What a weekend 😵‍💫🤬

PS, I have no words. I can't imagine the pain, shock, all the emotions yet to come. 

So sorry brother!

Ken

Holy .....

Thank you for sharing,  I have family friends that went through this with early age teenagers...

Again Thank you for sharing,  it puts perspective on what is truly going on in someone else's mind...you just never know. .

Friends had the garage torn down and demolished where they found thier son... trying to put some closure .

Wow...

Wow, I don’t even know what to say but so sorry you guys had to go through that, I can’t even imagine.  Wishing the best for you brother.  

So sorry Jimmy, I have no words. You guys are in my thoughts. Please extend my condolences to Jenny.

My sister and her partner found my brother and I can’t begin to imagine the feeling. 

😔💔

Prayers for you, your wife and family.  Life isn’t supposed to suck this much but sometimes it just does.  Sorry for your loss and what you’ve been through.

Oh man, can't imagine what you and your wife are going through..... Maybe talk to a Pastor or counseling might help. 

Geezuz, that was a rough read and I'm so sorry for you and your wife. May your bother inlaw RIP.

Condolences to you and all family, also sending prayer and strength to you all.

X 2.  

Same.

That was a tough read.

And can fully attest to dying being a big money grabber scam, happening at one of the most stressful times.

All any of us can do, at this end is offer our condolences, and support. 

Man, so sorry to hear this.

GODSPEED to your brother, and try to remember to take care of yourselves during this difficult time. 

What a punch to the guts.  It's hard to imagine the mental torture some folks endure.... until they can't.   Peace man.

My condolences.   

That is rough.

It is too bad Chance is on the sidelines. It seems like he had to deal with something similar and would be able to give you some advice on how to deal with this.

Dang Jimmy, as already said that's a tough blow. So sorry you and your bride had to experience that. It's absolutley normal to have emotions from one end of the spectrum to the other, and be mad and hurt at the same time. Prayers to you, Jenny, and your loved ones

Praying for you, Jimmy. 

That’s a tough one. 

And the F#@%ing guilt trip that if you don't spend the money you must not have loved them.

TM

Not that it helps ... you and your wife did nothing wrong. Life goes sideways for everyone at times and you have to deal with it as it comes. His issues weren't your doing and you went the extra mile week after week to help him. You and your wife are a blessing to him and your entire family, he knew that. It's incredibly difficult dealing with elderly unstable people, you did did everything right.

God bless you and your family and godspeed to your wife's brother. 

My condolences brother. Sorry for your loss. This kind of thing really sucks, you did all you could for him. 

Our condolences May you and your family’s memories give you peace.

Chance asked me to post this for him. 

 

When I was dealing with my grandfather having shot himself, I was getting calls that were never ending. Though everyone meant well, the thought of giving me time to process it didn’t cross their minds. Everyone wanted to know, “what happened”…..  Friends, family, work. It was relentless. I. Just shut my phone off after 4-5 days. It was too much explaining. Over and, over. 

At work, I finally had to be the asshole and say, have you ever fucking considered work is currently my escape from all this shit. People sometimes are incapable of reading the room. 

I’m saying this because looking back, that was one thing that really bothered me. I needed time to process it. 

It took a long time to readjust. Not reach for the phone when something popped up that I wanted to share with him out of habit. I didn’t have anyone to lean on because I had responsibilities as a father. My wife tried to be there but, I was a mess. 

I buried what I was dealing with because I didn’t want to talk about what I saw. The blood. The mess I had to clean up. 

It comes out in my sleep. I dream about it once a month or, so. Even 15 years later. I felt talking didn’t help with what I saw. I can talk about how I feel but, the images are always going to be there. It hurts. At the same time, day to day, it’s a lot easier. Like everything. It takes time.  Just like a MX injury, you have to give yourself time to heal. 

Don’t be afraid to reach out if you need to vent. My number has been forwarded to you. I’m here man. 🤝

"I feel guilty. . . .even tho I shouldn't."

When those guilt feelings arise, just know, we only have control of our own person. At best, we may have influence upon another person but we have no control over what they do or don't do, and you should not (I know it's hard to accept) feel guilty. Whatever someone else does, it was not your doing, you can never control others. This was probably a predetermined outcome and the only influence you may have had, could have been to change the timing. Someone who has the determination to follow through with something like that will not be deterred by your actions.

TM