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So, I just moved my oldest into her dorm today for her Freshman year in College.
All went well, as far as it can be, with thousands of parents/kids trying to funnel in with a truck-load of crap to make their kids dorm as comfortable as possible. Mission accomplished in 4 hours.
Happy to see my baby step off into her new chapter in life. She will do well.
But, Mom has been a weepy mess and is having a difficult time with this adjustment.
Trying hard to keep it positive for her. Hopefully she finds her groove and understands her job is done. All things work out in the end.
For those that have been there, how long did the Mom-blues last?
All went well, as far as it can be, with thousands of parents/kids trying to funnel in with a truck-load of crap to make their kids dorm as comfortable as possible. Mission accomplished in 4 hours.
Happy to see my baby step off into her new chapter in life. She will do well.
But, Mom has been a weepy mess and is having a difficult time with this adjustment.
Trying hard to keep it positive for her. Hopefully she finds her groove and understands her job is done. All things work out in the end.
For those that have been there, how long did the Mom-blues last?
My son is only two and I can only imagine how hard it's going to be.
We got our oldest off to college 3 years ago. She's entering year 4 week after next. There were some tears, for sure - but things got better shortly. It helped that there was family in the college town, too. Actually, my wife grew up there, so it went a lot better than it could have if she had gone somewhere else.
Our oldest guy is about to start year 2. That went pretty smooth.
But I'm not exactly looking forward to getting child 3 out the door. He's going into last year of high school. I'm pretty sure that getting him to wherever he's going this time next year, will result in some pretty serious waterworks - maybe a whole summer of it, between leaving high school in June & getting to wherever in September. Despite how much someone here says she can't wait to have the house to ourselves.....
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Young son got to play 50 cal tail gunner out the back of an Osprey for his 22nd Bday this week somewhere in the Med. I was looking for someone to high five, and mom wasn't the one...
Help your wife send her cookies. For some reason this helped my wife a lot.
Start planning for the next time she comes home.
Make sure your wife stays in touch with her. It can be a text message, phone call or whatever.
Go to "Fathers day" if you can and make sure your wife goes to "Mothers day" whenever that is.
These things worked for me. Hang in there, it's temporary.
Starting on the next chapter as the first week goes on. Dorm drama is upon us.
Daughter is in a quad that is separated into two private, double occupancy rooms, sharing a common area and kitchen. She is cool with her roomie but the other pair are at serious odds. So much so that one girl has already moved most of her stuff out and to another dorm.
They are hoping to get another girl from their building to replace the one that bugged out. One of the girls knows someone that is not happy with her Indian roomie that has their dorm reeking of curry and has frequent sexual encounters with her boyfriend, while she is in the room. So, we will see how this works out.
Of course, Momma is all over the drama with advice, texts, phone calls etc. I advised that our daughter can work this out on her own and it is all part of being a young adult. It's part of life and you manage through it.
That comment didn't play out too well for me at home. Should be an interesting year if this keeps up!
I thought I would get better about it over time but if anything it seems like it's worse, man I fucking HATE it.
We were together all the time when he was growing up, racing and such kept us close.
It's awful, of course there is texting but that sucks and only talking once in a while really blows.
I'm not ashamed to admit that it makes me cry on a regular basis still....I'm tearing up right now just typing this.
I miss my boy so much, I'd give anything to have him home.
It gets easier as time passes, but she will be right ba k there when she leaves next year and the year after that.
The first year was an adjustment, just seemed like something is "missing" when the family unit changes (I also have 2 younger daughters- freshman and junior in High School).
What did seem to help the transition for us was using facetime on the ipad, rather than just text or regular phone calls. The whole family could gather around the ipad so it sort of felt like we were together.
At least you get to see them live, not just a voice, so they don't seem so far away.
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