Stepping Away From Riding

R VanKamp77
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8/24/2022 5:25am
yz133rider wrote:
Dude. Matty, this hits home I’m two days into starting grad school, and have a race Saturday that all of a sudden is very much in...
Dude. Matty, this hits home I’m two days into starting grad school, and have a race Saturday that all of a sudden is very much in jeopardy.

The work load is insane on top of working full time, commuting, I’m not sure I can lose all of Saturday and then half of Sunday being wrecked from Saturday.


Sheeesh.
Hey man, same shoes. My grad school began early summer. I lost 2 total weekends since June 1st (not counting weather), and one of them was my wife's birthday, the other a church trip. I'm also a bi-vocational pastor. I don't burn at both ends, I melted the candle for fuel and torch it. Here's an e-pat-on-the-back to keep going lol.

You're only ever one ice cold monster a way from glory (and sleep deprivation at work) Cheerful
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DoctorJD
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8/24/2022 5:26am
I quit racing in 89'. On a whim I bought a YZ250 in 91' only to sell it shortly thereafter to buy my wife's engagement ring. Fast-forward to 2004. My son was 6 years old and I bought him a JR50 and myself a CRF250R. We continued to ride until he went to college in 2016.

I was amazed at how much of riding was intuitive, and how my mind/body still did things (on the bike) so instinctively after 15 years off the bike. The biggest hurdle for me was the mental side. Something about having two kids, a mortgage, a job, a wife, that limits the "send it" response in your brain. Not saying that I didn't still enjoy riding, but it was frustrating at times when I couldn't find the courage to do some jumps that I used to do so casually earlier in my life.

You'll be okay. Find another passion in the meantime. Mountain biking was/is mine.
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R VanKamp77
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8/24/2022 5:32am
Some of the replies indicate that safety become a priority. So I have a question: If tracks were specifically designed to be safe and penalty free, would that sway you to keep riding? Soft dirt, penalty free jumps, penalty free corners, no trees and stakes on the track, and consistent prep.
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GG121
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I just got back into it after 8 years away. I grew up racing, this sport was my entire life from when I was on a PW50 to racing 250B. Then I moved away to college and there was simply no way to ride. I found other passions to pass the time, always knowing I would eventually come back to motocross when the time was right. I'm 26, getting married next year, and now I get to teach my fiance how to change the oil on a 125. My advice to you, you should try to keep a bike around if you can. Get an old yz 2 stroke and park it in the garage. My dad stopped riding when I was little to focus on my racing, and for his sake, I wish he didn't. I could tell he missed it, and I wished I could have experienced being able to ride with my dad growing up.
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8/24/2022 5:47am
EnvyMedia wrote:
Any of you stepped away because you don’t “have it” any more? I’m considering stopping because I just don’t dare to go above 60% because I...
Any of you stepped away because you don’t “have it” any more? I’m considering stopping because I just don’t dare to go above 60% because I can’t get hurt and miss work. And I hate that I’m much slower now than I was at one point.
I was never all that fast at my best, but over the last 20 years I’ve just accepted that I’ll get a little slower every year. I know at this point I absolutely haven’t accepted quitting again. At 57 I don’t know if I have one year or 20 years left and I really don’t know how I’ll know whenever it’s time to be done, but I know now isn’t it!

I think it’s easier for guys to get slower when they were never really fast to begin with!
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8/24/2022 7:30am
Matty, I'd look at it a different way--you're not stepping away, you're just in between motos. I have often had breaks over the past 45 years, anywhere from a month to a year or more depending on how busy life got. But I recommend you always keep the bike around, and here's why. You will absolutely love spending time with the kids and family, but you also need time for you, and it is possible for you to get a little bitter and never even know it / see it yourself. Mot is one of the greatest forms of therapy I've ever known--don't underestimate the value of that to YOUR sanity.

Just my 2 cents, but it's coming from a place of brotherly love and experience!
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JK BRO
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8/24/2022 7:54am
Nothing wrong with stepping away. Absence makes the heart grow fonder my friend.

Hobby #1 BBQ

I step away from riding every summer, the heat is brutal so we do the lake thing as a family, tube, wakesurf, fish, chill. Wife/kids always enjoy the water and being on the boat means were all there together.
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8/24/2022 7:59am Edited Date/Time 8/24/2022 8:00am
EnvyMedia wrote:
Any of you stepped away because you don’t “have it” any more? I’m considering stopping because I just don’t dare to go above 60% because I...
Any of you stepped away because you don’t “have it” any more? I’m considering stopping because I just don’t dare to go above 60% because I can’t get hurt and miss work. And I hate that I’m much slower now than I was at one point.
Gravel wrote:
I was never all that fast at my best, but over the last 20 years I’ve just accepted that I’ll get a little slower every year...
I was never all that fast at my best, but over the last 20 years I’ve just accepted that I’ll get a little slower every year. I know at this point I absolutely haven’t accepted quitting again. At 57 I don’t know if I have one year or 20 years left and I really don’t know how I’ll know whenever it’s time to be done, but I know now isn’t it!

I think it’s easier for guys to get slower when they were never really fast to begin with!
I reckon you're onto something, I was always slow and am only going backwards now, however the priority of riding has changed.

I'm not so worried about the speed anymore and more into proper technique, well rounded skills, developing how I can within or not as far outside of my comfort zone, and having a reason to build then maintain fitness and whatnot.

My girlfriend has hurt herself worse playing basketball than she has on her 125 and personally I've hurt myself worse on DH and Jump bikes and BMXs than stuff with engines, however again I believe that is because I've never been fast enough or hit stuff I wasn't pretty sure I was ready for.

Either way, I'm probably digressing, but for sure make sure you do something to keep yourself healthy and keep yourself sane even if it's just chasing the kids around while they do their thing 👍
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8/24/2022 8:42am
Just come back when you are ready....it'll be sweeter the next go-around
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8/24/2022 8:54am
I just keep telling myself, it's not my season and this helps me find some patience. Seasons take a long time to pass ... I will get my time to ride, as long as I keep my bike around and in good shape.

Thankfully, my home life is awesome, otherwise I don't know what I would do.
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8/24/2022 9:01am Edited Date/Time 8/24/2022 9:20am
I grew up riding and racing MX, but went to college in west Texas where there is no such thing as motocross (no offense Idalou Raceway). I had no bikes for 7 years during college and grad school. My fiance thought I was kidding when I told her the first thing I'm going to buy after graduation is a dirt bike, she was wrong.

I hooked right back up with my old riding buddies at 25 years old and had a blast until I had a "big one" at about 32 years old. I was deep into my career and had two young kids at home by that time and was kind of over it. Sold the bikes and really got into cycling and chasing my kids' activities. Nothing could ever scratch the itch though, and after a few years or more I got another bike. I don't get to ride often but it's nice to still have a bike in the garage as an option.

I will say this, I sacrificed a lot of weekends with the boys to be a part of or at least present at my kids' activities. We just dropped my oldest off at college last weekend, and I wouldn't trade the time spent with her growing up for anything. I still feel young and I'll have plenty of time to play in a couple of years when we're empty nesters.
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jdub2035
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8/24/2022 9:07am
I stopped riding at 23. My wife and I adopted a little boy and soon after 3 of his siblings. I am 34 now and haven’t gotten a bike for me. But getting these kids bikes and seeing the smile on their faces makes it totally okay for me not to ride. I miss it but I sure do love seeing my kiddos smile and have fun and just ride!
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8/24/2022 9:14am
mattyhamz2 wrote:
For those that have had to step away or chose to step away from riding for an extended period of time, how long were you away...
For those that have had to step away or chose to step away from riding for an extended period of time, how long were you away for and how did you deal with it?

I have unfortunately come to that time in my life where I have to step away from riding completely for now (not that it was much the last few years anyways) to focus on making sure my kids can do the things they want to try and things they enjoy as often as possible. For my son, riding is included in that so at least I’ll be around it still and working with him.

I’m not sure how long it will be, but it will for sure be a while. So how did you guys deal with it?
Are you selling your bike?
Does your son ride at the track or on the trail?
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8/24/2022 9:31am
Walked away from moto due to many injuries and family responsibilities., got the entire family into DH mtn biking, and bought a boat. Life is good.



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8/24/2022 9:31am
Thanks for the responses everyone. I appreciate it a lot.

Definitely not selling any of my stuff since it’s way to expensive to replace once it’s gone, haha! Tools and all that stuff aren’t going either as I’ll have my sons 50 and 65 to keep up on. As much as I’d love to keep the 450 around, it’s up for sale anyways as it’s my dads bike that was going to go towards a 23 for him and I’d be inheriting his 20, but I just can’t justify having a bike of his sitting in my garage decreasing in value and not being ridden. I just can’t do that to him. There is another bike there that I can ride if we somehow find any extra time and money, but for now I’ve accepted that it may be a while before that happens lol.

Thanks again everyone
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8/24/2022 9:37am
mattyhamz2 wrote:
For those that have had to step away or chose to step away from riding for an extended period of time, how long were you away...
For those that have had to step away or chose to step away from riding for an extended period of time, how long were you away for and how did you deal with it?

I have unfortunately come to that time in my life where I have to step away from riding completely for now (not that it was much the last few years anyways) to focus on making sure my kids can do the things they want to try and things they enjoy as often as possible. For my son, riding is included in that so at least I’ll be around it still and working with him.

I’m not sure how long it will be, but it will for sure be a while. So how did you guys deal with it?
TeamGreen wrote:
Are you selling your bike?
Does your son ride at the track or on the trail?
Ya the RMZ is for sale. It’s actually not mine as it was lent to me, blessed with great parents that ended up buying the bike from my sister after her fiancé/my best friend died in 2017. Took me almost 4 years to put 20 hours on the 17. It was being sold to get my pops a new bike and I was going to get his 20 RMZ, but like I said above, I can’t justify the 20 sitting in my garage depreciating while not being ridden. I didn’t feel right with the 17 doing that, but even more so with the 20.
OCgoon1533
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8/24/2022 9:45am
If it's a budget thing, I would definitely not recommend golf.
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8/24/2022 9:46am Edited Date/Time 8/24/2022 9:47am
OCgoon1533 wrote:
If it's a budget thing, I would definitely not recommend golf.
Haha, ya there’s a budget thing to it. So pretty much knocks off anything that costs money to do Laughing
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8/24/2022 9:56am
mattyhamz2 wrote:
For those that have had to step away or chose to step away from riding for an extended period of time, how long were you away...
For those that have had to step away or chose to step away from riding for an extended period of time, how long were you away for and how did you deal with it?

I have unfortunately come to that time in my life where I have to step away from riding completely for now (not that it was much the last few years anyways) to focus on making sure my kids can do the things they want to try and things they enjoy as often as possible. For my son, riding is included in that so at least I’ll be around it still and working with him.

I’m not sure how long it will be, but it will for sure be a while. So how did you guys deal with it?
Until June last year, I was away from riding for roughly 3ish years due to financial and living situation.

How did I deal with it? I honestly didn’t. It’s was eating away at me pretty good and depressing.
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8/24/2022 10:00am
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I hung up the boots in 2015 - The absolute biggest thing that helped was going to my number 2 hobby/passion (golf for me) with the...
I hung up the boots in 2015 -

The absolute biggest thing that helped was going to my number 2 hobby/passion (golf for me) with the same attitude as moto.

Our competitive spirit will never fade, so don’t try and suppress it, just focus is elsewhere that’s a bit safer and easier on the budget.

Also, if you have the means, Matty a side by side was life changing. I can load in the wife and kids and we have an absolute ball. The kids get the experience we all loved being in the dirt, but you have a cage. Plenty of places to go around CA away from the knuckleheads that give side by sides a bad name.

Good on you for putting the wife and kids first, retired life ain’t bad!
Huh? Playing golf with the same attitude as moto? Lol
100% - practice, work on mechanics, do your best to beat the shit out of anyone around you.
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8/24/2022 10:01am
Some of the replies indicate that safety become a priority. So I have a question: If tracks were specifically designed to be safe and penalty free...
Some of the replies indicate that safety become a priority. So I have a question: If tracks were specifically designed to be safe and penalty free, would that sway you to keep riding? Soft dirt, penalty free jumps, penalty free corners, no trees and stakes on the track, and consistent prep.
It exists. It's called vintage racing---and its awesome! Just ask RV2. 😁
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8/24/2022 10:06am
Some of the replies indicate that safety become a priority. So I have a question: If tracks were specifically designed to be safe and penalty free...
Some of the replies indicate that safety become a priority. So I have a question: If tracks were specifically designed to be safe and penalty free, would that sway you to keep riding? Soft dirt, penalty free jumps, penalty free corners, no trees and stakes on the track, and consistent prep.
For myself, yes!
My last big crash resulted in stepping away for about 4 years now .
I’m threatening a return but at tracks like rem etc.
The competitive spirit is very much alive so I need to stay away from the tracks with larger jumps .
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8/24/2022 11:13am
While building a career, and raising kids, I barely rode. I kept a bike, and rode occasionally.
Having a bike, kept the fire alive, even if I wasn't riding much.

If you choose to keep it and ride occasionally, my suggestion is to make sure BOTH your expectations, and your Focus are in line. In my opinion, many crashes are caused simply from not being 100% in the moment.
Riding occasionally can either help or hurt focus. If you're having a day where focus is not there, take it easy, or better yet, skip riding for another day. And if riding once every few months, don't expect to be as fast as you are now. Just take the day as it comes.

Another option I used when raising my family was to find a track with lights, and ride an evening during the week. That left the entire weekend for the family. It worked out well.

Also, mountain biking is incredibly fun. It's not the same adrenaline (or jumps) as MX, but it is very satisfying.
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8/24/2022 11:48am
Dave v3.0 wrote:
I quit riding not long after David Bailey's injury in 1987. Sold everything, quit following moto, got completely away from the sport. Played golf. A LOT...
I quit riding not long after David Bailey's injury in 1987. Sold everything, quit following moto, got completely away from the sport.

Played golf. A LOT of golf. Threw myself into work. Had 2 kids. Learned what non-moto people did on Sunday.

Then I got a call from my doctor one day in 2000 while I was driving thru San Antonio on the interstate. Sir, we hate to tell you...but your that mole biopsy was malignant Melanoma. We have you set up to see a surgeon and an Oncologist. I was 40.

I delt with that for the next 12 months as well as a job downsizing. Decided that enough was enough and figured if I was gonna go out, I was gonna go out swinging. Found a 1981 Husky 430 that needed restoring. Bought a KDX175. Eventually ended up with 14 bikes in the garage.Laughing

Started racing again in 2002. Bought myself a shiney new 2003 Honda CRF450. Started finishing what I started back in 1971. Had another Melanoma diagnosis in 2012. Took care of it and didn't look back. I'll be riding until the day they plant me. Hell, I'm only 62...I've got at least 20 more good years of riding left in me. And I'm down to 7 bikes in the garage. For today.Cool
You're my role model for today Dave. Hell of a story and glad you came back.

Riding keeps you young.

What bikes you got in the garage now?
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RichieW13
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8/24/2022 11:55am Edited Date/Time 8/24/2022 11:56am
I don't see why you would need to stop riding completely. Unless it's mainly a financial issue.

My dad *started* riding dirt bikes when I was about 6 years old. He's still riding 40+ years later, and never stopped during that time. He just found ways to get his riding in and make time for our activities.
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8/24/2022 11:55am
stopped in 2013 or so i think.

until i have a good health care plan like i did when i was a child, im not doing it.

not afraid of getting hurt, afraid of medical debt!

i miss it alot though
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8/24/2022 12:01pm
Dave v3.0 wrote:
I quit riding not long after David Bailey's injury in 1987. Sold everything, quit following moto, got completely away from the sport. Played golf. A LOT...
I quit riding not long after David Bailey's injury in 1987. Sold everything, quit following moto, got completely away from the sport.

Played golf. A LOT of golf. Threw myself into work. Had 2 kids. Learned what non-moto people did on Sunday.

Then I got a call from my doctor one day in 2000 while I was driving thru San Antonio on the interstate. Sir, we hate to tell you...but your that mole biopsy was malignant Melanoma. We have you set up to see a surgeon and an Oncologist. I was 40.

I delt with that for the next 12 months as well as a job downsizing. Decided that enough was enough and figured if I was gonna go out, I was gonna go out swinging. Found a 1981 Husky 430 that needed restoring. Bought a KDX175. Eventually ended up with 14 bikes in the garage.Laughing

Started racing again in 2002. Bought myself a shiney new 2003 Honda CRF450. Started finishing what I started back in 1971. Had another Melanoma diagnosis in 2012. Took care of it and didn't look back. I'll be riding until the day they plant me. Hell, I'm only 62...I've got at least 20 more good years of riding left in me. And I'm down to 7 bikes in the garage. For today.Cool
TriRacer27 wrote:
You're my role model for today Dave. Hell of a story and glad you came back. Riding keeps you young. What bikes you got in the...
You're my role model for today Dave. Hell of a story and glad you came back.

Riding keeps you young.

What bikes you got in the garage now?
Today's assortmentLaughing

2013.5 KTM450 Factory Edition
1974 Ossa Phantom
1972 Maico 400 Radial
1979 Maico 440
1975 Honda CR125
1974 Yamaha YZ80
1976 Yamaha YZ80
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I took a break from 19-26ish, went away to school and didn’t get back into riding till I had my own place again. I just screwed around with pedal bikes the whole time, I always had a mountain bike and bmx on hand so that did a pretty good job of scratching the itch. You’d be surprised how much fun you can have just screwing around on the terrain you find around town.
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resetjet
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8/24/2022 12:39pm
Do some off road stuff. Without the jumps in traffic and lower speeds the risk of substantial injury is lowered if you dont pin it. Great fun too, good for your son as well, even if he still motos you learn to ride in mud, endless whoops, reading trail and general bike skills.
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8/24/2022 12:43pm
Its been 8 years. I still have all my stuff but with 3 kids under 5, i just do……..not……have…….time. I hit the BMX track some with my oldest, and the skatepark as well as some MTB action. My heart says go out and buy 2 new bikes and go for it but i know they’d just sit. Hoping to get back in the saddle before 35 lol.
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