My Dad and I

8/19/2011 7:12pm Edited Date/Time 1/22/2012 8:58pm
After 56 years of marriage to my mom, it's just Dad and I sitting here watching TV.
She passed away this morning at 3:25 am after 75 years of life.

I sat here and watched her breaths get shallower and shallower for a week. She fought so damn hard and she didn't want to go.
They said her heart was strong and she didn't want to stop. Cancer is a vicious enemy we are helpless to battle. They took her away around dawn.

It's impossible to fill the void, but I'm trying. I don't even know what to say to Dad- tryin to make some jokes and we had shot of brandy in her honor.
I know this is a heavy topic for a moto forum but I'm here every day and guess the racing community is part of my community. She never dug racing because she always had to clean up the mess. Occasionally when I was visiting we would watch a race and i would laugh because she would cover her eyes.
Anyway- not to bum anybody out but I was inspired to share.
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8/19/2011 7:18pm
Very sorry for your loss. I lost my Grandma and Grandpa to cancer, not something I would wish on anyone. She is not suffering anymore, if you can take any comfort from that.
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8/19/2011 7:18pm
Dang, sorry to hear about your loss.


Sometimes there's not much you can say, just be there for him. I once heard an anecdote about why dogs are man's best friend. If you think about it, it doesn't take any words to be a best friend, just the willingness to be there through anything.
8/19/2011 7:23pm
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Dang, sorry to hear about your loss. Sometimes there's not much you can say, just be there for him. I once heard an anecdote about why...
Dang, sorry to hear about your loss.


Sometimes there's not much you can say, just be there for him. I once heard an anecdote about why dogs are man's best friend. If you think about it, it doesn't take any words to be a best friend, just the willingness to be there through anything.
Thanks dudes...TriRacer that is some awesome advice. I told him I'm here for the long haul. Just sucks because I live 200 miles away. But we'll get through it.

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8/19/2011 7:28pm
Sorry for your loss. Sad
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8/19/2011 7:30pm
Very sorry to hear this.

My sincere well wishes to you, your dad and the rest of the family.
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8/19/2011 7:33pm
Hey bud, sorry bout mom.
Pops is going to need you like never before, for a little while anyways. So sad for him to lose his bride.
My condolences to your family.
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8/19/2011 7:35pm
My most sincere condolences.

I supposed most of us have watched cancer do it's thing by now, and all I can say is may your Mother now rest in peace.
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8/19/2011 7:38pm
Sorry for your loss.I lost my dad three years ago to cancer,what an awful disease.It was tough for the whole family, but at least now, when we talk about Dad, we laugh and joke about the many great times we had together.In due time your tears WILL be replaced by a smile when you think of your mom.
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8/19/2011 7:49pm
Sorry to hear about your loss. Cancer is an evil beast. Take care.
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8/19/2011 7:51pm
SEEMEFIRST wrote:
My most sincere condolences. I supposed most of us have watched cancer do it's thing by now, and all I can say is may your Mother...
My most sincere condolences.

I supposed most of us have watched cancer do it's thing by now, and all I can say is may your Mother now rest in peace.
X1 Brings back alot of memories.
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8/19/2011 8:27pm
Sorry for your loss,
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8/19/2011 8:36pm
Sorry about your loss. I know it's not the same as a mother but I lost an aunt this week, my uncle was devastated.
8/19/2011 9:03pm
Also sorry to hear about your aunt, Uma. It's crazy how quickly cancer works. Thanks for the supportive words, friends.
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8/19/2011 9:39pm
Best wishes in this tough time. Hope Vital can help some.
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8/19/2011 10:20pm
Condolences, Stay close to your dad, it will help both of you.
8/19/2011 11:09pm
Thanks for sharing. The reality that your Mum's really gone will take time to sink it. Don't rush the grieving process.

You seem to be a good son. No parent can ask for anything more.
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8/20/2011 1:44am
Sorry about you loss, my condolences.
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8/20/2011 3:42am
So sorry for your loss. Looks like she and your dad had a great relationship...56 years is awesome. Hang in there buddy.
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8/20/2011 3:58am
Sorry
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8/20/2011 4:34am
Hang in there buddy.
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8/20/2011 5:25am
Wow, sincere condolences to you and your father. It's weird that I don't even know you and the thought hits me hard knowing that's something I'll have to deal with soon enough. Thoughts are with you.
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8/20/2011 5:52am
My sincerest condolences for your family's loss
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8/20/2011 6:08am
Please accept my condolences.
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8/20/2011 8:18am
Jason, man i have had re-read you post about 6 or 7 times since you posted it, just trying to even process what you are going through, i cant even begin to fathom the pain you and your pops are feeling at this time. I know a few simple words on a msg board wont do much for healing wounds, just know that we are here for ya and thinking good thoughts and prayers for your entire family.

I hope your pops is hanging in there, give him our best.
8/20/2011 12:35pm
ocscottie wrote:
Jason, man i have had re-read you post about 6 or 7 times since you posted it, just trying to even process what you are going...
Jason, man i have had re-read you post about 6 or 7 times since you posted it, just trying to even process what you are going through, i cant even begin to fathom the pain you and your pops are feeling at this time. I know a few simple words on a msg board wont do much for healing wounds, just know that we are here for ya and thinking good thoughts and prayers for your entire family.

I hope your pops is hanging in there, give him our best.
These posts mean a lot, Scottie. I almost hesitated to post it, but went ahead and did it. I'll never totally get over losing Mom, but life must go on. This board was actually a nice distraction all week. Dad's doing good.
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8/20/2011 1:23pm
Sorry for your loss. All the best to your pops and family.
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8/20/2011 1:59pm
No matter how many times we think that it's a natural thing, that life has a beginning and an end, none of that ever helps when it happens. I'm very sorry for your loss and for your dad's loss, too. I lost my dad just after Christmas in '06 and I still think about him all the time. This summer we hiked up to the mountain in Colorado where I left his ashes and it was just as hard as it always is, it never gets easier. All the best to you and your dad.
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8/20/2011 2:41pm
After 56 years of marriage to my mom, it's just Dad and I sitting here watching TV. She passed away this morning at 3:25 am after...
After 56 years of marriage to my mom, it's just Dad and I sitting here watching TV.
She passed away this morning at 3:25 am after 75 years of life.

I sat here and watched her breaths get shallower and shallower for a week. She fought so damn hard and she didn't want to go.
They said her heart was strong and she didn't want to stop. Cancer is a vicious enemy we are helpless to battle. They took her away around dawn.

It's impossible to fill the void, but I'm trying. I don't even know what to say to Dad- tryin to make some jokes and we had shot of brandy in her honor.
I know this is a heavy topic for a moto forum but I'm here every day and guess the racing community is part of my community. She never dug racing because she always had to clean up the mess. Occasionally when I was visiting we would watch a race and i would laugh because she would cover her eyes.
Anyway- not to bum anybody out but I was inspired to share.
75 years was a good run.

Celebrate her life and jus' spend tine with your dad.

I found your post a bit refreshing compared to the usual angst and finger-pointing we share, in here.

I'm sorry for your loss.
I'm truly sorry for her suffering.

I'm proud of you-n-your dad.

Godspeed,

Manny
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8/20/2011 3:26pm
Sorry for you and your Dad's loss.
I lost my Dad last November and the experience changed my life. I hope your Dad hangs tough thru it and you two enjoy the time you have together. I don't regret a moment I spent with him before he passed.

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