Things in the crapper with Fiance...

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My fiance and my nephews girlfriend went to the lake house with my mom and my sister and things got ugly. My mom got real nasty with my fiance and my nephews girlfriend then my sister started being a bitch. I warned my fiance about my sister and my mom and she learned this weekend.

By the time they got back my fiance and my nephews girlfriend were so upset and said they never been treated so disrespectful in there life. My fiance thought about leaving me because she said she doesn't know if she can live a life with me because of my family. She was very hurt and based on what happened I don't blame her. We were trying to have a kid just the last few months and she doesn't want to leave me but said she wants to hold off on having kids now which to me says she is going to get up and go at any minute and that level of commitment to me isn't there anymore because of what happened with my family. I have pretty much disowned my mom and my sister for now. I have been down this road with my sister many of times and it is a habit for her to create drama and same with my mom. What do I do? I can't blame her for not wanting to bring kids into a family she doesn't want to be around but I feel like I'm being punished for something I had nothing to do with.
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The common denominator here is FEMALE. They are nothing but trouble.
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Tell her that it is you two who should start a family, not you two, your mom and your sister. If she leaves you because of your mom or your sister, she is not good enough to start a family with anyway. Your fiance should support you if you offer to stay out of touch with your family, because you find her more important, I think you have shown what you are willing to sacirifice for her, she should be stoked with you dude!

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My thoughts are kind of with you on this one JFS. I told her she should support me and that it is our lives and if you don't want to be a part of my family then that is fine-I will support that decision. I guess if she leaves then it just shows me she is not that committed to me anyways and might be better off. I think she is just scared though because her dream is to have kids and have her kids be a part of her husbands family and to have a grandmother and do family get togethers and with my mom and my sister that is just not really possible with all the drama they always create. They are real problems. They pulled the same shit on my ex-wife.
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Southern hospitality???

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I think we may be kin Level. Shit storm at every family reunion, I blame mine on Falstaff beer and old Milwaukee.
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What's your mom and sisters problem with her?

If she's talking about leaving, let her go. Talking her into having kids with you sounds kind of retarded. Kids would be the last thing on my mind at this point.

You better be sure this is the lady you want to be connected to for the rest of your life.

I couldn't ever imagine disowning my mom. That's crazy talk.

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MXcubsXM wrote:
The common denominator here is FEMALE. They are nothing but trouble.
You're pretty smart for a Cubs fan.
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5/2/2009 7:50am Edited Date/Time 5/2/2009 7:51am
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My fiance and my nephews girlfriend went to the lake house with my mom and my sister and things got ugly. My mom got real nasty...
My fiance and my nephews girlfriend went to the lake house with my mom and my sister and things got ugly. My mom got real nasty with my fiance and my nephews girlfriend then my sister started being a bitch. I warned my fiance about my sister and my mom and she learned this weekend.

By the time they got back my fiance and my nephews girlfriend were so upset and said they never been treated so disrespectful in there life. My fiance thought about leaving me because she said she doesn't know if she can live a life with me because of my family. She was very hurt and based on what happened I don't blame her. We were trying to have a kid just the last few months and she doesn't want to leave me but said she wants to hold off on having kids now which to me says she is going to get up and go at any minute and that level of commitment to me isn't there anymore because of what happened with my family. I have pretty much disowned my mom and my sister for now. I have been down this road with my sister many of times and it is a habit for her to create drama and same with my mom. What do I do? I can't blame her for not wanting to bring kids into a family she doesn't want to be around but I feel like I'm being punished for something I had nothing to do with.
If the chick cares about you, she'll be with you no matter what your family does, you think Larry Brooks was in on it?
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5/2/2009 7:58am Edited Date/Time 4/16/2016 11:42pm
I would of thought the same thing years ago about disowning my mom and my sister but man they are just not nice.


It was supposed to be a nice girls weekend getaway. It ended up with my mom calling my fiance and my nephews girlfriend white trash and horrors and my nephews girlfriend getting pushed and hit in the arm and yelled at by my mom. They all went to the marina on Friday night and my sister started chatting up with some guys that had a house about 4 houses down from theres. They all partied and drank and my sister invited them to come over the next day because we didn't have the jet ski's or boat in the water yet and the guys said they would take all them out(my mom, my sis, my girl, and my nephews girl). Well they came by the next day up to the dock in there boat and said you guys wanna come and they said maybe later we have to do some stuff around the house and my sister got there number. Well they came back like 3 hours later and said you guys coming and my mom said she didn't want to and my sister said she was too hung over so my fiance and my nephews girlfriend went with the 2 guys and there 2 girlfriends and had some fun for about 3 hours. When they came back my mom freaked and said it was disprectful for them to go out with guys and started calling them white trash and horrors and my fiance just kind of kept quiet because she was shocked and my nephews girlfriend was like we didn't do anything wrong and my mom got in her face and started yelling and pointing her finger then started pushing her and punching her in the arm. It got real bad. Then the next day my sister accused my nephews girlfriend of taking the number and started being a bitch to both them. It was just ridiculous and my fiance and nephews girlfriend were like what the fuck is going on here-I can't believe this shit. They all took one car so they were trapped down there. Once they got back they said that was the worst time they had and can't believe how they were treated for doing nothing wrong. So that's how it all went down.


My mom also pulled shit with my ex-wife. At our reception dinner my mom was convinced my ex-wifes maid of honor was hitting on my dad(so not true) and was real rude to her and my sister didn't want to be in the wedding. It was just ridiculous and my dad and my brother in law always back my mom and my sister up because they believe there bullshit and it's always them creating and stirring the trouble and people are like what the fuck? If this is the only time it happened then I would understand but my mom and my sister pull shit like this all the time. They do it with my brothers wife, they have done it with all my ex's. So, I have decided just not to have a relationship with them and at this point I just pretty much don't want anything to do with them. I understand the confusion on my fiance's part and I guess I can just let things cool down a little and see what happens.
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TMI
Good luck
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MXcubsXM wrote:
The common denominator here is FEMALE. They are nothing but trouble.
Void Main wrote:
You're pretty smart for a Cubs fan.
Our team motto is "Wait until next year" Cool
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MXcubsXM wrote:
The common denominator here is FEMALE. They are nothing but trouble.
Void Main wrote:
You're pretty smart for a Cubs fan.
MXcubsXM wrote:
Our team motto is "Wait until next year" Cool
You need to change it to "Wait until next century". Wink Go Cards!
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TMI
Good luck
Yeah, that was too much info-ha. Had to fill people in with what happened though for those interested. I'm just upset at my mom and my sister and now I might lose someone I love out of it and I understand where my fiance is coming from-she just wants to run because she just can't be around them and if she is going to spend my life with me that's a tough decision to make to not want to be around your family or have your kids around them. I know she wants to be with me but now she doesn't want to try for a kid anymore which tells me she is still having doubts and scared and not sure if I'm worth it so to speak because of my family.
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GIwasB4 wrote:
TMI
Good luck
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Yeah, that was too much info-ha. Had to fill people in with what happened though for those interested. I'm just upset at my mom and my...
Yeah, that was too much info-ha. Had to fill people in with what happened though for those interested. I'm just upset at my mom and my sister and now I might lose someone I love out of it and I understand where my fiance is coming from-she just wants to run because she just can't be around them and if she is going to spend my life with me that's a tough decision to make to not want to be around your family or have your kids around them. I know she wants to be with me but now she doesn't want to try for a kid anymore which tells me she is still having doubts and scared and not sure if I'm worth it so to speak because of my family.
You sound like you might be still in your twenties?

Let me give you the straight up facts. No matter what you do you can NEVER please a woman.
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Nah, 36 years old man. She's in her twenties though. Smile
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Nah, 36 years old man. She's in her twenties though. Smile
Sorry for the assumption.

I knew someone was in their 20's in that whole mess tho! Tongue
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sorry to hear the troubles Level. You know what's right and what's not. Trust yourself. Second thing, patience. Time will help things get sorted out.
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Tell your mom to hit the road. Its not so bad!

I dont let anyone in my life that goes out of their way to cause trouble. If they dont treat me with respect and pull their own weight, I tell them to hit the road. Havent spoken to my mother in probably 6 years.

My sister in law tells me all the time that my mom cries and says she loves and misses me. I dont give a crap, she had her chances and was never good enough to capatilize on it. She always put someone before me, and now she can kiss my ass.

Now she is just a pain in my brothers ass.


And it wasnt TMI, if it felt good for you to get it out and write it down, than good for you. I know the feeling.
5/2/2009 3:09pm
Hey dumbass, why dont you get married before you have a kid so I dont pay your welfare check. Also, girls are dumb. Your mom is even dumber. Being territorial. Usually bevcause their son has no backbone and has never set limits.
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lol
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Hey dumbass, why dont you get married before you have a kid so I dont pay your welfare check. Also, girls are dumb. Your mom is...
Hey dumbass, why dont you get married before you have a kid so I dont pay your welfare check. Also, girls are dumb. Your mom is even dumber. Being territorial. Usually bevcause their son has no backbone and has never set limits.
Ah.. Nothing like a wake up call from a bucket of ice cold water!!
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With all respect, kids should be born into a marriage situation only.
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MXcubsXM wrote:
You sound like you might be still in your twenties? Let me give you the straight up facts. No matter what you do you can NEVER...
You sound like you might be still in your twenties?

Let me give you the straight up facts. No matter what you do you can NEVER please a woman.
Completely untrue. That fact that you have had problems doesn't make your experience normative.
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Two men are out just fishing quietly and drinking beer.

Almost silently, so as not to scare the fish, Bob says, “I think I’m gonna divorce my wife. She hasn’t spoken to me in over 2 months.”

Rod continues slowly sipping his beer and then thoughtfully says, “You better think it over, Bob. Women like that are hard to find.”
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There is a pattern here, level.

I recommend counseling before marriage - it will help both of you resolve issues. I also recommend living 500 miles away from your parents for five years after the marriage - so that you will build a world of your own. That is very important.

Mom is the dominant force in the family, and that can skew our perspectives when we grow up in a household like that. I would venture a guess that your girlfriend is more dominant than you are, too.

wish you well,


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Sounds like Jerry Springer could solve everything.
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MXcubsXM wrote:
You sound like you might be still in your twenties? Let me give you the straight up facts. No matter what you do you can NEVER...
You sound like you might be still in your twenties?

Let me give you the straight up facts. No matter what you do you can NEVER please a woman.
`ol Ger wrote:
Completely untrue. That fact that you have had problems doesn't make your experience normative.
I bet your pussy whipped as hell.
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MXcubsXM wrote:
You sound like you might be still in your twenties? Let me give you the straight up facts. No matter what you do you can NEVER...
You sound like you might be still in your twenties?

Let me give you the straight up facts. No matter what you do you can NEVER please a woman.
`ol Ger wrote:
Completely untrue. That fact that you have had problems doesn't make your experience normative.
If you have to be someone other than yourself to "please" a woman, then that's not the right woman.

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5/3/2009 4:17am Edited Date/Time 5/3/2009 4:18am
`ol Ger wrote:
With all respect, kids should be born into a marriage situation only.
Huh? Dumb, disrespectfull and ignorant statement!
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Pardon me. What is "dumb" about the nuclear family? It sounds like you are painfully ignorant of statistics and societal verities.


regards,


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