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Boomslang wrote:
Thank you bud, I can and will try to do most of your suggestions above. Sunlight is rare for me. It is winter now. I get...

Thank you bud, I can and will try to do most of your suggestions above. Sunlight is rare for me. It is winter now. I get up at 5am in the dark, shower, get dressed and I'm at work at 6am...still dark. I'm very active at work and I'm sure I put in more than 5000 steps. Work finishes at 17h00 but i only leave for home at 18h30.....any sooner I will screw myself with traffic. 

I do do push-ups. 50 in the morning and 50 in the evening (at work) against the work bench. I have a bad right shoulder. Against the work bench I'd guess I'm at 40 degrees.

I also stretch a whole bunch. My middle back always hurts like a MF and I find regular stretching helps.

Yes, I do spend to much time in the bed on weekends. I feel burnt out from a long days at work, I struggle to fall asleep due to stress, my head is always spinning trying to figure out how to make it through the month.

Thank you for your concern and input. I'm for sure not the only one facing daily hardship. There are other folk that have bigger challenges in life. I keep having to remind myself of that fact.

Anyways, it's 20h32 here and I need to get to bed...I have to hit the sack early because its gonna take me forever to fall asleep.

Take care all of you great dudes and thank you everyone for the support. It means the world to me.

 

30minmotos wrote:
Try to find 15 minutes during the work day to get some sun. Preferably around sun rise. Go in, get the building going, and maybe escape...

Try to find 15 minutes during the work day to get some sun. Preferably around sun rise. Go in, get the building going, and maybe escape outside the shop drink your coffee and let the sun hit your eyes no sun glasses and your  skin for 15 minutes.

It will help you sleep at night also by showing you the day time exists and syncing your body to day and night.


With poor sleep all the struggles compound. Get some sun, do some movements, and get some damn sleep bro.


Everything you’re feeling is normal given the circumstances. Get back to nature, get back to moving, get back to the sun and the grass, get back to your family l, I promise you feel better. 

I wanna back up what you are saying about getting sun exposure.I always worked mostly outdoors in it for most of my life but when I...

I wanna back up what you are saying about getting sun exposure.

I always worked mostly outdoors in it for most of my life but when I hit 50 things changed and that wasn't the case. I found out soon after how much getting sun improved my overall well being. So, and this is especially true during the winter where it can get dreary around here, i make sure and get out if the sun is shining bright. If it it is 40 degrees, but there is no wind and the sun is shining i will sit out on our south facing deck just wearing a pair of gym shorts. Lean back in a lawn chair exposing as much skin to el sol as I dare for 20-30 minutes.

If the sun is out on my afternoon walk with the dog, shirts off. I think I finally get why all those fat old Euro men wear speedos at the beech. 😃

"I think I finally get why all those fat old Euro men wear speedos at the beech. 😃"

NOOOOOOO 🤣🤣🤣

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https://www.nytimes.com/2026/05/18/us/politics/trump-afrikaner-refugees.html

Trump Moves to Admit 10,000 More White South Africans as Refugees

The Trump administration argues that an “emergency refugee situation” in South Africa merits bringing more Afrikaners to America, at a cost of some $100 million.

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Boom, I understand how things are bleak. All of us are pulling for you. True we are not in your shoes, and I'm sure things are worse than you say but you have to try to hold on. I don't know how but thigs will get better. You got this, all us misfits on vital are here for you.

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Don't let the forces of evil win. That's it. Just keep getting more determined to defeat whatever bullshit comes your way. I know there's a lot of it and hell if I know how bad you have it, because I don't. But every time I've ever had a bad life situation, I just put my head down and swear I'd live through it just to piss off the forces of evil that were aligning against me. Hang in there.

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Time to fire up the OnlyFans acct. Do what you gotta do, man

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I got your messages Boom. Every time I get an opportunity to respond, I realize there’s a 9-10 hour time difference. Last thing I want to do is have your phone going off at 3 am. 

Hang in there. 

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5/26/2026 8:09pm

I cleaned my shit up. Fuck the negative stuff. I need to remind myself not to go down the dark road.

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5/26/2026 10:17pm
Chance1216 wrote:
I got your messages Boom. Every time I get an opportunity to respond, I realize there’s a 9-10 hour time difference. Last thing I want to...

I got your messages Boom. Every time I get an opportunity to respond, I realize there’s a 9-10 hour time difference. Last thing I want to do is have your phone going off at 3 am. 

Hang in there. 

Hey bud, also tend to forget the time difference hence me texting while you are at work.

Yesterday was a bad day for me. The anxiety and stress had been building up over the past couple of weeks and it really hit me yesterday. I don't really have anyone to talk to here. My real good mates have all past on. It's also no good that I bottle shit up, as at some point, it hits me hard.

Life is just one big grind. Long days and when it's time to sleep, the worrying and stress take over.

I'm trying my hardest to keep cherishing the few good things that life has to offer, which ain't easy when the shit just keeps hitting from every which way.

Another day is about to start and I'm hoping it's gonna be a good one.

Cheers ya all.

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What is your plan?  If you don’t have one, get one.  Put it in writing, consult experts, and share with those who can help.  Without a concrete strategy nothing will change.  Venting on Vital feels better, but does not move towards a goal. Unless you’re incarcerated or legally handcuffed to SA, you have options. 

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"On Tuesday, President Donald Trump announced he was increasing the refugee cap for white South Africans because of “an unforeseen emergency refugee situation”, signing an executive order to “increase the ceiling to 17,500.” Trump blamed the South African government for “recent increases in the incitement of racially motivated violence”."

Good Luck Boom!

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5/30/2026 12:53pm
ToolMaker wrote:
"On Tuesday, President Donald Trump announced he was increasing the refugee cap for white South Africans because of “an unforeseen emergency refugee situation”, signing an executive...

"On Tuesday, President Donald Trump announced he was increasing the refugee cap for white South Africans because of “an unforeseen emergency refugee situation”, signing an executive order to “increase the ceiling to 17,500.” Trump blamed the South African government for “recent increases in the incitement of racially motivated violence”."

Good Luck Boom!

Thanks ya all. We know exactly what Trump has in place for us. We have a plan in place but there are also challenges such as our 4 cats and one dog. They are also family and I aint going to ditch them.

 

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ToolMaker wrote:
"On Tuesday, President Donald Trump announced he was increasing the refugee cap for white South Africans because of “an unforeseen emergency refugee situation”, signing an executive...

"On Tuesday, President Donald Trump announced he was increasing the refugee cap for white South Africans because of “an unforeseen emergency refugee situation”, signing an executive order to “increase the ceiling to 17,500.” Trump blamed the South African government for “recent increases in the incitement of racially motivated violence”."

Good Luck Boom!

Boomslang wrote:
Thanks ya all. We know exactly what Trump has in place for us. We have a plan in place but there are also challenges such as...

Thanks ya all. We know exactly what Trump has in place for us. We have a plan in place but there are also challenges such as our 4 cats and one dog. They are also family and I aint going to ditch them.

 

That says you have options. People in a serious bind aren’t putting pets over options; they’re eating pets because they’re out of options…

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ToolMaker wrote:
"On Tuesday, President Donald Trump announced he was increasing the refugee cap for white South Africans because of “an unforeseen emergency refugee situation”, signing an executive...

"On Tuesday, President Donald Trump announced he was increasing the refugee cap for white South Africans because of “an unforeseen emergency refugee situation”, signing an executive order to “increase the ceiling to 17,500.” Trump blamed the South African government for “recent increases in the incitement of racially motivated violence”."

Good Luck Boom!

Boomslang wrote:
Thanks ya all. We know exactly what Trump has in place for us. We have a plan in place but there are also challenges such as...

Thanks ya all. We know exactly what Trump has in place for us. We have a plan in place but there are also challenges such as our 4 cats and one dog. They are also family and I aint going to ditch them.

 

LoudLove wrote:

That says you have options. People in a serious bind aren’t putting pets over options; they’re eating pets because they’re out of options…

Sounds harsh at first, but it’s true. I’ve loved all of our pets through the years, but if my children were in danger and I could get them out of danger but I’d have to give my pets up?  Not even a second thought……

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ToolMaker wrote:
"On Tuesday, President Donald Trump announced he was increasing the refugee cap for white South Africans because of “an unforeseen emergency refugee situation”, signing an executive...

"On Tuesday, President Donald Trump announced he was increasing the refugee cap for white South Africans because of “an unforeseen emergency refugee situation”, signing an executive order to “increase the ceiling to 17,500.” Trump blamed the South African government for “recent increases in the incitement of racially motivated violence”."

Good Luck Boom!

So using race to make decisions about emigration from foreign countries is good, but using it to help correct generations of disparities in hiring, college opportunities, and voting representation is evil? 

If race-conscious government policies are  objectionable, what principle makes a race-specific refugee program different?

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5/30/2026 2:39pm Edited Date/Time 5/30/2026 2:42pm
ToolMaker wrote:
"On Tuesday, President Donald Trump announced he was increasing the refugee cap for white South Africans because of “an unforeseen emergency refugee situation”, signing an executive...

"On Tuesday, President Donald Trump announced he was increasing the refugee cap for white South Africans because of “an unforeseen emergency refugee situation”, signing an executive order to “increase the ceiling to 17,500.” Trump blamed the South African government for “recent increases in the incitement of racially motivated violence”."

Good Luck Boom!

Boomslang wrote:
Thanks ya all. We know exactly what Trump has in place for us. We have a plan in place but there are also challenges such as...

Thanks ya all. We know exactly what Trump has in place for us. We have a plan in place but there are also challenges such as our 4 cats and one dog. They are also family and I aint going to ditch them.

 

Boom, you realize you’re placing pets over the safety of your flesh and, blood right? 

Full disclosure, if I had a cat, a dog, a horse, I’d dispatch every single one of them before they kept me from getting my family to safety. 

I’ll say, I was your 5th downvote. 

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ToolMaker wrote:
"On Tuesday, President Donald Trump announced he was increasing the refugee cap for white South Africans because of “an unforeseen emergency refugee situation”, signing an executive...

"On Tuesday, President Donald Trump announced he was increasing the refugee cap for white South Africans because of “an unforeseen emergency refugee situation”, signing an executive order to “increase the ceiling to 17,500.” Trump blamed the South African government for “recent increases in the incitement of racially motivated violence”."

Good Luck Boom!

APLMAN99 wrote:
So using race to make decisions about emigration from foreign countries is good, but using it to help correct generations of disparities in hiring, college opportunities...

So using race to make decisions about emigration from foreign countries is good, but using it to help correct generations of disparities in hiring, college opportunities, and voting representation is evil? 

If race-conscious government policies are  objectionable, what principle makes a race-specific refugee program different?

Because the whites of South Africa are targeted and, getting murdered. 

What a concept… 

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ToolMaker wrote:
"On Tuesday, President Donald Trump announced he was increasing the refugee cap for white South Africans because of “an unforeseen emergency refugee situation”, signing an executive...

"On Tuesday, President Donald Trump announced he was increasing the refugee cap for white South Africans because of “an unforeseen emergency refugee situation”, signing an executive order to “increase the ceiling to 17,500.” Trump blamed the South African government for “recent increases in the incitement of racially motivated violence”."

Good Luck Boom!

APLMAN99 wrote:
So using race to make decisions about emigration from foreign countries is good, but using it to help correct generations of disparities in hiring, college opportunities...

So using race to make decisions about emigration from foreign countries is good, but using it to help correct generations of disparities in hiring, college opportunities, and voting representation is evil? 

If race-conscious government policies are  objectionable, what principle makes a race-specific refugee program different?

Chance1216 wrote:

Because the whites of South Africa are targeted and, getting murdered. 

What a concept… 

Refugee law already allows asylum based on racial persecution. The question isn’t whether persecuted people should be helped. The question is why an administration that argues race should never be considered is suddenly emphasizing race as a qualification.

If the standard is racially or ethnically targeted violence, then South Africa is nowhere near unique. Sudanese from Darfur, Rohingya from Myanmar, Uyghurs from China, Yazidis from Iraq/Syria, Tigrayans or Amhara from Ethiopia, Congolese ethnic minorities, and South Sudanese groups would all have at least as strong, and often much stronger, claims. So the question remains: why this group, and why now?

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APLMAN99 wrote:
So using race to make decisions about emigration from foreign countries is good, but using it to help correct generations of disparities in hiring, college opportunities...

So using race to make decisions about emigration from foreign countries is good, but using it to help correct generations of disparities in hiring, college opportunities, and voting representation is evil? 

If race-conscious government policies are  objectionable, what principle makes a race-specific refugee program different?

Chance1216 wrote:

Because the whites of South Africa are targeted and, getting murdered. 

What a concept… 

APLMAN99 wrote:
Refugee law already allows asylum based on racial persecution. The question isn’t whether persecuted people should be helped. The question is why an administration that argues...

Refugee law already allows asylum based on racial persecution. The question isn’t whether persecuted people should be helped. The question is why an administration that argues race should never be considered is suddenly emphasizing race as a qualification.

If the standard is racially or ethnically targeted violence, then South Africa is nowhere near unique. Sudanese from Darfur, Rohingya from Myanmar, Uyghurs from China, Yazidis from Iraq/Syria, Tigrayans or Amhara from Ethiopia, Congolese ethnic minorities, and South Sudanese groups would all have at least as strong, and often much stronger, claims. So the question remains: why this group, and why now?

Perhaps we’ll never know the answer to that honestly. 

But, who was one of Trumps biggest supporters during elections? 

 

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ARM670
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Let's just all hope that boom can get here fast.

 

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5/31/2026 12:25am Edited Date/Time 5/31/2026 12:33am

Our animals will have nothing to do will how fast we get processed to leave here. 

I said I ain't  ditching my animals. Worst case scenario is I bring their ashes in jars but that will be the last option. 

 

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5/31/2026 10:55am

Boom do you have a contingency plan in place in case this whole refugee/asylum thing doesn’t work? It is absolutely not guaranteed that it will work out and is even kind of a long shot in a lot of ways. I know it’s a great source of hope for you and I hope it works 

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And theres that little ebola thing that will make entering the US not possible if you are near the areas infected

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