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suzuki rider
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Edited Date/Time 5/12/2012 6:43am
As a kid, do you think it is unreasonable for your parents to buy you new/bigger gear? especially protective gear? I need a new helmet and my dad is such a cheap bastard he wont buy me a new helmet even though mine is 3 years old and the foam is pressed in a couple places from the bike falling over while the helmet was on the handlebar. Do you think im being reasonable by asking them to buy me a new one? let me know, cuz you would think that a mom or dad would want their child safe to the extent that they would buy them a proper fitting helmet?...idk maybe its just me.
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5/10/2012 10:17pm
As a kid, do you think it is unreasonable for your parents to buy you new/bigger gear? especially protective gear? I need a new helmet and...
As a kid, do you think it is unreasonable for your parents to buy you new/bigger gear? especially protective gear? I need a new helmet and my dad is such a cheap bastard he wont buy me a new helmet even though mine is 3 years old and the foam is pressed in a couple places from the bike falling over while the helmet was on the handlebar. Do you think im being reasonable by asking them to buy me a new one? let me know, cuz you would think that a mom or dad would want their child safe to the extent that they would buy them a proper fitting helmet?...idk maybe its just me.
As a parent, I need more information before answering correctly. If you need a new helmet, I might buy you a new one or I might not (if not, I would not let you ride your bike for the time being as the safer solution). How are your grades? How much help are you around the house? Are you old enough to get a part time job, save the money, and buy your own? Having a motorcycle at your age is a privilege, not a right. You earn the right to ride it as well as get new gear, etc. That is earned in our house by getting good grades, not misbehaving, helping around the house, and being an overall good kid. My son (nicknamed T Bone) is a very good kid who helps and gets good grades. So when he needs stuff, we buy it for him. If he acts up, well the bike and gear sits for a while.
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5/10/2012 10:19pm
Not to be a dick but I have 2 points against your thoughts.
1. If you ride the bike shown in the picture which looks to be a big bike then you are probably old enough to get a job. But it yourself.
2. Maybe the reason you are not getting new stuff is because you didn't take care of your old stuff. IE... Multiple dents in the foam from the bike falling over. Possibly meaning it fell over onto the helmet MULTIPLE times. Once is an accident. 2 and up is carelessness.
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5/10/2012 10:30pm Edited Date/Time 5/10/2012 10:42pm
well Im 23 so Im younger and can sort of relate...My mom and dad made around 80K+ a year while I was growing up. While growing up I had to pay for all of my bikes at least some, including paying half for my PW 50 from money that was given to the family for us when we were born. I paid for all of my 125 and all but the downpayment for my 85. I've had to buy all of my clothes, not just motocross gear, since I was like 13. I paid for my shoes and other motocross gear, everything. Had to pay my own insurance (all of it) since I was 17, cell phone, etc.. Personally, it wouldnt hurt you to pay for the gear yourself.

But, if you can convince them to pay for your stuff, then more power to ya. I know it does suck to be spending your own money when a lot of friends or ppl your age dont have to, but it will teach you more responsibility, which is not very common these days.

btw my two Fox V3 helmets are from like 2006, take care of your stuff and it will take care of you. One is a Whitewall, still the best looking V3 to come out yet.
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5/10/2012 10:38pm
Geezus.....it's fuggin ronron around here these days........

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bullpen58
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5/10/2012 10:46pm
Your dad is gonna shoot your helmet with his .45 and post video of it on facebook when he sees this post.
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5/10/2012 10:47pm
Hmmmmm,you get on a public forum and insult the man you expect to buy you a new helmet.........
I'm sure the sympathy will come pouring down for you.
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5/10/2012 10:50pm
If my kids ever call me a cheap bastard... I'll make sure I lived up to the name.
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5/10/2012 10:51pm
As a kid, do you think it is unreasonable for your parents to buy you new/bigger gear? especially protective gear? I need a new helmet and...
As a kid, do you think it is unreasonable for your parents to buy you new/bigger gear? especially protective gear? I need a new helmet and my dad is such a cheap bastard he wont buy me a new helmet even though mine is 3 years old and the foam is pressed in a couple places from the bike falling over while the helmet was on the handlebar. Do you think im being reasonable by asking them to buy me a new one? let me know, cuz you would think that a mom or dad would want their child safe to the extent that they would buy them a proper fitting helmet?...idk maybe its just me.
I had a paper route and then got other jobs to pay for my mx stuff as a kid. Saved up for a while and got myself a badass Shoei vfx when they first came out. Moral of the story, work for your own shit!
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5/10/2012 10:58pm
lolol okay i see your guyses point. ill just do a bunch of chores and save up some money or something. for the record though ive tried to get a job at a couple places and it didnt work Sad . im not the only one who calls him a cheap bastard though haha. quite a few of my friends agree.
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5/10/2012 10:59pm
As a kid, do you think it is unreasonable for your parents to buy you new/bigger gear? especially protective gear? I need a new helmet and...
As a kid, do you think it is unreasonable for your parents to buy you new/bigger gear? especially protective gear? I need a new helmet and my dad is such a cheap bastard he wont buy me a new helmet even though mine is 3 years old and the foam is pressed in a couple places from the bike falling over while the helmet was on the handlebar. Do you think im being reasonable by asking them to buy me a new one? let me know, cuz you would think that a mom or dad would want their child safe to the extent that they would buy them a proper fitting helmet?...idk maybe its just me.
TbonesPop wrote:
As a parent, I need more information before answering correctly. If you need a new helmet, I might buy you a new one or I might...
As a parent, I need more information before answering correctly. If you need a new helmet, I might buy you a new one or I might not (if not, I would not let you ride your bike for the time being as the safer solution). How are your grades? How much help are you around the house? Are you old enough to get a part time job, save the money, and buy your own? Having a motorcycle at your age is a privilege, not a right. You earn the right to ride it as well as get new gear, etc. That is earned in our house by getting good grades, not misbehaving, helping around the house, and being an overall good kid. My son (nicknamed T Bone) is a very good kid who helps and gets good grades. So when he needs stuff, we buy it for him. If he acts up, well the bike and gear sits for a while.
damn you sounds so much like my parents its not even right haha. about the "its a privilege not a right." they say that to me all the time.
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5/10/2012 11:01pm
bullpen58 wrote:
Your dad is gonna shoot your helmet with his .45 and post video of it on facebook when he sees this post.
Your dad is gonna shoot your helmet with his .45 and post video of it on facebook when he sees this post.
luckily hes not into social media
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5/10/2012 11:05pm
I know it sucks man, I watched a lot of people with nicer stuff or just stuff their parents bought them and it sucks knowing you had to pay for yours and you dont always have that extra money, but thats life sometimes. Sell some old gear/stuff on ebay to get some extra cash.
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5/10/2012 11:06pm
lolol okay i see your guyses point. ill just do a bunch of chores and save up some money or something. for the record though ive...
lolol okay i see your guyses point. ill just do a bunch of chores and save up some money or something. for the record though ive tried to get a job at a couple places and it didnt work Sad . im not the only one who calls him a cheap bastard though haha. quite a few of my friends agree.
Haha right on, are your friends rich/spoiled cunts? Just keep lookin for jobs, get one, save up and then you can really give it to your old man when you have a bad ass bike and bad ass gear. You can heckle him as your rev your engine in his driveway and be like "hey, check out my sick moto ride you ol cheap bastard!" Smile
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5/10/2012 11:16pm Edited Date/Time 5/10/2012 11:16pm
your parents are actually doing you a giant favor and you don't even know it yet. Smile you want something cool, work for it.


you will understand in about 10-15 yrs
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5/10/2012 11:23pm
dboivin wrote:
your parents are actually doing you a giant favor and you don't even know it yet. :) you want something cool, work for it. you will...
your parents are actually doing you a giant favor and you don't even know it yet. Smile you want something cool, work for it.


you will understand in about 10-15 yrs
yeah they have always encouraged me to save up and like practice good economic stuff
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5/10/2012 11:44pm
lolol okay i see your guyses point. ill just do a bunch of chores and save up some money or something. for the record though ive...
lolol okay i see your guyses point. ill just do a bunch of chores and save up some money or something. for the record though ive tried to get a job at a couple places and it didnt work Sad . im not the only one who calls him a cheap bastard though haha. quite a few of my friends agree.
seth505 wrote:
Haha right on, are your friends rich/spoiled cunts? Just keep lookin for jobs, get one, save up and then you can really give it to your...
Haha right on, are your friends rich/spoiled cunts? Just keep lookin for jobs, get one, save up and then you can really give it to your old man when you have a bad ass bike and bad ass gear. You can heckle him as your rev your engine in his driveway and be like "hey, check out my sick moto ride you ol cheap bastard!" Smile
yeah a couple of them haha, not many. i guess that's just the way do do it, well i gotta start working sometime so i might as well start now. but yeah my dad got a 450 and im still 5x faster than him :D
5/11/2012 4:27am
I am 18 years old and i have never asked my parents to buy me anything moto related unless it is my birthday or maybe christmas. I have had to pay for all the bikes ive owned and i pay for all my gear. Now get a job and quit complaining.
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5/11/2012 5:25am Edited Date/Time 5/11/2012 5:26am
dboivin wrote:
your parents are actually doing you a giant favor and you don't even know it yet. :) you want something cool, work for it. you will...
your parents are actually doing you a giant favor and you don't even know it yet. Smile you want something cool, work for it.


you will understand in about 10-15 yrs
Beat me to it. You should thank your dad, not call him names on a public forum.

..and if any "friend" of mine ever talked shit on my dad, I damn sure wouldn't allow it. Sounds like you need a job and a lesson on respect.
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5/11/2012 5:31am
Don't put your helmet on the handlebar of your bike.
Clean it up, and put it away.
Problem solved.
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5/11/2012 5:56am
I agree with all the parents above. My 12 year old is into RC cars now and his I Touch, RC car , Skull Candy Headphones and all his cool stuff he wanted and he paid for with his own money. When his RC car breaks , it sits until he has enough money to buy the parts. We he raced MX , we paid for it all as he was under 10 and his allowance was not going to pay for much. He just had to keep his grades up , help around the house and stay out of trouble for which he did all the above. So later on this fall we are going to get back into riding as he is healed up enough from his injuries and if he is doing good in school, staying out of trouble and doing summer jobs around the neighborhood , we will help him out to get all the gear and bike. If he takes care of his stuff, and it breaks though normal use, then chances are we will pay for it. If he trashes on the gear it breaks and we don't pay for it, he better not get on a public forum and call us cheap bastards.......... then bike gets sold and story ends....
5/11/2012 6:00am
Why can't you get a job and buy your own shit?
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5/11/2012 6:04am
Why can't you get a job and buy your own shit?
Then he might not have time to talk shit about his dad online!
5/11/2012 6:09am
Why can't you get a job and buy your own shit?
MtnBoy wrote:
Then he might not have time to talk shit about his dad online!
Oh yeah, on his free internet service.
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5/11/2012 6:19am Edited Date/Time 5/11/2012 6:26am
My folks didn't want me to have a motorcycle, so they said, "If you can buy it with your own money, you can have one"...never thinking I would actually do it. I cut tall heads out of the Milo fields all summer for $1.25/hr, then sold my 4-H sheep at the end of the summer. I earned $600.00 that summer and bought my Hodaka Super Rat and Captian America stars and stripes helmet...much to my parents chagrin Laughing
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5/11/2012 6:35am
lolol okay i see your guyses point. ill just do a bunch of chores and save up some money or something. for the record though ive...
lolol okay i see your guyses point. ill just do a bunch of chores and save up some money or something. for the record though ive tried to get a job at a couple places and it didnt work Sad . im not the only one who calls him a cheap bastard though haha. quite a few of my friends agree.
I used to hear that BS from my kids all the time, "tried to get a job but no one is hiring" Yet the motivated kid next door (same age as my kids) got A's in school and worked 2 jobs and never had trouble finding a job. With all due respect to your father, he should take the bike AWAY from you until YOU get enough money to buy a helmet on your own. Wrong place to complain at, 99.9999% of us on the forum worked our asses off as a kid and in adult to get the things in life we want. Grow up and do the same.
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5/11/2012 6:46am Edited Date/Time 5/11/2012 6:49am
If all you are looking for is a helmet you should be able to figure out a way to scrap up 300-500 bucks. If you ride moto I'm sure you can also do manual labor. If you look hard enough around the neighborhood I'm sure there is someone that needs stuff sorted, yard work done, a stagnant pool prepped for summer or something. If you are in a rural area even better. If you can't do it in a month when you are living at home without expenses you need to change something.
I'm about to be a parent and if my kid(s) want to get involved in mx or some other expensive hobby it will depend on me initially I'm sure. Of course I will figure out ways to make them "earn" the stuff they get through chores/doing good in school or whatever but it's unrealistic to think a kid is going to grow up paying for all the shit required to be a racer (not even at the national level) until they are about your age anyway. Anyone that thinks they paid for all the stuff from day one and was seriously into racing is kidding themselves, maybe they paid with their hard earned allowance.
Anyway, I did pay for my first bike (a roached cr80) with a sack of money, the last $25 bucks or so in change because I got into riding late, at 14. My mom bought all the gear, a super trick Bieffe helmet, mismatched by color and year Oneal pants and jersey and the paper thin knee/shin combo guards, all from the discontinued bargain bin. I did get some Fox Tracker boots after my first trip to the ER for stiches after wearing oversized construction boots, I know, I was factory. By 15 I was working monday-friday after school and got my first real bike, a YZ125 that even with the job, and no expenses, required Mom's help. That bike and later a RM125 would get me through high school and out of the house. The job was enough to get me to practice and the occasional race as well as keep the bikes in good shape. Besides Moto, food and a movie once every month or so was all I spent my money on and I worked at shop with an awesome employee discount. The point is if you are paying for everything at 6-18 years old you are a bad ass junior entrepreneur.
-As far as your case, your biggest problem is that you approached the situation with a sense of entitlement that is undeserved. Whether or not your dad is cheap by any measure, you aren't making any progress bitching. If you go and seek out ways to help yourself at best you get what you want and the worse that could happen is you don't get it but at least you aren't perceived as a bitch. Chances are he will respect you more anyway, who knows, he may even offer to pay half.
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5/11/2012 7:30am
My advice: Keep looking for a job, help your parents around the house, and try to be a good kid. Change your entitlement mentality, otherwise the real world is going to be rude awakening when you get older.

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