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Wherever you are, we make a plan and hook up. Be it a SX or our compound, the treat is on me.
Here's my SA number + *********,* WhatsApp me....anytime..ill be waiting to talk.
Be strong, be positive, adopt a new pup...sure it's shit now but i promise you as time goes by you will become a stronger man and a better man.
I speak for all us Vitards...
At this point I had to go to the hospital for an assessment as it was protocol. Around this time my parents showed up and the police allowed them to drive me to the hospital so I didn't have to ride in the back of the police car. I also had to give up my guns to them, I mean I get it and it's probably the best.
I waited for hours before getting to talk to a doctor and after doing so I was cleared for release. I went through a period of depression a couple years ago and I already have professional help in place that I use on an ongoing basis.
So yea needless to say it's been a pretty rough go the last few days. It's a huge mix of emotions and thoughts right now, I get small little glimours of hope and then the pain and negative thoughts come rushing back. I've spent the last couple nights at my folks house just to get out of my house but it's still painful here as we spent a lot of time and have a lot of memories here as well. The struggle continues.
Thanks again to everyone replying and sharing. I only have a few close friends that I have talked with throughout this but they are also busy with there own lives. And while I think they get it its almost like they don't fully understand the level of low I'm at...this is where you guys have come in, I really feel you guys understand and to share your stories and help out a complete stranger on this subject matter has really restored some sense of faith in humanity. Thank you all, it really does mean a lot!
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You know how you can tell when someone is down? Their body posture, facial expressions and manner of carrying themselves clearly indicates a sad or depressed mood? And how you can clearly tell the opposite, when someone is happy? Well, physiologists say that it works both ways, i.e., that your mood affects your physical being, and vice-versa. In other words, if you carry yourself with a swagger, a smile, and a firm, erect posture, you'll feel better.
Here's your assignment: Every morning, stand up tall, look at the ceiling, and force yourself to put on the biggest, dumbest, shit-eatingest smile you can. You can even chant out "Falcon is a mofo for making me do this." I guarantee if you do that for at least one full minute, it will help. I was skeptical myself, but it works!
My coping mechanism during tough times has always been fitness. It helps especially in a break up because it gives you the endorphin release from the workout, the mental sense of accomplishment, diversion to your thoughts and you're improving your body - which increases confidence and gives you a sense that your next girl will be a massive upgrade.
As I'm sure you're aware as you have 10 years of experience on me, life is a rollercoaster with peaks and valleys. This is the Grand fucking Canyon in your life right now, but in the grand scheme of things it's just another fork in the road.
Personally, I have a unshakable sense of loneliness and unhappiness even when my life is firing on all cylinders and I'm surrounded by people who love and care. No matter what I do I carry a pain and dark cloud, and accomplishment in my career, fitness, personal goals etc. is the only thing that keeps me going.
Keep your head up, Sir.
Falcon is a mofo.
Falcon is a mofo.
Falcon is a mofo.
Falcon is a mofo.
Falcon is a mofo.
Falcon is a mofo.
Falcon is a mofo.
Falcon is a mofo.
Falcon is a mofo.
Falcon is a mofo.
Falcon is a mofo.
That does feel pretty good.
Falcon is a mofo.
Falcon is a mofo.
Falcon is a mofo.
I did hit the weight bench at the house today for a quick set of light bench presses but I'd like to get into a gym for the atmosphere.
I still really haven't been able to eat or drink much and I know that's not helping, it's just hard when I have no appetite.
I did make a phone call today to ask about some work, but nothing available. It was kind of all I could muster for today but I'll have to get on it hard here soon.
A friend dropped off our dog to me today, it was nice to see him but it was also sad at the same time. It was a mixed state of emotions with smiles and tears...fuck sakes.
My phone number is 360-682-8494.
Just let me know it's you and I am willing to talk. Any time...
I don't even know you, but your life is worth a night sitting up talking. And I promise you, there are people who do know you who care even more. Hang in there, and if you need to talk, my line is always open.
He clearly cares, and kicked the door wide open.
You want/need to talk? Here is the number, use it anytime of day/night that you need to.
That is sincere.
You want to get jiggy with it?
Put your number up, and see how many of us crazy mofos (Falcon) will call YOU!
You have an Army of Brothers behind you.
(I see in the other thread that giving a number out will be abused, so I take that back. Always a scoop of shit willing to ruin the strawberries, or however that saying goes.)
Edit: That reads not as I intended so if there's any confusion I'm not calling anyone that tried or has committed suicide a coward. Just hearing a much older man when I was almost a teenager say that really struck a chord with me. He was in WWII and Korea so that may have something to do with his views. It can ALWAYS be worse.
Pit Row
Like most I’ve had several breakups over the years. One in particular really got me down as she moved on quickly and I was wallowing in pity, unable to move on. Another, similar. Both ultimately wound up in one way or another demonstrating that it was a gift to no longer be with them as they turned into train wrecks.
I got divorced in 2018 after 16 yrs with my now ex-wife. I’m the one who initiated it, but she probably would’ve if I hadn’t. Despite knowing 100% that it was the best solution, I went through a phase of complete loneliness and feeling like I had failed at something really big.
Yes, it was fun for awhile (chasing skirts and all that) but those only provided a temporary reprieve. Took some time to hang with friends and work on “me”. Ended up venturing out in the dating world when it was time and met my now-wife. What I realized is that what I thought I needed in a partner in my early 20’s was nowhere near reality…I just knew better in my 40’s. I also spent enough time dissecting what I did to contribute to the demise of my marriage to ensure I was a better partner down the road. The moral is I’m now with an amazing woman who makes me want to slap my younger self around and ask “what are you thinking “….Sure, still have disagreements and the usual stuff but we both recognize what we have and how much better it is than what we each had before (her previous marriage was similar).
I say all this to say that no matter how bleak it may look, I can assure you that something better is waiting for you down the road. When you find it, you’ll see what’s happening today in a much different perspective. At the time I lost my first true love, my perspective at the time had me thinking similar to where you’re at. Looking back, knowing how she and I turned out, I can only shake my head at those thoughts. Time is the only thing that will give you that perspective.
In the meantime, be open to help. Sounds like you are and like you took the police/hospital situation in stride. That’s good.
No matter what, remember there’s a bunch of us here always willing to lend a hand.
You are a good man going through one of the worst things I can imagine based on past experience.
Here's the thing, justvin Vital you have a great support group. We are here for you.
Eat healthy , keep busy and lay of the drink.
I'll be back in Jan and will be around the country and ill want to look up up. By then you will have made progress.
Chin up ol fruit.....
I have the dog for the weekend and while its nice to see him he really is momma's boy and I know he misses her while he's here but I've been on a few walks with him over the last couple days.
I did have the TLR out today even though it was only about 10 degrees Celsius I didn't even really notice the cold. I caught myself riding reckless at times due to my current zero fucks state of mind.
Im really trying to keep my head up but it's so lonely, especially in the mornings and going to bed at night. A buddy came over last night and we hung out a bit and watched a movie, it helped but of course the loneliness just floods back in afterwards. And currently being out of work doesn't help at all, I really need to get on that.
Anyways boys that's all I really have for tonight. I still come back and read this thread multiple times a day just to help lift me up...so thanks again to everyone here.
On the more serious note. Looking back always brings fucky times in my experience... but it happens, it's the part of the process. In my neverending strive to be perfectionist i am guilty of thinking what if i did something differently/prepared better for this and that... Never the less the nature of life is that if you expect right hook, life throws left hook and if you expect both hooks life kicks you in the balls and spits in ya face. You can't alter the past just let it flow thru you and find your way.
P.S. I'm really terrible at giving life advice but being lurker in this thread wasn't cutting it for me anymore. hope this helps.
I dig the openness and bravado you've shown by putting yourself out there. The fact that you are talking about it shows that you've got the common-sense that's needed to pull thru this crazy time in your life.
There have been so many great ideas, comments and all around "signs of support" in this thread...this conversation...
Just "get out there" and get busy again. Live life. Go ride...go sled...just...
Get out here and breathe a little. Be around people. Go LIVE your LIFE. Oh...and...I will see you at the races.
Stay Stoked!
Manny
He had an older RM 250 sitting there that needed brought back to life. He didn’t ride and, spent all his time eating out at restaurants, with her and, quit going to the beach.
They broke up and, I told him, think of all the money your going to save. Build that RM, get back in the water and, find yourself again. Focus on just you.
Well, he’s in a much better place now. Found a woman who adores him and, they don’t fight when he wants his own time. We reciprocate road trips. Either he flies up here to Washington so, he can drive to California with me and, we can ride together there or, I fly in to drive up here with him so, we can ride together up here. We look forward to doing those trips.
Sometimes, a relationship that ends, although it’s tough, is simply a stepping stone of what’s to come next. There could be great things on the horizon.
Again, I could be wrong. I am running on more opinion than knowledge of your situation. However, I have a lot of experience. With 12 years of family court with my ex deciding, despite court orders, when I will see our child and playing around with the times to simply maintain an impact on my life. The judges would urge her to comply but she always had a hold over me (and my new family) as she always had a little edge being the custodian of the girl. There was always a sense of loss when I took her back to their mum's at the end of the weekend.
Your situation may not be acrimonious (ATM) and the dog thing may suit you. IMO, get your own bloody dog!!! That way, It is not another thing you're missing when the dog disappears every other Sunday arvo/evening.
Hope that helps.
(Sing it like a 2nd-grader at the top of your lungs in the morning.)
you're good to go!
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