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Oh it took them a while but the dickhead replies did find their way here after all. *slow clap*
I hope Mark is doing okay. The long silence got me a bit scared.
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Don't forget the shit-eating grin while you look at the ceiling for one full minute each morning. It is phenomenally stupid, but it works. You'll start laughing at yourself, I promise.
I’m pretty sure you will feel better after some time and will meet a nice lady. Put the work in, get disciplined and time truly does heal wounds.
It feels shitty for a while but eventually you will come to realize that this is just life and perhaps you are better off without her. Life is just a serious of triumphs and tragedy’s, you gotta roll with them and realize life goes on.
I have no interest in having any contact with my ex. I don’t sit around and reminisce about the good times. It was a period in my life, I learned some valuable lessons and have continued on without her.
First 6 months were pretty devastating, after a year I decided I was ready for a new relationship and I have not looked back since. Your ex is just another one of the many people that will enter and exit your life.
Enjoy your time and freedom while you have it.
davidgoggins
There are a lot of people out here who feel like they are in situations where there is no hope. While it may feel that way, you have to flip it and realize this is the exact situation you want to be in because it actually empowers you.
Imagine you are a family of 5 and you are trapped in a room, there is fire all around and the situation seems dire. While you all are sitting there feeling hopeless, there is that one person in the group who is sounding the wall, looking for the studs within the frame, to identify the 12-18” in which he can break the wall, climb through and get everyone out.
The feeling of hopelessness is designed to work against you not for you. It’s supposed to make you feel like you should throw in the towel, that there is no chance of winning here. But… all those feelings are exactly the challenge you are looking for. If you look at hopelessness as an opportunity to overcome an obstacle, you start seeing the situation as hopeful rather than hopeless.
We can all think of a football or basketball game, etc., when we gave up hope that our team could comeback from the beatdown in the final minutes and we decide to turn the channel or leave the stadium only to get to the car and turn on the radio to hear that in a sudden change of events, the game is now tied or your team pulled out a victory by the narrowest of margins.
There really is no situation that is hopeless if you have the willingness to continue to try. It is this small incremental change in how you look at situations in life that evolves and expands your mindset. You must always believe that it might happen in order to keep moving forward.
Stay hard!
Pit Row
Professional help? What kind of work do you know how to do? I guarantee you this, things change.
But you have to make a decision every morning that you want things to change and change for the better.
After that long it won't change overnight but it also won't change unless you make it change.
Even if you just get up, get dressed, and get out. IF you're feeling that bad about yourself, go
volunteer at a soup kitchen. I guarantee you see people with problems soooo much worse you'll
realize you can overcome this.
TM
I really only have a couple friends I've talked to about this as well as a couple family members. I do have some professional help as well but even with all of those in place I still find it hard, there's still so much free time to let my mind wander. I know everyone says it takes time because 18 years of sharing a life with someone is a lot to get over. And it's not just the end of the relationship, it's being out of work and now having to face the reality that I'm probably going to loose my house. It's just so much lose at one time, and even though I feel like I'm doing as much as I can to get back on track it just feels like it's out of my control, I feel out of touch with everything and everyone around me...disconnected.
I am starting to realize Im going to have to work on changing my mindset because I know it's holding me back, I realize it I just haven't yet been able to apply it. The more I talk with people I notice Im becoming repetitive in my negative thoughts, I guess Im still getting it all out of my system before I can move on. Hopefully now that I'm becoming more aware of things I need to work I can actually start working on them.
Right now you need to find something to feel good about. There's not much better than helping
someone else and seeing them happy from your efforts. Doing this will make you realize you
have something to offer and feel good about yourself. When you realize that there are people that
appreciate you, you will feel better about yourself. And you will build on that.
TM
My wife has worked on a mental health floor for 15+ years at a local hospital, she has seen and heard it all. My only advice from listening to her over the years is to find a Dr that you trust and they will help recover. Often times the only solution is medication….not all the other well intentioned ideas above.
Some times the very best thing a dude could have happen , is a split with a current chick. Because that leaves the door wide open for the next one , that could possibly be better in every single way. I've had relationships end , and thought " I'm probably never going to find another chick as the one I just lost "......oh how wrong I was! Keep your chin up dude. You have no idea what you're missing. The sea is endless , until you really find the right one. Trust me , she's out there.
Around here there are all kinds of jobs available. They might not be (probably wouldn't be) what I would be looking for, if I was looking for a job. But I'm thinking if I was in your situation, I would take the best I could quickly find just in order to 'get out there' and start getting some money coming in and getting back some kind of 'normal' routine. A starting point. But keep looking for better, while doing it. Chances are once you get into something, you will come across something better that you can shift into - but in the meantime, at least with me & my head, just getting that working routine into your life can get your head in a much better place. Even if the actual work isn't what you really want to be doing for very long. Plus you'd be meeting more people while at it, without actually focusing on just meeting new people.
I've been through it many years ago and it was hell but time heals. Once you find something to keep busy with you'll start healing quicker.
Keep checking in here...
I worry if someone is given the impression they can just cure depression by not thinking about it can be dangerous and delay getting real treatment.
That being said, many can suffer from situational depression (such as a breakup or loss of job, loss of a dear pet)- In those cases time will heal, but you don’t typically consider ending your life (not a serious threat). From Mark’s comments I don’t think he has this type of depression..
I haven’t been in your situation, thankfully, but my daughter has gone thru a nasty divorce, and I’ve spent many hours late at night trying to help her. I won’t go into it all, but she actually caught another woman in her house that he had snuck in after she went to bed.
It has been a couple of years since it all blew up and she’s still working on things, but is much better. Time heals.
I just got let back in here after being banned for talking politics, and I may get banned again for bringing up religion, but what the heck… I’m praying for you. Im not trying to push religion on you, but I’d suggest finding a nearby church and talking to the pastor. They are usually really good at counseling people through situations like this. Just give it some thought.
And like others have said, find anything to keep occupied, and keep your head up.
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