What Has Social Media Ruined For You?

MX45 wrote:

My (step)kids.Well, almost. But we are currently going through it with 2 teenage boys.We've always been good about monitoring their digital habits, screen time, how they...

My (step)kids.

Well, almost. But we are currently going through it with 2 teenage boys.
We've always been good about monitoring their digital habits, screen time, how they are with real friends, etc.
But kids will try to hide things and over the summer they spent alot of time at their dad's house. It seems things ramped up since then...

One kid basically had multiple personalities - one for each chat.1500 notifications a day. All lies trying to out-do the previous comment and get more attention than the other people in chat. The kid replaced his social life with notification over the course of a summer. He's going through a teenage angst phase so we just don't understand and we've ruined his life by taking the phone away.

They other kid is easy. He's addicted to any kind of short reel. TikTok, YouTube, Instagram, snap chat. None of which we allow and we are constantly banning and/or locking down his phone. But again, kids will be crafty. His phone has been locked up since school started. I think he has borrowed a friend's phone a time or two just to catch up on tiktok lol.

But we stay involved and closely monitor our kids. We give then room to grow and learn and really only have to intervene on the bigger issues. 

We can't control how other parents run their households, but you can tell which kids are more or less socially adjusted. Social media is ruining multiple generations right before our eyes.

tomlopez wrote:

I'm in my 20s, so my entire adult life has been during the social media age. But, something I feel that has been skewed to unrealistic...

I'm in my 20s, so my entire adult life has been during the social media age. But, something I feel that has been skewed to unrealistic levels during this era that previous generations didn't deal with is the high expectations we place on other people regarding trivial things. Social media has allowed many people to get placed within echo chambers, where a subset of the population with their exact view of the world all say the same things. These people then believe this is the only "true" and "correct" way to think and act. Once they interact with others from outside of this bubble, they self-combust and assume the others are evil, immoral people. They cannot conceive the possibility that someone else may simply have a different perspective, or was raised in a different environment, causing them to talk, think, and act in a manner that seems foreign.

In short, I feel like people used to accept people's perceived faults more easily, which is ironic since the social movement of the past couple decades has been towards a false version of "acceptance". Adults were able to take things in stride and not let things such as differing political views, different communication styles, etc bother them so much due to the fact that living in the real world and not online forced you into interacting with the "other" on a daily basis.

I'm a very amicable, non-confrontational guy, so in order for me to not potentially piss people off, I end up presenting a milquetoast version of myself to those who aren't close friends or family. It's not like any of my opinions or my "true self" is very brash or offensive, but certain people find ways to have an issue with literally anything that doesn't perfectly align with themselves.

tomlopez wrote:

I'm in my 20s, so my entire adult life has been during the social media age. But, something I feel that has been skewed to unrealistic...

I'm in my 20s, so my entire adult life has been during the social media age. But, something I feel that has been skewed to unrealistic levels during this era that previous generations didn't deal with is the high expectations we place on other people regarding trivial things. Social media has allowed many people to get placed within echo chambers, where a subset of the population with their exact view of the world all say the same things. These people then believe this is the only "true" and "correct" way to think and act. Once they interact with others from outside of this bubble, they self-combust and assume the others are evil, immoral people. They cannot conceive the possibility that someone else may simply have a different perspective, or was raised in a different environment, causing them to talk, think, and act in a manner that seems foreign.

In short, I feel like people used to accept people's perceived faults more easily, which is ironic since the social movement of the past couple decades has been towards a false version of "acceptance". Adults were able to take things in stride and not let things such as differing political views, different communication styles, etc bother them so much due to the fact that living in the real world and not online forced you into interacting with the "other" on a daily basis.

I'm a very amicable, non-confrontational guy, so in order for me to not potentially piss people off, I end up presenting a milquetoast version of myself to those who aren't close friends or family. It's not like any of my opinions or my "true self" is very brash or offensive, but certain people find ways to have an issue with literally anything that doesn't perfectly align with themselves.

Titanium wrote:

That was incredibly well said young man. To me (even being quite a bit older than you) I think you are spot on with all your...

That was incredibly well said young man. To me (even being quite a bit older than you) I think you are spot on with all your takes…

tomlopez wrote:

I'm in my 20s, so my entire adult life has been during the social media age. But, something I feel that has been skewed to unrealistic...

I'm in my 20s, so my entire adult life has been during the social media age. But, something I feel that has been skewed to unrealistic levels during this era that previous generations didn't deal with is the high expectations we place on other people regarding trivial things. Social media has allowed many people to get placed within echo chambers, where a subset of the population with their exact view of the world all say the same things. These people then believe this is the only "true" and "correct" way to think and act. Once they interact with others from outside of this bubble, they self-combust and assume the others are evil, immoral people. They cannot conceive the possibility that someone else may simply have a different perspective, or was raised in a different environment, causing them to talk, think, and act in a manner that seems foreign.

In short, I feel like people used to accept people's perceived faults more easily, which is ironic since the social movement of the past couple decades has been towards a false version of "acceptance". Adults were able to take things in stride and not let things such as differing political views, different communication styles, etc bother them so much due to the fact that living in the real world and not online forced you into interacting with the "other" on a daily basis.

I'm a very amicable, non-confrontational guy, so in order for me to not potentially piss people off, I end up presenting a milquetoast version of myself to those who aren't close friends or family. It's not like any of my opinions or my "true self" is very brash or offensive, but certain people find ways to have an issue with literally anything that doesn't perfectly align with themselves.

Titanium wrote:

That was incredibly well said young man. To me (even being quite a bit older than you) I think you are spot on with all your...

That was incredibly well said young man. To me (even being quite a bit older than you) I think you are spot on with all your takes…

philG wrote:

Whilst i agree to a point, i piss people off early to save time later LOL. 

Chance1216 wrote:

I didn’t want to derail a thread this subject came up on so, I figured I would ask you guys. Yesterday I headed to a river I...

I didn’t want to derail a thread this subject came up on so, I figured I would ask you guys. 

Yesterday I headed to a river I normally fish this time of year. There’s usually a few people out but, it’s always been easy to get away from them by walking a little further. 

My friend and, I found a little island to fish from so, we set up. About thirty minutes later I could see a group of headlamps coming down in the dark. The first group set up above us. About 60’ away. The next group of about 6 people set up below us. Group 1 decided to start a fire. The smoke from old drift wood and, decaying  timber smelled like shit. As it got light out, I could see about 30 people we were in the middle of. With more people walking down the trail and, headed our way.

After about ten minutes of fishing another group of 3 parked their ass’ next to us. It’s always been person downstream cast first then, the next guy up from him casts to avoid tangling lines. Then the next. Nope. These fuckers were casting out of order. Tangling up with everyone and, after a few hours of putting up with this shit and, stinky ass smoke we decided to move. I knew a little stretch nobody had ever fished so, we headed there. Mother fucker was full of people as well. 

I decided to call it and, started digging online once I got home. Sure enough. I found a guy on TikTok had posted a fucking map with directions. Then I found a Facebook group dedicated to this river. Posting pics and, pin locations as well. 

How pissed would you be to find this and, what has social media ruined for you?


 

TeamGreen wrote:

What Has Social Media Ruined For You?

My faith in the intellect of the average American. 🤣

BAREIN wrote:

Buying and selling. It's something i Once enjoyed and now hate with everyone using Marketplace.The other thing would be hanging out with people. I hate it...

Buying and selling. It's something i Once enjoyed and now hate with everyone using Marketplace.

The other thing would be hanging out with people. I hate it when you are having a conversation with someone and they are looking at their phone non stop, it's an addiction for some people. When I go out to eat with my wife I leave my phone in the car.

Homey55 wrote:

I think social media has ruined amateur sports. Training programs, coaches, nutrition, etc. all get over-hyped and your average kid is roped into a program that...

I think social media has ruined amateur sports. Training programs, coaches, nutrition, etc. all get over-hyped and your average kid is roped into a program that costs a ton of money and doesn't help much at the amateur level. These kids see everyone's best attempt at a trick/lap/lift/etc. and it's a 1-time snapshot that took months to accomplish, but it looks like it's a normal thing on Instagram.

Things are not fun like they were 20 years ago, it's just who can do the best thing on a 5 second Reel.

tomlopez wrote:

I'm in my 20s, so my entire adult life has been during the social media age. But, something I feel that has been skewed to unrealistic...

I'm in my 20s, so my entire adult life has been during the social media age. But, something I feel that has been skewed to unrealistic levels during this era that previous generations didn't deal with is the high expectations we place on other people regarding trivial things. Social media has allowed many people to get placed within echo chambers, where a subset of the population with their exact view of the world all say the same things. These people then believe this is the only "true" and "correct" way to think and act. Once they interact with others from outside of this bubble, they self-combust and assume the others are evil, immoral people. They cannot conceive the possibility that someone else may simply have a different perspective, or was raised in a different environment, causing them to talk, think, and act in a manner that seems foreign.

In short, I feel like people used to accept people's perceived faults more easily, which is ironic since the social movement of the past couple decades has been towards a false version of "acceptance". Adults were able to take things in stride and not let things such as differing political views, different communication styles, etc bother them so much due to the fact that living in the real world and not online forced you into interacting with the "other" on a daily basis.

I'm a very amicable, non-confrontational guy, so in order for me to not potentially piss people off, I end up presenting a milquetoast version of myself to those who aren't close friends or family. It's not like any of my opinions or my "true self" is very brash or offensive, but certain people find ways to have an issue with literally anything that doesn't perfectly align with themselves.

tomlopez wrote:

I'm in my 20s, so my entire adult life has been during the social media age. But, something I feel that has been skewed to unrealistic...

I'm in my 20s, so my entire adult life has been during the social media age. But, something I feel that has been skewed to unrealistic levels during this era that previous generations didn't deal with is the high expectations we place on other people regarding trivial things. Social media has allowed many people to get placed within echo chambers, where a subset of the population with their exact view of the world all say the same things. These people then believe this is the only "true" and "correct" way to think and act. Once they interact with others from outside of this bubble, they self-combust and assume the others are evil, immoral people. They cannot conceive the possibility that someone else may simply have a different perspective, or was raised in a different environment, causing them to talk, think, and act in a manner that seems foreign.

In short, I feel like people used to accept people's perceived faults more easily, which is ironic since the social movement of the past couple decades has been towards a false version of "acceptance". Adults were able to take things in stride and not let things such as differing political views, different communication styles, etc bother them so much due to the fact that living in the real world and not online forced you into interacting with the "other" on a daily basis.

I'm a very amicable, non-confrontational guy, so in order for me to not potentially piss people off, I end up presenting a milquetoast version of myself to those who aren't close friends or family. It's not like any of my opinions or my "true self" is very brash or offensive, but certain people find ways to have an issue with literally anything that doesn't perfectly align with themselves.

Nairb#70 wrote:

Any chance of ever getting fresh poon again! 😄

tomlopez wrote:

I'm in my 20s, so my entire adult life has been during the social media age. But, something I feel that has been skewed to unrealistic...

I'm in my 20s, so my entire adult life has been during the social media age. But, something I feel that has been skewed to unrealistic levels during this era that previous generations didn't deal with is the high expectations we place on other people regarding trivial things. Social media has allowed many people to get placed within echo chambers, where a subset of the population with their exact view of the world all say the same things. These people then believe this is the only "true" and "correct" way to think and act. Once they interact with others from outside of this bubble, they self-combust and assume the others are evil, immoral people. They cannot conceive the possibility that someone else may simply have a different perspective, or was raised in a different environment, causing them to talk, think, and act in a manner that seems foreign.

In short, I feel like people used to accept people's perceived faults more easily, which is ironic since the social movement of the past couple decades has been towards a false version of "acceptance". Adults were able to take things in stride and not let things such as differing political views, different communication styles, etc bother them so much due to the fact that living in the real world and not online forced you into interacting with the "other" on a daily basis.

I'm a very amicable, non-confrontational guy, so in order for me to not potentially piss people off, I end up presenting a milquetoast version of myself to those who aren't close friends or family. It's not like any of my opinions or my "true self" is very brash or offensive, but certain people find ways to have an issue with literally anything that doesn't perfectly align with themselves.

El_Rayo wrote:

Nicely written. Yea I’m the same age and I agree. So many people are trapped in their perceived “world bubble” where they think everything they see...

Nicely written. Yea I’m the same age and I agree. So many people are trapped in their perceived “world bubble” where they think everything they see and read online is how the rest of the world is. But I think the only way people really break out of this is simply “just go outside bro” once you travel, talk to people in real life (especially people who don’t look like you, talk like you, live like you) it really opens your eyes and helps you understand the world more, and in turn you become more intelligent. 

But then again, this requires humility. Not everyone has that. Especially us men, not a lot of men can put down the arrogance or haughtiness and hang out with, speak to, or be around people who are different than them. 

tomlopez wrote:

I'm in my 20s, so my entire adult life has been during the social media age. But, something I feel that has been skewed to unrealistic...

I'm in my 20s, so my entire adult life has been during the social media age. But, something I feel that has been skewed to unrealistic levels during this era that previous generations didn't deal with is the high expectations we place on other people regarding trivial things. Social media has allowed many people to get placed within echo chambers, where a subset of the population with their exact view of the world all say the same things. These people then believe this is the only "true" and "correct" way to think and act. Once they interact with others from outside of this bubble, they self-combust and assume the others are evil, immoral people. They cannot conceive the possibility that someone else may simply have a different perspective, or was raised in a different environment, causing them to talk, think, and act in a manner that seems foreign.

In short, I feel like people used to accept people's perceived faults more easily, which is ironic since the social movement of the past couple decades has been towards a false version of "acceptance". Adults were able to take things in stride and not let things such as differing political views, different communication styles, etc bother them so much due to the fact that living in the real world and not online forced you into interacting with the "other" on a daily basis.

I'm a very amicable, non-confrontational guy, so in order for me to not potentially piss people off, I end up presenting a milquetoast version of myself to those who aren't close friends or family. It's not like any of my opinions or my "true self" is very brash or offensive, but certain people find ways to have an issue with literally anything that doesn't perfectly align with themselves.

TeamGreen wrote:

Excuse my language…but…Fuck me! If you were to write a book? I’d read it.You see, young people like yourself that can convey their experiences and thoughts...

Excuse my language…but…

Fuck me! If you were to write a book? I’d read it.

You see, young people like yourself that can convey their experiences and thoughts so well need to be heard and understood. You give us the ability to have a balanced perspective of “your world”.

You open eyes and hearts and minds when you explain things as openly and personally as you’ve done with that awesome post.

Us older fuckers really do want a better and happier world for you. We really do. I’ve got an 18 y/o in college and it’s gonna be up to you…and her…to make the world awesome. 

The WHO figured this out a long, long time…ago…

The Kids are Alright