Wife with a knife 🔪

Thats what I was getting at,  we need more context to how the comments were made , how many times is "a few times over the years"  and what prompted the comments ?    I know that if I said something along the lines of "I'd like to hit that chick from behind"  ,my wife most definitely have a "I'd like to stab you " type of response ......

My wife says bi polar or manic depressive. In other words the bitch has some mental issues you need to get her help before we see your case on tv

Coming from the guy who got offended by a fat chick meme I posted/commented on.  Fucking hilarious. Go clutch them pearls. 

People say things in moments of anger..she might not even realize it came out of her mouth. 

I’d say something like- “Do you realize you said you wanted to stab me?”  If she says yes and doesn’t regret it- well there might be some issues you need to deal with. Get it on a recording and hide the knives..

What I'm saying. 

You threatened me with a knife, here's what happens,  a 9mm pressed to your thinker. 

To fix this, get away as soon as possible. 

What do I know? Well, over 40 years of togetherness.

If she or I ever said that, I'm assuming that's how it would go, either way. 

I agree with Mav here regarding group counseling or at best a Profesionall who can also deal with anger management.

She is your wife and you love her so it's best to deal with it sooner than later.

Good luck dude.

It goes without saying, but needs to be said:  seek professional guidance.  This is a motocross website, and while it may act as a sounding board, it’s opinions and conjectures.  Your situation requires a level-headed approach that will consider all angles, including your role in your wife’s behavior.  Get ready for some tough questions…

He is seeking professional advice- why do you think he started this thread? It’s also free..

Reading the replies there is nothing a so called “professional “ would be able to add to this..except he will get charged $$

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I'm no Dr but she's probably going to stab you some day, bro 

There’s always one asshole who thinks he’s a Billy bad ass and feels the need to comment. Pay no attention to him. It’s usually best to ignore trolls anyways because giving them no response makes them go away. 

Anyways, without knowing your wife’s history makes it hard to give any solid advice. Has she had a history of depression? Some people have personalities where they’d 100% say something like that as a complete joke. I assume she does not have that type of personality since you’re seeking advice. 

Has she ever been physically abusive toward you? Emotionally abusive? Is she the jealous type? Outside of that one comment, have you noticed a change in her personality or has she recently had a much shorter fuse? Has she started any new medications such as SSRI’s, anti depression, stimulants (such as adderal) etc? Unfortunately through my career I see a lot of people change dramatically when prescribed new medications. A very high number of mental health situations are related to a recent change in medications. 

I like to say, "my wife went through menopause...and I never recovered". Or as my step son likes to say, "When mom was being mean to you"

Must say, I've never had a woman threaten to stab me, not even any gun play or death threats ...but I have had a couple of things thrown at me . Luckily my wives throw like girls and the objects came nowhere near me.

You asked, and you couldn't handle any opinions other than being the martyr.

Why bother if you instantly act like your the victim? Two sides to every story and your asking men on the internet instead of addressing your wife.

Grow up.

OP hasn’t been back in a day- Can you get proof of life? 

You ok? Just feels like you are lashing out. 

Maybe you are in your own abusive relationship and are too proud to reach out for help like our friend Chain ChaTTer has?

My dad was or is a manic depressive & other crap, and Extremely Violent.  In& out of mental institutions 71-76 finally we got him committed for a few months .then divorced finally . You monitor every billionth of a second around him. Extremely stressful I had a severe case  of shingles at 9.  He Really wanted to kill me & my mom but not my 2 older sisters.  Intense days on the farm I had to be his shadow all the time.  They,ll delete my post if I say anything about details. I will say it was soo bad I had to kill him. At 9  I found his hidden 1960 buck hunting knife & waited under the bed for hrs.  I thought he was going into the crash mode but he never came home until late.   Is she in her 50,s because in Longview Wa. In 95 after work we hit a packed bar. I get out of the pu & a chic Real crazy says get in the f ing car.  My crew said don’t do it. I did anyway she pulled a butcher knife out from under her seat & said I gonna cut your dick off. Haha . I told her put the knife down or I,ll cut your tits off. Haha . We get to her house on a mtn & she’s crying talking about her x,s .  To the OP if she talks to like that . For sure she’s abusing the kids.  Some are pretty crafty yank  a cord out of a lamp . Then into the nose, ear, genatals, etc.  and say don’t tell daddy because you,ll get into big trouble & not hv mommy & daddy . And it will be all your fault .  That yelling kids really don’t like that either. If you hv a girl she thinks it’s normal to threaten boys with knifes. Etc. 

Yikes! OP may want to reconsider talking to a profeshenal…

In addition to chatting with your wife and getting some sort of couples counseling going I'd highly recommend some personal counseling. Life isn't meant to be experienced alone and the fact that you don't have anyone you feel comfortable talking with about this stuff – not even with your closest friends – is such a massive (and unnecessary) weight to carry on your own.

With that said, try and keep your chat this weekend as calm as possible. Don't get heated, don't bring up anything outside of this very specific thing that is bugging you, don't be afraid of taking pauses, it's not about winning, and if it takes even the slightest of bad turns don't be afraid to stop the conversation and suggest a couples counselor; but do it in a way where the stance is, "we need someone to help us communicate", because I know a lot of people get edgy when they hear "therapist".

Best of luck.

I would say not taking immediate action on the threat has enabled her to get away with it and in her mind you are deserving of the act.

I would call police NOW and get it on the record. You are enabling this person to get away with a menacing threat.

If she gets taken away for evaluation and is found to be ok then a rational person would understand why you had her checked out a d things could be smoothed over after her return.

If taken away and a problem is found you saved your and possibly your kids lives.

I would wonder if any threats were made to the children?   GL

I swear a handful of posts up I read an admission of murder...but sometimes the spelling and lack of paragraphs throws me off the scent. 🤔

The therapy is good advice but the advice to get things on record is also good advice.  People can be wild, this could be nothing or it could. I have a friend who went through a divorce and the woman was very threatening. At first he brushed it off and then it escalated to attacks, abuse, restraining order.  She finally got arrested for breaking the order and tried to fight the cops while getting arrested.  Trust your gut but don't avoid getting help/resources.

1- Most important step ……leave your phone at home

2-ask the potential slasher to go for a walk/hike in the outskirts of the tree line

3- have the kids at her parents for the weekend

4-become the slasher enough that it wont be fatal, leave that to the wildlife to take care of the body and parts

5-make sure there has been no witnesses 

6-Have a planned weekend away for just your self during the same weekend

7- make sure you followed step 1. If you didn’t  then be a model inmate and you be out in 15 yrs

Dude what the hell?

Violence, or the threat of it should be zero absolute fucking no tolerance in a family home with children, fucking zero tolerance. That being said, what do you do to piss her off that bad, why did you allow it the first time, how long has this been going on? Lot of questions here, but as a father you have one responsibility that trumps all others, your kids. And that includes the safety of your children's parents, say she does stab you, where would they be? Say someone else harms you after all her threats, she would still be a criminal suspect. You two parents have to have an adult converation, you quit pissing her off, and she stop threatening to destroy your children's lives by stabbing you - which that would be the situation if it all came to reality. You two parents would somehow go on with your lives, but your innocent children would be fucked over, if they aren't already considering God knows what you and their mom are saying to one another besides threatening slayings. Honest suggestion, set aside ten - fifteen minutes a night to pray together as a family to give yourselves the strength and patience to overcome this. Good luck pal.

It should make your blood boil! 

Plenty of good advice. I didn’t read all of it, so sorry if it’s already been said. But healthy boundaries need to be set. It should be known that saying such a thing is absolutely off limits. 

Until you have a sit-down/face-to-face, you might want to pump the brakes a little. Some of these guys giving advise are a little wild. Sounds like you've had a few days apart, which is good, and you need to do something.