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For those of you who have them, what's the thing you dislike most about 'em?...
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I don't know teenagers, but my 6 year old girl is so good, I can't think of any reasons to spank her
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My 15 yr. old thinks that he knows everything. It gets on my nerves so bad that sometimes I just want to strangle him. My son is a good kid and has never given me any problems. He helps around the house and does what he is told to do. He always tries to do his best in everything that he does.
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Having lived through a 25 and 22 year old now let me chime in. THe fact you do know what they are going through and trying to get them to understand you are giving them knowledge which you have lived through. Girls the hormonal stew we will never understand. Boys the fact that they have to test you as a man.
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Mine is going on 23 and has always been a good kid. Never had any problems.

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Big Lenny 4/24/2009 9:27pm
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fcr wrote:
Having lived through a 25 and 22 year old now let me chime in. THe fact you do know what they are going through and trying...
Having lived through a 25 and 22 year old now let me chime in. THe fact you do know what they are going through and trying to get them to understand you are giving them knowledge which you have lived through. Girls the hormonal stew we will never understand. Boys the fact that they have to test you as a man.
I think me and you are riding in the same car, we might add laziness...
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At home my kids were not as lazy as I was as a teen. But , they work their asses off in their jobs and school. Both good kids. Like OF my daughter is very bright and argues until death. My boy was very obedient and only did the testosterone thing with me when he was 18. One little wrestling match type thing, thought he was going to mouth off to mom. I let him get ahold of me like he was going to take me then reversed it with ease and had him controlled.
My daughter was too smart and was an absolute handful. School was so easy, she even asked to go to a more difficult school in HS. Still to this day does things her own way. Would not let us help her with her college applications. She got interviewed by Harvard. He told her he recommended her. Her year though was very competitive, she didn't make it. Found out latter they told her a secondary route so she could get in her sophomore year. She has ZERO street sense. And is learning the hard way, I won't get into it but she thinks all places are like Newport. Good Luck BL it always seems to work out.
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Big Lenny 4/24/2009 10:06pm
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At home my kids were not as lazy as I was as a teen. But , they work their asses off in their jobs and school...
At home my kids were not as lazy as I was as a teen. But , they work their asses off in their jobs and school. Both good kids. Like OF my daughter is very bright and argues until death. My boy was very obedient and only did the testosterone thing with me when he was 18. One little wrestling match type thing, thought he was going to mouth off to mom. I let him get ahold of me like he was going to take me then reversed it with ease and had him controlled.
My daughter was too smart and was an absolute handful. School was so easy, she even asked to go to a more difficult school in HS. Still to this day does things her own way. Would not let us help her with her college applications. She got interviewed by Harvard. He told her he recommended her. Her year though was very competitive, she didn't make it. Found out latter they told her a secondary route so she could get in her sophomore year. She has ZERO street sense. And is learning the hard way, I won't get into it but she thinks all places are like Newport. Good Luck BL it always seems to work out.
Thanks, maybe I'll take this rope off my neck and put the chair back...
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17, 21and 23 year old sons. The 17 and 21 year olds have been great never gave me or there mom any trouble,. My 23 year old is a frigg'n wild man like his dad was when I was that age, I'm waiting for him to grow up soon, who knows. My 12 year old daugter is a little angel! I think I've been pretty lucky.
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One other thing .... Friends.... they need to be kept in check. They are always going to influence and you have to know who they hang with. You should know that from growing up. My parents always knew who was trouble and so did I. They didn't like this one friend of mine and didn't want me hanging with him and his brother, I didn't understand why. We used to disable his parent odometer and drive to LA, We were 14. I think I know why now. THis guys older brother would break into VFW halls and steal booze and had a little business going. Funny thing they were both very bright and the older brother got caught by the police. He ended up with me at UC RIverside... he got his Masters in business.
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Big Lenny 4/24/2009 11:04pm
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Damn fcr you are so right about the parents knowing who was who, plus when we were coming up people on the same block some who probably saw you when you were brought home from a newborn and watched you grow up could spank your ass if caught doing some thing wrong. Problem is these are foster kids and have been in the system since they were babies. and a couple we got were already teenagers, who are now older and now they're taking on whole new personalities, and feel we can't tell them shit, if they were my own, I'd be rackin' them like pool balls every time they pull their shit..
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Damn fcr you are so right about the parents knowing who was who, plus when we were coming up people on the same block some who...
Damn fcr you are so right about the parents knowing who was who, plus when we were coming up people on the same block some who probably saw you when you were brought home from a newborn and watched you grow up could spank your ass if caught doing some thing wrong. Problem is these are foster kids and have been in the system since they were babies. and a couple we got were already teenagers, who are now older and now they're taking on whole new personalities, and feel we can't tell them shit, if they were my own, I'd be rackin' them like pool balls every time they pull their shit..
Man you are in a tough one. You are right I lived on a block with mostly relatives 5 homes in a row , including both sets of Grandparents. Also uncles up the street and around the corner. We screwed up it was known. You have to set boundaries with these kids. And they have to know them, with mine it started early so if they messed up they got it or thought they were going to. My dad was a master at psychological beatings. It was the fear of the singing belt that kept us in line. And I can only recall maybe two times by him. Stood up in the bath tub at about 4 and pissed on my sister 6, I thought it was funny, he didn't. That was one, but the point is these kids don't have the early boundaries. If you care about them and they know it then maybe they will get it that certain lines are not crossed. They have not had the most human thing in their life and that is touch by their parents and people who care. It is one of the things humans have to have or we go nuts literally. Man good luck !!!
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dougie 4/25/2009 6:05am
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My Parents thought I was a great kid too. But they were wrong I was just slick enough to have never gotten caught at anything. Id bet that even the best kids are out there "testing"

One of my neighbors is having troubles with a back talking 14 y/o girl and a totally out of control 12 year old girl. They have decided that the 14 y/o can only spend the night with her girlfriends (sleepovers) if the parents are home (well duh) well they have been calling and talking to parents ahead of time to make sure there will be adult supervision etc. Their 14 year old came home the other day from a sleep over at a home where the parents threw a party. Seems while the party was going on downstairs, the daughter of the people throwing the party (also 14) was upstairs getting laid.

Oh and that out of control 12 y/o is a straight A student, weird huh?
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Mine (16, 15) have been problem free (so far) other than the fact that they have brain damage
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flarider wrote:
Mine (16, 15) have been problem free (so far) other than the fact that they have brain damage
Testing the blue kool aid on them?
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flarider 4/25/2009 6:56am
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No, I think it has something to do with Mama
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At home my kids were not as lazy as I was as a teen. But , they work their asses off in their jobs and school...
At home my kids were not as lazy as I was as a teen. But , they work their asses off in their jobs and school. Both good kids. Like OF my daughter is very bright and argues until death. My boy was very obedient and only did the testosterone thing with me when he was 18. One little wrestling match type thing, thought he was going to mouth off to mom. I let him get ahold of me like he was going to take me then reversed it with ease and had him controlled.
My daughter was too smart and was an absolute handful. School was so easy, she even asked to go to a more difficult school in HS. Still to this day does things her own way. Would not let us help her with her college applications. She got interviewed by Harvard. He told her he recommended her. Her year though was very competitive, she didn't make it. Found out latter they told her a secondary route so she could get in her sophomore year. She has ZERO street sense. And is learning the hard way, I won't get into it but she thinks all places are like Newport. Good Luck BL it always seems to work out.
Sounds like my Dad and I. I was eighteen, it started because I mouthed off to mom and yes dad won.

I had my bluff in on my kids, both thought about it a time or two then changed their minds before the contact started.
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My son is 18 and together we built a monster half pipe in the back yard. Long story short, I skate it more than he does. For him, if tricks dont come easy he gives up and gets discouraged really fast. That part bothers me, the fact where he will just give up.

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My Parents thought I was a great kid too. But they were wrong I was just slick enough to have never gotten caught at anything. Id...
My Parents thought I was a great kid too. But they were wrong I was just slick enough to have never gotten caught at anything. Id bet that even the best kids are out there "testing"

One of my neighbors is having troubles with a back talking 14 y/o girl and a totally out of control 12 year old girl. They have decided that the 14 y/o can only spend the night with her girlfriends (sleepovers) if the parents are home (well duh) well they have been calling and talking to parents ahead of time to make sure there will be adult supervision etc. Their 14 year old came home the other day from a sleep over at a home where the parents threw a party. Seems while the party was going on downstairs, the daughter of the people throwing the party (also 14) was upstairs getting laid.

Oh and that out of control 12 y/o is a straight A student, weird huh?
Your first sentence is spot on. So many parents have kids that do things they just don't know about. Around here(NBCool everyones child is perfect, it's your kid that led them astray. Not all kids do things either. I just know the apple doesn't fall far from the tree is pretty accurate. I know what I did and I never gave my parents any problems. I wasn't a bad kid, I just tested things and had some friends that were not the best role models so to speak. One thing that my son and I had was hockey from about 8 to 16. He played for clubs where he and I had to drive 40 miles sometimes more 2/3 times a week for practice then games etc. . I loved it and so did he. He told me one of the best jokes at 10. Asked me if he could tell me a dirty joke, I said ok. WHat is the difference between a Gay guy and a freezer? The freezer doesn't fart when you pull out the meat.

He learned it from a friend on the team that was an honor student and his parents were the most strict. Good kid, year older than Ty and was always welcome here. His parents never let him sleep over and Ty could go over there though. Move forward after hockey about 17, Tyler to me, Dad you remember ____ . I said of course, he was one of the biggest drug dealers at his schools.

My point is you can only guide and advise and hope, but as to BL's issues those kids have never received unconditional love and touch is part of that. The only touching they have received has not been Ideal. If he can show them that he may gain trust and the chair and rope won't come out so often.


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I didn't put the smiley face in there and if i edit I will probably screw up again.
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Problem is with the now 18 year old girl, my wife lets her go out with a certain time to be home, now she comes home anytime she wants, went out last night, and hasn't come home yet, plus she's lazy as fuck...
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I am/was a single dad and raised 3 of my kids with little to no help. My 4th child, I split parenting with his mother. I have been very lucky with all of them. I have 3 boys (14, 23, 25) and 1 girl (28).

It was a little tough raising a daughter by myself. I had to let her know how persistent boys are and help her with everything a mom is supposed to do. She attended Catholic school starting with pre-school and got a degree in teaching and works for an engineering firm. I never had a problem with her and she is the perfect daughter/mother.

My son that is 23 worked for my sister at her heating and air conditioning company. After working for her for 7 years and becoming a journeyman HVAC tech, he went back to school and got a degree in firefighting. He got a call yesterday to start work for Fire Stop, a private wild-land fire fighting co. He's the one that really enjoys racing/riding dirt bikes and is number 88. He also never caused a problem and I'm very proud of him.

My 25 y/o son is/was a different story, he got into trouble in school and liked to fight. In 7th grade he got into wrestling. He was good at it, but he never made the team because of his grades. When he got into high school he wanted to wrestle and knew he had to keep his grades up. Well he really got into wrestling and football and became a very popular kid. As a senior he had a VW bus. One day he filled the bus with wrestlers and football players and they drove around spanking freshman girls with a hazing paddle. They charged everybody with assault with a deadly weapon (a felony), that was really tough on the family. He went on to college and got a degree in Child Rec and has a job in a wilderness rehab program. He camps out in the wilderness for 2 weeks counseling kids, then gets 2 weeks off. He has become a great young man.

And the 14 y/o old is a wonderful son that also enjoys the outdoors (hunting, fishing and riding his dirt bike) and has never been a problem.
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Big Lenny wrote:
Problem is with the now 18 year old girl, my wife lets her go out with a certain time to be home, now she comes home...
Problem is with the now 18 year old girl, my wife lets her go out with a certain time to be home, now she comes home anytime she wants, went out last night, and hasn't come home yet, plus she's lazy as fuck...
Consequences are easier said than done. I have a friend that has no kids always telling me what to do with my spore. It is a tough one BL. She is an adult also, just breath that is about the best advice I can give you. No right answers, if she chooses to exercise her rights as an adult then she better get with the program of the world.
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Big Lenny 4/25/2009 9:09am
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Yep, she's gonna find out what real world situations are like, just pisses me off because my wife put so much into these kids and she gets nothing in return...
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So she gets it from her mother I take it....
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I don't see my kids anymore except for about an hour most weekends. They're both in college now and out of my hair for the most part, unless they need to put gas in the cars that I bought them, or need maintenance on them, or need new clothes or new computers etc. They boy still comes home and mows the yard for allowance money, the daughter has a part time job working just a few hours a week, but they are full time students racking up the student debt, living the American dream.
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The nicest 15 year old in the world is still a squirrel. It's just part of growing up.

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