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I don't know what made me want to express this on here to a bunch of strangers. I guess it's a way to kind of vent to people removed from the situation.
My Dad was diagnosed with Stage 4 kidney cancer 6 months ago. Went to the doctor for back pain, left with a diagnose after a cat scan. Got his kidney removed a few days later.
Went to MD anderson a few months later for more information. Got started on a few meds and was told his prognosis wasn't very good.
Things have been getting worse this past week. Went in for a scan yesterday. Cancer is all over. It's all over his liver, his intestines, ribs, shoulder, and more.
Doctor said he has about a month or two left.
We went over to the house tonight and as you can guess everybody is a mess especially my Mom. I really don't know how to handle it. It all feels like a dream to me. I am sitting her writing this knowing that he probably won't be around next month.
On top of that we run a family car dealership. We have to rush to get the business transferred over to me and my siblings in the next week. Not only was I recently divorced, have joint custody of a 2 year old daughter, have the pressure of trying to run a large car dealership when I'm in way over my head, have been battling sinus problems which are making me ill for several months and then I have to try and deal with the loss of my Dad also. I think the stress is completely overwhelming.
How do I possibly deal with something like this?
My Dad was diagnosed with Stage 4 kidney cancer 6 months ago. Went to the doctor for back pain, left with a diagnose after a cat scan. Got his kidney removed a few days later.
Went to MD anderson a few months later for more information. Got started on a few meds and was told his prognosis wasn't very good.
Things have been getting worse this past week. Went in for a scan yesterday. Cancer is all over. It's all over his liver, his intestines, ribs, shoulder, and more.
Doctor said he has about a month or two left.
We went over to the house tonight and as you can guess everybody is a mess especially my Mom. I really don't know how to handle it. It all feels like a dream to me. I am sitting her writing this knowing that he probably won't be around next month.
On top of that we run a family car dealership. We have to rush to get the business transferred over to me and my siblings in the next week. Not only was I recently divorced, have joint custody of a 2 year old daughter, have the pressure of trying to run a large car dealership when I'm in way over my head, have been battling sinus problems which are making me ill for several months and then I have to try and deal with the loss of my Dad also. I think the stress is completely overwhelming.
How do I possibly deal with something like this?
"How do I possibly deal with something like this?"
No easy answer there man, support your momma the best you can and do whatever you can to make the time your pop has left and best you can.
I know that there are no words typed on a screen that can even come close to help ease the pain in a time like this...but you and your family are in all our thoughts and prayers.
Stay strong dude!!
Hopefully you have some team members at work that can help on the business end. You would probably be surprised at how supportive they will be. How's your dad's mindset?
I'm so sorry you have been dealt these cards.
The Shop
As far as the business. It's rough. I know pretty much everything but there is a lot of money involved, taxes, etc. I think we can get it handled but there are a few key things that if they don't fall right could make everything real bad real quick. Mentally, I just don't know how well I'm going to be able to do. It's pretty much all on me.
My dad had a close call with colon cancer that caused a ruptured bowel.
6 weeks of touch and go in ICU but now has completely recovered.
I wish I had a good way to express how grateful I am that I got more time with him and how much I would hope for the same for anybody going through a situation like yours.
I don't know what else to say.....
On the sinuses, I had severe problems and it turned out to be from mold. They prescribed I think fluconazole for 30 days and it did wonders. 10 days of antibiotic therapy doesn't work for chronic sinusitis.
Stay strong dude.
The time he had with us was. I would give anything now to have just five minutes with him. wish you the very best with your dad and your transition at the dealership.
That is what i did dealing with all this bullshit w/ my mother. I went online and did some searching for "Bi Polar support groups" I didnt join in or anything, but just reading other peoples experiences on how they deal with issues and stuff, kinda helped my mind process and understand everything that goes on.
I dont know Boyd, im just tossing some ideas out there for ya bud.
I lost my Dad this October and it was/is the hardest thing I have ever had to do deal with in my young life.
Everyday I just miss him more and more.
It kills me he wont see me graduate college, see me get married, play with his grandkids, or that I cant even call him on my way home from school everyday like I use too, or write him emails telling him about the races and all the cool crap I am doing when he is away at work.
Be thankful for the time left and try to make it as great as you can for him.
My Dad was taken from me very unexpectedly, I hadn't seen him for a good 5 months , I was away at college and he was in the bush working when I had came home for a break. I missed him by one day when I left to return from school. I talked to him on the phone the day it happened. I never saw it coming but neither did anyone else.
To this day I kick myself for not going and seeing him one last time before he was cremated.
It's going to be hard to see him everyday get worse but be thankful you get his last days and get to spend it with him.
If you ever need someone to talk too my email is reyoldesign@gmail.com
Don't set yourself up to fail, think positive and make him proud.
If you got some time you might want to watch this documentary about curing cancer. It's pretty unbelievable.
https://youtu.be/DoUl7F7dWdE
Oh, it doesn't hurt to seriously consider some of the seemingly far-reaching 'cures'. The video above, which I haven't watched, is at least worth taking a look at. Trying some of those things doesn't preclude treatment from the mainstream medical community. You just never know. That said, seriously look into the paleo diet. There are some amazing stories out there about how getting away from the bad foods have done things you'd never expect. Ok, not going to push it anymore....just trying to help.
Tell pop howdy.
Life isn't fair sometimes.
You are a moto-crosser,you have been knocked down in the first turn.Pick your bike up and put your head down and GO!!!
You CAN do this, there is no quiting. If you dont really understand what im talking about ,take a look at that picture of Magoo with his bars bent to shit ,his foot on the side case, still charging, thats what you have to do.You will get thru this, it wont be easy,but you will make it!!
Pit Row
You can remove large parts of the liver if you have cancer there, it will grow back out. My father in law had 75% of his liver removed in order to get rid of the cancer in it. It grew back in a few months. It is pretty recently that they discovered they could do that and that it grew back out. For about only 10 years ago, you were pretty much doomed if you got cancer in your liver, not any more. Even if it is not isolated to the liver, the docs might be able to do something?
Anyways I think if I would of done that it would of made the healing process a little easier. What ever you do keep your head up and make HIM proud.
Boyd, i shared your story w/ my whole family, you are in all of our thoughts and prayers! Stay strong bud, and just take one day at a time.
Hang in there
IMO take a couple of weeks off somewhere if it happens and it is time for you to step up and believe in what your dad has built.Unless you have been given everything in life for just being a son ...well...I wish you the best.
I wish you the best, it's a hard time for sure. I was trying to think of something to say, but theres nothing really other than we're all thinking of you.
Cancer is one hell of a disease...
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