’m doing 70 down the road and reach up and pay myself on my head and felt my head, not my helmet. Uh fuck! I turned around n headed home praying I didn’t see a cop. Not sure what that fine would have been but I imagine it would have been a fine and impound. But you are 100% correct. When my mind gets n a good place riding is great therapy. I finally got up the nerve/confidence to do a couple hundred mile ride a few weeks ago and It was so therapeutic.
Thank you so much
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10/21/2022 11:48am
Sorry to hear you're going through tough times. Your honesty and bravery is inspiring.
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10/21/2022 12:04pm
It's all good Man, Think we all go down that rabbit hole time to time.
Good to have someone you trust that will tell you what you look like and you finally get it by standing back and looking at yourself.

Hope by posting that helps you feel a tad better
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10/21/2022 1:05pm
You are entitled to be an asshole every once in a while especially on here. At least that's my standard.
Someone will always call you out for it.
Fuck em.
If it gets too bad ML will put you in the penalty box for a few days.
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10/21/2022 1:15pm
Kenny,

Drop me a pm. We’ll get on my KLRs and ride east out to the Dez & put that smile back where it belongs.

Be well, Be happy.

Manny
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10/21/2022 1:19pm
Hang in there, Kenny. Different kind of loss but, I felt what you're feeling back in August/September back when I lost my job. At first I...
Hang in there, Kenny. Different kind of loss but, I felt what you're feeling back in August/September back when I lost my job. At first I wasn't too worried about it. We were super slow and the pay absolutely sucked. And the chick who hired me just turned on me all of a sudden and was super bitchy for no reason. As the days went on I was just so mad. I kept combing through my mind with "What the hell did I do wrong? I've never lasted that little at a job before. This is complete bullshit." That pissed off, disappointed in myself feeling lasted for about two months. I didn't want to ride or see my friends, or go out and talk to girls. Basically camped out in my room for a month and a half. But each day I noticed I thought about it a little less. Then, BOOM. Take a guess at what got me out of my funk......

Man I swear, you just can't bottle up and ingest what a good day of riding with your friends does for you. I was BACK! Every now and then I think about those dicks who fired me, but it doesn't last long. I just do what makes me happy and save all of my energy for the next job I have. And goddamnit, I swear I'll be the best employee who walked the earth at my next job!

Take care Kenny.
KennyT wrote:
A loss is a loss so I get what you felt. I do ride my street bike, but that was a huge deal for me too...
A loss is a loss so I get what you felt.
I do ride my street bike, but that was a huge deal for me too. Cam was my riding buddy right up until we lost him. For years I was averaging 100-200 miles a week, then when he was gone it took me months to get back on my bike. My head was not n a place to be out on the roads. One day I was 20 minute into my ride and thinking how nice it felt to have the wind in my hair. The only problem is in Cal you don’t have the wind in your hair, it’s a helmet State. So I’m doing 70 down the road and reach up and pay myself on my head and felt my head, not my helmet. Uh fuck! I turned around n headed home praying I didn’t see a cop. Not sure what that fine would have been but I imagine it would have been a fine and impound. But you are 100% correct. When my mind gets n a good place riding is great therapy. I finally got up the nerve/confidence to do a couple hundred mile ride a few weeks ago and It was so therapeutic.
Thank you so much
That's awesome dude, glad you turned around! Please wear your helmet and leathers! Glad you're back on the bike.
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10/21/2022 1:53pm
I don't take anything here personally. It's all just blow hards and I'm only in here to balance the numbers and upset the red neck circle jerk. The whole world in hurting at the moment. Sorry for your losses. Look after your body and your mind and get out there into something new like a track car. With age, get a cage! Nothing better than new hobbies.
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10/21/2022 2:38pm
Keep your head up. You’re one of the good ones here.
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10/21/2022 3:37pm
Hang tough dude. We all go thru shit at some point. Altho that's some pretty heavy shit. And I don't think there's anyone on here that wouldn't help someone else on here in a time of need no matter what BS is being slung in between.
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10/21/2022 3:58pm
KennyT wrote:
Forgot to mention going through a divorce after 44 years. Just gotta tell you the stress level is off the charts. No excuse for being an...
Forgot to mention going through a divorce after 44 years. Just gotta tell you the stress level is off the charts. No excuse for being an asshole though and I’m gonna work on that as hard as I can. Thanks
Holy crap, I can relate. So sorry. Divorce is the worst thing ever in my opinion. It’s so unnatural. A death is easier to take because...
Holy crap, I can relate. So sorry. Divorce is the worst thing ever in my opinion. It’s so unnatural. A death is easier to take because a death is a natural ending to something.
I can relate to this. Even though mine was a cheating whore, it was still a miserable experience that I don’t wish on anyone. Be careful with your mates fellas!
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10/21/2022 4:05pm
Definitely appreciate you and feel horrible that you are going through a tough time. Life is a crazy roller-coaster and sometimes we are just along for the ride even if we don't want to. Message me anytime if you need to talk and that goes for anyone any time anywhere. Happy birthday even though its going to be a rough one. My birthday is in a few days too and I will be wishing you well and hoping things get better for everyone.
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10/21/2022 4:58pm
Hang in there, Kenny. Life is no fun sometimes....

And FWIW, I never thought you were acting like an asswipe 👍
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Well shit! I hate to hear when people are going through shit like that. I remember a number of years back when my wife was starting her cancer journey. I had a hard time controlling my anger. I felt out of control and it manifested in saying and writing things that I normally would not like to say or do. I had a to take a 2-3 year break from not just posting here but pretty much all my friends also. I just didn't want to interact with anyone. Pretty sure nobody here has any ill will towards you. Oddly enough, I was listening to a podcast on Richard Nixon recently and was going to start a thread
everyone's thoughts about (no not political) how you judge people. In racing they say you're only as good as your last race. But in life, should you be judged by your last actions? your worst actions? your best actions? Or the totality of your life's actions? The things you do or the things that you say? Is one thing so bad that a life lived well is wiped out by a single action?
Well I'm pretty sure that there's nothing you've written that's even made it to the long term memory banks.
Pretty sure no apology necessary, we all go through some tough times. Send a DM, maybe you can swing by some evening after work for the "safety meeting session". We're in SM near the university.
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10/21/2022 7:23pm
We care about you Kenny, really.
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10/21/2022 7:48pm
Kenny,
You’ve been around this forum a lot longer than most of us. You’ve “ALWAYS” been one of the good guys. Regardless of the differences between many of the members of this forum, at the end of the day, Vital has always been a good support network. I saw that in the beginning when I first joined and, especially after my uncle passed this past July.
We’re here for you.

It’s not easy dealing with the things you’re going through. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You have my number. Don’t be a stranger. 👍
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You don't have to apologize to me.
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Reach out to your circle of friends and family and try not to overdo it with alcohol. There are support groups out there and some great...
Reach out to your circle of friends and family and try not to overdo it with alcohol. There are support groups out there and some great forums as well. It will be ok.
This 100%. Don’t be afraid to reach out to your network when you’re down. After what you’ve been through, no one is going to think less of you for it…and if they do, fuck ‘em they aren’t good friends anyway. I sincerely hope things turn around for you soon. Like Chance said, you’re one of the OG good dudes around here.
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10/22/2022 1:02pm
KennyT wrote:
Forgot to mention going through a divorce after 44 years. Just gotta tell you the stress level is off the charts. No excuse for being an...
Forgot to mention going through a divorce after 44 years. Just gotta tell you the stress level is off the charts. No excuse for being an asshole though and I’m gonna work on that as hard as I can. Thanks
Been there it sucks bad.
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10/22/2022 10:02pm Edited Date/Time 10/22/2022 10:23pm
Sorry to hear what you're going through Kenny, I must have missed what you are talking about.

But like the others I've always thought of you as one of the good guys.

Unfortunately I don't have much advice as far as trying to lift your spirits (other than riding) as the last 3 years have been a lot to take by losing my best friend and both parents.

And with my wife battling cancer for 2.5 years I'm at an all time low. If anyone has advice on how to fall asleep.....

Hang in there buddy. 🙏
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10/22/2022 11:01pm
G-man wrote:
Sorry to hear what you're going through Kenny, I must have missed what you are talking about. But like the others I've always thought of you...
Sorry to hear what you're going through Kenny, I must have missed what you are talking about.

But like the others I've always thought of you as one of the good guys.

Unfortunately I don't have much advice as far as trying to lift your spirits (other than riding) as the last 3 years have been a lot to take by losing my best friend and both parents.

And with my wife battling cancer for 2.5 years I'm at an all time low. If anyone has advice on how to fall asleep.....

Hang in there buddy. 🙏
You are not alone with the challenges you face G-man, Kenny, Rodeo and the rest of you. Life can be brutal at times and I can only wish there was a way to magically make all the pain and suffering go away.
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10/23/2022 9:00pm
Hate to see you going through these tough times Kenny. Wherever it is that you get your strength from , dig deep and you will get through this rough patch. You know that Cam wants you to be happy through the rest of your journey down here on earth wherever it may take you. Sounds like you’re a street guy now , but if you are still an off roader as well , nothing clears your mind like a good ride. Your brain is so busy scanning and reading the terrain as you fly through it that it can’t think of anything else. Hang in there man , heck , with all of the division in non moto nowadays , it’s pretty cool how your thread is pulling good vibes from both sides. Reminded me that we are all in this together. Thanks for letting us in. That took courage.
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