Your kids disinterested in Moto?

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7/28/2018 7:54 PM

Wondering how many other Dads out there are wandering around heartbroken because their kids couldn't care less about dirt bikes and riding? I started both of my boys out on 50's with training wheels, with dreams that someday we'd be on the trail or track together enjoying the pastime I've loved and has played such a big part in my life sinice I was 9 or 10. They both like it "ok", but only enough to do it if there's absolutely nothing else going on. They're not interested in working on their bikes and the times I've threatened to sell them have been met with indifference. Reality finally hit home recently when a friend of my 15-year-old was over and asked him what kind of bike he had...my Son shrugged and looked at me for the answer. For someone like me, who grew up scouring the library and book store for the latest "Dirt Bike" magazine so I could study every detail of every bike...over and over...this is hard for me to understand. I was planning on taking my younger Son riding tomorrow (only the 3rd or 4th time this year) and he told me tonight that he doesn't want to "waste" a whole day and would rather stay home and play basketball with his buddies. I love that they're both active and into stick & ball sports and proud that they're generally good and respectful boys with bright futures, but I can see that my dreams of being a moto family are basically kaput. This sport / hobby is too expensive to maintain unless the participants are somewhat passionate, and mine just aren't. I think it's time to sell off all the bikes & gear and get a boat or something that at least my Wife can enjoy. I'll continue to ride on my own and with buddies, just like before I had kids. I just wish they were there.

Is there a support group or something out there for Dads like me?

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7/28/2018 8:12 PM
Edited Date/Time: 7/29/2018 1:54 PM

We were really into Racing for a long time but then my boy got to that age where he liked girls in that changed kind of everything. The thing about it I miss the most was it was good for family involvement and sticking together we still do it just not like we used to do anymore.

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7/28/2018 9:00 PM
Edited Date/Time: 7/28/2018 9:02 PM

It is a different generation and mindset. When we were kids, everybody wanted a dirtbike and go riding. Kids could care less about it now and it shows in the turnout at the local tracks. I have 2 boys. 11 & 16. I thought we would be the typical moto family. Didn't happen. But my wife and I never pushed or pressured them to race or get into anything they were not comfortable with. We wanted to give them the opportunity to make their own choices. They chose to play baseball and do other things and we supported them. We still love trail riding together and we get out on a regular basis, but the racing is pretty much out of the question. Actually, I am good with that. We have more fun going out and hitting the trails than any day sitting at the mx track. My oldest is very intelligent and wants to be a neurologist. He is also a brilliant jazz musician. Trade that for mx. No way! My youngest is a very good athlete and is an up-and-coming musician also. Let your kids be who they want to be. Don't try to live your dreams through your kids and become a moto-dad. We have enough of those idiots out there already thinking they have the next GOAT. Support them in their decisions and enjoy watching them chase their dreams.

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7/28/2018 9:04 PM

I am glad my boys don't have any interest in it because it was my passion not theirs. cool

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Ed Johnson

7/28/2018 9:12 PM

I was super into racing moto for all of my teenage years and missed out on a lot of stuff my friends got to do...lake trips, parties, chicks. Meanwhile i was going to bed early to wake up at 5 to be at the track. Kindof made me an outcast sometimes. Unless you're a super fast phenom going to Lorettas, it isn't for everyone.

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7/28/2018 9:13 PM

The OP sounds like Tony Alessi

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7/28/2018 9:20 PM

My plan is to mostly raise my kids like the Amish until they are old enough to ride dirt bikes.

I was pretty hot and cold with moto when I was growing up. I wish I would have ridden more though to create more great memories.

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7/28/2018 9:26 PM

Xracer:

Maybe your grand kids will really get into bikes.

Or by the time you have grand kids they might just be physically plugged into their phones all the time, generating power for the Matrix.

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7/28/2018 10:51 PM

It's funny, there were a few years there when the whole family went out to the track and rode. Me, the wifey and boy and girl. Everyone rode, my wife rode the least and mostly just wrangled the kids and watched over them at the 50 and mini tracks.

By the time my daughter hit six or seven, she wanted no part of it anymore. It was all about soccer. So it was just the boy and l. It was super cool. We'd hit the track a couple times a week, we'd rode together a bunch. Money was tight so racing was minimal. At one point he asked to do Hot Summer nights at Perris so we did. He rode well and seemed to enjoy it but when the series over he never asked to race again. No biggie. We were still riding at least.

Then around 10 or 11 years old l could tell he just wasn't all that into it anymore. I got him a new bike and switched shit up, we did more off roading and desert riding thinking he was maybe just burning out on riding tracks but he confided in me that he still prefered track riding so we went back to professional practice riders.

Then one afternoon coming back from riding when he was 12 he just laid it out. He was done riding and wanted to play guitar. Damn you Guitar Hero!!!! I said "that's cool with me" although l wanted to cry inside. Just a little.

We got him a guitar and kept his bike in the garage just incase but he never rode it again. He became a phenomenal guitar player. He auditioned and got into a perfoming arts school and did well with it. He just graduated from college in a tight four years and murdered the LSAT and will be going to law school after he takes a semester off.

Best part is he's still a huge fan of the sport, A1 and another SX are a for sure father son day and sometimes GH gets thrown in. We still do a little bench racing and he still has a bike, a bigger one now, waiting for him in the garage if ever decides to use it. Fingers crossed.

All l could do was expose him to riding and let him go his own way. I did my job, l'm happy with the way it all worked out.

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7/29/2018 12:17 AM
Edited Date/Time: 7/29/2018 12:31 AM

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I absolutely love riding with my young bloke, there’s no better feeling! BUT it comes and goes in cycles. He’s just typical kid. There are times he shows zero interest,other times he’s begging me to go. Not having anywhere decent to ride definitely doesn’t help (2-3 drive for us).Other times he’d rather go fishing than ride! I constantly ask him if he’s still keen ,never forcing him because I’d be interested in getting a enduro bike rather continueing on a mx bike. (Over 40 I’m allowed to)We went this process regarding Mtb riding,he was crazy keen,then the scooter thing happened! Possibly try mixing it up a bit,riding different places & be patient or just support them in whatever they choose.
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GONE RIDING

7/29/2018 3:47 AM

I think you’ve found your group

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7/29/2018 5:11 AM

gnarwhip wrote:

I was super into racing moto for all of my teenage years and missed out on a lot of stuff my friends got to do...lake trips, parties, chicks. Meanwhile i was going to bed early to wake up at 5 to be at the track. Kindof made me an outcast sometimes. Unless you're a super fast phenom going to Lorettas, it isn't for everyone.

My experience also. But I just wanted to race. Didn’t care about anything else at 8-18.

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GP740
Since 1987

7/29/2018 5:45 AM
Edited Date/Time: 7/29/2018 5:54 AM

Could be the other way around too. I wanted a dirtbike and wanted to race ever since ~4-7 years old (1994-1997) (to the point I was angry/mad/didn't uderstand) but my parents could not afford it/didn't fit their life plans. Made me instead your stereotypical Texas football-baseball little leaguer. Fast forward to 2002, upon moving to New Mexico, got my first dirtbike (80cc). Parents saw the lack of fear, bought me an 85cc from the Dry family. 9 months into to riding a dirtbike at age 12 and I'm absolutely raping the field in the D-class vs riders who've been on dirtbikes for years. Long story short, I by absolute chance/luck, began taking reps with Keith Johnson (would pick my ass up after school to go ride LOL), Bradley Graham, Vanessa florentino, Corey dry, Jason Anderson in a secret cult like motocross society on private tracks around the city. Moved back to Texas, and now pursuing a career in medicine with hopes to treat spinal cord injury for people such as Jesse Nelson due to my background and undeniable love for motocross. So you just never know man. Maybe your kids future was meant to be inspired by motocross, similar to mine.

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7/29/2018 6:10 AM

In saying that, I feel your #1 priority as a dad is your kid's safety. I say that with all due respect.

http://www.mxsafety38.org/past-articles/

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7/29/2018 7:10 AM

I'm 17 and I'm into moto more than I ever have been.

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7/29/2018 7:22 AM

It's absolutely normal for different human beings to have different interest's and personalities, our job as parents should be to support and nurture their little brains in hopes that they reach their full potential as adults in whatever venture they decide to embark on. Enjoy em cause they grow up quick.

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7/29/2018 11:59 AM

Spare the kids from a lot of misery, pain, disappointment, and heart ache. Save yourself some $$$ ,and screw bikes for the little ones.

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7/29/2018 12:29 PM

Who’s it about you or the kids? My son gave up mx for hockey. I’m perfectly fine with it. It’s not about what I think would be fun for “us” but what he is passionate about. They’ll find what they live for and they’ll need your support. They like to change their minds often as well. They’re still exploring all the possibilities.

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7/29/2018 1:09 PM

gnarwhip wrote:

I was super into racing moto for all of my teenage years and missed out on a lot of stuff my friends got to do...lake trips, parties, chicks. Meanwhile i was going to bed early to wake up at 5 to be at the track. Kindof made me an outcast sometimes. Unless you're a super fast phenom going to Lorettas, it isn't for everyone.

Same here. Never been to a high school dance. Never played sports in school. That's cool with me though. Nothing is better than moto and I wouldn't change a thing about if I could. All those cool kids on the football team from your school are probably a bunch of dead beats or alcoholics and we are still shredding the berms. I dig it.

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7/29/2018 1:12 PM
Edited Date/Time: 7/29/2018 1:17 PM

project racer wrote:

Spare the kids from a lot of misery, pain, disappointment, and heart ache. Save yourself some $$$ ,and screw bikes for the little ones.

With the new dumbed down version this board has taken on in the last month or so, how 'bout we get to see who is giving the thumbs up or down emoji ? Just giving these queers a bigger keyboard to hide behind.

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7/29/2018 1:14 PM

To the OP, this is pretty typical from my experience and talking to other dads. Hanging with friends (even online) trumps hanging with dad, and more so as they get into teens. When my son was younger he was into it if a buddy of his was going. There’s a lot more to do (especially indoors) than when we were kids. I’m super stoked when he wants to ride which isn’t that often.
Also from what I’ve seen some kids are born fearless, need that adrenaline rush. Those types seem to take to Moto while others more laid back.
I appeal to him with emphasizing the uniqueness of the sport, the skill, fitness, and sense of accomplishment and overcoming fears that is hard to replicate with team sports.
You’ve done your part. Keep the bikes and gear.

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7/29/2018 1:14 PM

i stopped riding once i hit 16-17 - Boobies lol

i got back into about 2 years ago after 23-24 year break

my girlfriends son will ride maybe 1-2 times a year - he rather be playing video games with his buds or hanging out at a friends house.

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7/29/2018 1:17 PM

project racer wrote:

Spare the kids from a lot of misery, pain, disappointment, and heart ache. Save yourself some $$$ ,and screw bikes for the little ones.

Why even post here if the sport is so horrible? Many people have been through it all and keep coming back. I guess it's not for everyone.

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7/29/2018 1:28 PM
Edited Date/Time: 7/29/2018 1:41 PM

I had dreams of my young lad and I ripping through the woods, doing basic mechanics.

Now 23 and trans. with mental issues. I’m going to write an f’ing book.

Kid was in a band for awhile, that was very cool. More out there than cheap dirt bikes now I guess.
Some kids would rather have a new phone than car. I can’t keep up. Brave new world.

Sunday rips with your buddies rock too, leave the family stuff behind. Win/win

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In my 60’s and still loving dirt scoots up here in the frozen north.

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7/29/2018 1:33 PM

You said:
"I love that they're both active and into stick & ball sports and proud that they're generally good and respectful boys with bright futures"

Be happy with that , That is EVERYTHING
Go out a play BALL with them
Do whatever they want to do
Then Ride with your friends once a month
Who know the kids might just want to tag along and go riding some time too

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7/29/2018 1:35 PM

Just keep your kids away from mobile phones and social media and everything will work out.

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7/29/2018 1:44 PM

project racer wrote:

Spare the kids from a lot of misery, pain, disappointment, and heart ache. Save yourself some $$$ ,and screw bikes for the little ones.

Squirrelings wrote:

Why even post here if the sport is so horrible? Many people have been through it all and keep coming back. I guess it's not for everyone.

Never said it was "horrible". It's just not for most of the youth of today. This was my first bike. It, was "horrible", but I still have it. Photo But from five years old, to now 55, I kind of stayed with it, even when everyone around me, "dropped out".

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7/29/2018 1:49 PM
Edited Date/Time: 7/29/2018 1:51 PM

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7/29/2018 1:52 PM

project racer wrote:

Never said it was "horrible". It's just not for most of the youth of today. This was my first bike. It, was "horrible", but I still have it. Photo But from five years old, to now 55, I kind of stayed with it, even when everyone around me, "dropped out".

Nice bike. I bet you are glad you hung onto that one. I know what you mean about everyone dropping out. It's a bummer, for sure. And I understand your point. It's a brutal sport, but I wouldn't trade it.

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7/29/2018 1:56 PM

project racer wrote:

Spare the kids from a lot of misery, pain, disappointment, and heart ache. Save yourself some $$$ ,and screw bikes for the little ones.

Squirrelings wrote:

Why even post here if the sport is so horrible? Many people have been through it all and keep coming back. I guess it's not for everyone.

project racer wrote:

Never said it was "horrible". It's just not for most of the youth of today. This was my first bike. It, was "horrible", but I still have it. Photo But from five years old, to now 55, I kind of stayed with it, even when everyone around me, "dropped out".

Wow, that’s one of the dopest bikes ever.

I like the Triumph Scrambler out now, but I it has the same hp as my 525.
What up with that.

Anyway, congrats and put it in the living room.

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In my 60’s and still loving dirt scoots up here in the frozen north.

2021 Husky 501s