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This is retarded I know, but it's worth a shot getting some opinions on.
Me and the mother of my son have split up. We were not married (judge me, IDC) She isn't a good mother and doesn't really do shit for the kid (17 months old) She couldn't handle being a mom so I had to step up (the real reason I closed down my retail store). I have a family friend and my Mother take care of him for me while I work. Day Care sickens me.
I would like to have full custody and I have been talking about it. She came to me tonight (when she came for her hourly visit to see her son) and wants me to sign a paper saying we agree to joint custody. I feel that if I sign it I am agreeing that she is a good mother...and it will hurt me if I later want to take her to court. I have a TON of documented info on her that I have been collected since BEFORE we split up (I knew it was coming) I fear losing him even for a week, if I threaten to take him away I know she will call the police and she will take him away from me immediately in fear (we are not married so she has full paternal rights) I am sure it would only last a week...but that week is too much and the thought of more is unbearable.
Anyway, anyone have any advice. Should I just say FU I won't sign the paper? I am trying to avoid taking her to court because well I want to save money. I will if I have to in a heartbeat. I know I have little chance of getting full custody since I am the father..but I have a LOT of evidence and HER parents want me to have him and will testify to that!
I am freaking out and want legal advice at midnight...on MD.
Me and the mother of my son have split up. We were not married (judge me, IDC) She isn't a good mother and doesn't really do shit for the kid (17 months old) She couldn't handle being a mom so I had to step up (the real reason I closed down my retail store). I have a family friend and my Mother take care of him for me while I work. Day Care sickens me.
I would like to have full custody and I have been talking about it. She came to me tonight (when she came for her hourly visit to see her son) and wants me to sign a paper saying we agree to joint custody. I feel that if I sign it I am agreeing that she is a good mother...and it will hurt me if I later want to take her to court. I have a TON of documented info on her that I have been collected since BEFORE we split up (I knew it was coming) I fear losing him even for a week, if I threaten to take him away I know she will call the police and she will take him away from me immediately in fear (we are not married so she has full paternal rights) I am sure it would only last a week...but that week is too much and the thought of more is unbearable.
Anyway, anyone have any advice. Should I just say FU I won't sign the paper? I am trying to avoid taking her to court because well I want to save money. I will if I have to in a heartbeat. I know I have little chance of getting full custody since I am the father..but I have a LOT of evidence and HER parents want me to have him and will testify to that!
I am freaking out and want legal advice at midnight...on MD.
Sad to say, but that's generally how it goes.
DO NOT FUCK AROUND
DO NOT TRUST
Get a lawyer
DO NOT FUCK AROUND
DO NOT TRUST
Get a lawyer
You're dealing with a child's life, no chances, no mistakes, no errors
Get a lawyer
DO NOT FUCK AROUND
DO NOT TRUST
Get a lawyer
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I started out just like you, ended up with joint custody, with me having primary physical custody and she payed me support. Don't assume, the court will decide against you just because your a guy.
It was worth every dollar I paid a lawyer.
Get a lawyer.
Get a lawyer, but do your homework!!! Ask around, find someone who has been through what you are going through...I'd go and see your local social worker and seek advice too..
Also, I'd "look into" joining a group like Parents Without Partners.
lawyers are leeches.
( and yes, you need one )
Pit Row
If she wanted to push the issue and, you could have your child taken from you and given to her, the birth parent. Legitimize your child if you haven’t done so already. (Sign the birth certificate) this shows you have taken the responsibility as the father of the child. Florida is a 50/50 State however, she could come to his grandparents house and pick him up while you are at work and there is NOTHING the grandparents can do about it, even if they call the police because, she has every right to the child. (I know, it sucks)
Spend the money now because if you don’t, it will cost you a lot more in the long run.
Oh, and as far as the (Stolen) car thing, forget about it, wont work. Number one, if the tag is in her name, it’s her car, no matter if you bought it or not. If it’s in your name, you are obviously letting her use the vehicle, only thing you could do get it back with no charges to her. Good luck, and remember, a child is a sponge and takes in every word of conversation you two may have, even at an early age.
Try doing it with out legal representation, and you'll either loose, be real surprised or both.
It's amazing how mothers with nothing, and a bad reputation all of a sudden find "help".
Or, you can get a lawyer.
I am scheduled to see a lawyer on Tues. She's a psycho and a lot of people recommended her even some of the people who lost to her.
We do not own a home together.
As far as the car thing...It's titled in my name, registered in my name, and insured in my name. She has been in a few accidents and her insurance would cost a fortune. She even had one with my then 5 month old son...she wasn't paying attention pulled out into traffic and was t-boned. She was hanging out with her friends not paying attention...all 3 passengers had to spend time in the hospital and the one sitting next to my son almost died after tearing the artery in his heart and was in a coma for 2 weeks. My son only had a tiny cut on his head from a piece of glass...he was fine. Fuggin miracle.
I have signed the birth certificate. However, people tell me that she still has full rights to the child until we go to court.
Psycho lawyers are good, if on your side.
Especially highly recommended psycho lawyers
Lawyer up is right...but, also, you be the nicest you can stand to be and as friendly as possible. Do not let your emotions make any decisions for you...but, don't allow that psycho to take that child out of your sight either.
good luck.
I don't want to take the car or any of that shit.. I don't want to play games. I just want my son.
Get a lawyer, do not fuck around, do not procrastinate, do not wait.
If it were me, I'd take that car away. Maybe not right now, but after the custody thing gets rollling.
You are the owner, you are the insured, its your car.
Kid, you will get sued to the max if she kills someone, or hurts someone badly.
She could ruin your life, forever.
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