How does a parent get over this?

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So sad, I couldn't even imagine-http://www.foxnews.com/us/2016/06/15/child-reportedly-dragged-into-lago…
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MR. X 6/15/2016 4:58am
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Saw that this morning, as a new parent ,I couldn't imagine all the hindsight and what ifs that would consume a parent of something like that.
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IWreckALot 6/15/2016 5:07am
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That's a pretty crazy and heartbreaking story. They said they've captured 4 alligators from that area already and none of them appear to be the culprit. I'm not sure what they look for to determine if it's the guilty gator.
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MudPup545 6/15/2016 5:16am
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Gutted for this family. Unreal pain they must be suffering. Terrible....so sorry for them.
Motocross83 6/15/2016 5:53am
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Horrible tragedy, almost unthinkably awful even for an adult victim. I read this comment about the story this morning...

"We were there a few months ago. We asked about alligators in that lake. The boat employee told us they come out at night and can be seen with flashlights. The employee told us that when the alligators get over two feet in length, they are caught and relocated. Guess this one was never trapped. Sad story..."

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TommyLee93 6/15/2016 6:40am
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IWreckALot wrote:
That's a pretty crazy and heartbreaking story. They said they've captured 4 alligators from that area already and none of them appear to be the culprit...
That's a pretty crazy and heartbreaking story. They said they've captured 4 alligators from that area already and none of them appear to be the culprit. I'm not sure what they look for to determine if it's the guilty gator.
Four alligators had already been caught in the lagoon and euthanized early Wednesday morning, but no evidence had been found indicating any of those reptiles were responsible for attacking the boy, a Florida Fish and Wildlife official said.
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JRT812 6/15/2016 7:26am
6/15/2016 7:26am
Heartbreaking... I really feel for the family. I hate to imagine the helpless feeling the father must have felt after he was unable to retrieve the child.
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Jakes Dad 6/15/2016 7:27am
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Having lived in Fl. 32 years one thing you learn do not take pets or kids near the edge of water after sunset. Gotta be gut wrenching for that Dad. Seems a lot more rain through the winter and spring has them moving about more.
GeorgiePorgie 6/15/2016 9:04am
6/15/2016 9:04am
I don't think you can get over that. That families broken for life. They'll divorce. The mother will despise the father. That's tradgic. Can't even imagine what's going to happen.
el moto diablo 6/15/2016 9:08am
6/15/2016 9:08am
IWreckALot wrote:
That's a pretty crazy and heartbreaking story. They said they've captured 4 alligators from that area already and none of them appear to be the culprit...
That's a pretty crazy and heartbreaking story. They said they've captured 4 alligators from that area already and none of them appear to be the culprit. I'm not sure what they look for to determine if it's the guilty gator.
They look for little boy limbs inside their belly. Euthanize is the nice way of saying "kill and slice open belly".
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Cygnus 6/15/2016 9:23am
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IWreckALot wrote:
That's a pretty crazy and heartbreaking story. They said they've captured 4 alligators from that area already and none of them appear to be the culprit...
That's a pretty crazy and heartbreaking story. They said they've captured 4 alligators from that area already and none of them appear to be the culprit. I'm not sure what they look for to determine if it's the guilty gator.
el moto diablo wrote:
They look for little boy limbs inside their belly. Euthanize is the nice way of saying "kill and slice open belly".
Gators like their food rotten for the most part. They will store it until ripe so to speak.
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PalerBlue 6/15/2016 9:34am
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I've heard of couples having their small children stolen there. All too easy, apparently.
el moto diablo 6/15/2016 10:53am
6/15/2016 10:53am
PalerBlue wrote:
I've heard of couples having their small children stolen there. All too easy, apparently.
Disney is a haven for pedophiles. You have to keep an eye out, they are everywhere. I did some volunteer work a few years back and because the organization dealt with minors I had to be vetted and go through training. Some of the courses dealt with identifying child abusers and pedophiles in public.
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PalerBlue 6/15/2016 11:30am
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With several hundreds of distracted and excited parents and children all the time, it's got to be like shooting fish in a barel for those sickos.
el moto diablo 6/15/2016 11:37am
6/15/2016 11:37am
There are cases too where they are only looking to make contact. Brushing their crotch against kids in a crowd, grazing kids with their hands as they walk by. Very subtle and often goes unnoticed.
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peelout 6/15/2016 11:43am
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holy shit... my heart sank reading that article
Andy_Greenney 6/15/2016 1:30pm
6/15/2016 1:30pm
Bit off topic, would it be hard to have wristbands that link a child to a certain adult on entry to the park. Child and said adult can only leave as a pair....just a thought
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JAFO92 6/15/2016 1:52pm
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Andy_Greenney wrote:
Bit off topic, would it be hard to have wristbands that link a child to a certain adult on entry to the park. Child and said...
Bit off topic, would it be hard to have wristbands that link a child to a certain adult on entry to the park. Child and said adult can only leave as a pair....just a thought
Awesome idea.
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Falcon 6/15/2016 2:36pm
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Andy_Greenney wrote:
Bit off topic, would it be hard to have wristbands that link a child to a certain adult on entry to the park. Child and said...
Bit off topic, would it be hard to have wristbands that link a child to a certain adult on entry to the park. Child and said adult can only leave as a pair....just a thought
JAFO92 wrote:
Awesome idea.
How does a parent get over this? He doesn't.



Oooops, didn't mean to quote. Although that is a good idea.

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newmann 6/15/2016 3:36pm
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Every parent I know who has lost a kid due to some tragedy never seems to "get over" it. It changes them, you can see it in their face and their mannerisms. They might get better, but not over it. Sad to see. As bad as it sounds, at least they know what happened to their kid at Disney. The ones that just disappear....that really screws people up.
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MudPup545 6/15/2016 6:20pm
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Andy_Greenney wrote:
Bit off topic, would it be hard to have wristbands that link a child to a certain adult on entry to the park. Child and said...
Bit off topic, would it be hard to have wristbands that link a child to a certain adult on entry to the park. Child and said adult can only leave as a pair....just a thought
Disney is extremely good when it comes to tracking parents/kids. We went on a Disney cruise last year. The kids had wrist bands that allowed them into age specific areas. They were monitored non-stop to the the specific location they were at. Only authorized persons were allowed to check them out of the area. My wife registered herself as a safe person. Not me (we assumed I'd automatically be allowed). I was not allowed to pick up my own kids. What happened at Disneyworld was a very tragic, horrible incident.
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FLmxer 6/15/2016 6:50pm
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We were having the best vacation at Animal kingdom lodge in Orlando then the bar shooting and then this poor family. Really sad for them.
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kzizok 6/15/2016 7:08pm
6/15/2016 7:08pm Edited Date/Time 6/15/2016 7:09pm
Ive been in and out of this thread today. Just makes me sick to my stomach. There have been several people say the same thing I thought as soon as I saw your question.

This is something I dont think you get over.
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APLMAN99 6/15/2016 7:09pm
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Never been to Disney World, but at Disneyland about a decade ago they had what seemed to be a ton of security folks in place. I remember being in a shop at Downtown Disney and I noticed this guy kept watching my two older kids (11 and 9) while I was herding my 5 and 3 year olds. I approached a clerk to tell them that they better call security because I was about to pummel the guy, and the clerk explained that the guy was actually security himself and that they are trained to pay special attention to parents with 2+ kids per adult to make sure that kids that 'wander' are not scooped up, etc. The security guy was brought over to talk to me, turns out that his team of 4 were assigned to that single store and right outside of it for half the day, then rotated with another team. I felt a lot better after that. He said that there are hundreds of personnel doing that each day, usually in 2 or 4 person teams throughout the park.

This alligator incident it just tragic. Sounds like it's the first incident like it in 45 years, with tens of millions of visitors and interactions. I think most would have assumed that the activity was safe, both parents and the park.

I have to admit that my eyes were slightly moister than usual when I first read about this.

On a side note, we were in line for a water ride at Six Flags over Texas about 30+ years ago when the ride was shut down because a snake fell into a boat. This was before the interwebs gave you instant info, so I'm not entirely sure if the word that a young girl was bitten or not was true, but I certainly didn't get into another water ride that involved caves for a really long time.

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kzizok 6/15/2016 7:23pm
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Speaking for myself, this has been a week that has reminded me to put things back in perspective. I often run through my daily tasks on the treadmill of life, but I have been given pause. I hug my boys a little more and tell them I love them a little more. I only hope for comfort for all affected by these tragedies.
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JRT812 6/15/2016 7:48pm
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Nicely said kzizok
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Jimmy_Sloan 6/15/2016 8:00pm
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The parents will never get over this. The dad tried to get his son away from the alligator but couldn't do it. He has to be thinking, "what if...." So sad and my prayers go out the family of that toddler.
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ledger 6/15/2016 8:24pm
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JRT812 wrote:
Nicely said kzizok
Yep, agree. I can't help but think of the father trying to save his son, that alone, will probably be a living nightmare. Losing a child is tragic in any situation, I think I would have went into shock if I had to be in the shoes of that dad. Like newmann said, a parent doesn't get over it and they take on a different look, their lives just drastically changed. They will most likely need professional help and a lot of support. God bless them all.
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sumdood 6/15/2016 9:02pm
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Can't even imagine trying to get through day to day life after that. Hope they find the strength to somehow carry on with some semblance of peace but I don't think I could. Was that their only child ?
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Calihusky 6/15/2016 9:29pm
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I don't think you can get over it. It's just a terrible incident. I do hope that this is an eye opener for Disney to do something about the alligator problem. The crazy thing is as a kid we would go to Disney every year and not only did we swim in that exact lake but I water skied in it and there used to be a water park called River Country where all the slides emptied out into the lake. It later closed down and I guess there are no swimming signs up now but who would have guessed the signs are because of alligators!
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Foghorn 6/15/2016 9:37pm
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The toddler's intact body was found this afternoon. I can't imagine how sad this would be for the parents, but at least they have the solace of having his body back.

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