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I need serious advice, im currently in a shitty situation. I have the mother of my kids being a complete moron, sending me pics of herself in bed with another man.
Its monday and im drinking heavily, i dont know wot to do. Ive been suicidal in the past and i just dont know what to do to get out of thus hole.
My favorite race of the year is here this weekend and i cant even find anyone to go with.
Sorry to bother u all with this
Its monday and im drinking heavily, i dont know wot to do. Ive been suicidal in the past and i just dont know what to do to get out of thus hole.
My favorite race of the year is here this weekend and i cant even find anyone to go with.
Sorry to bother u all with this
Regarding the mother of your kids...shit happens. Would you rather tolerate her bullshit (can't you just block her number?), or kill yourself and make your kids grow up without their father.....thinking that it was something that THEY did to drive you to such a selfish move?
https://www.nami.org/suicideawarenessmonth/hp
There isn't going to be a single person that is going to be able to help you work through this over the internet. Give yourself a chance and find a professional to help you. Your children will thank you.
Try to enjoy the little things you have, i hope you have a good relationship with your kids despite the issue with the mother..
I found lots of peace of mind in sporting in studying the past years .. finally got me through a bit years of depression .. even just talking on vital in some of the topics and watching races live from all over the world has been enjoyable..
I don't trust in medication doctors give to people in situations like these to be honest.. It fucked me up more then what the initial issues where.. I was luckily to get a mountainbike not to long ago and i've done thousands of KM's with it so far and it really helped me mentally .. Cycling to me has some therapeutic aspect ..
I still wish i would be able to race again and hope that i'll someday make it back to that point, i've been working towards it and it's what motivates to keep going strong and positive ..
Sorry i can't really give you any real tips. Just be carefull with drinking / drugs / meds / ...
If i had the money to make it there i'd be down to go to mxon with you
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I dunno wot u mean by friend me. If u are on whatsapp then lemme no
Get silbor and get tough on this shit. Someone out there needs you as much as you need them.
Stay right and we're here for ya!
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Read plenty of your previous post, you seem like a like a lucid level headed guy. As they say in moto terms, "you're in a rut".
i don't know what advice to give besides seek counseling. you can get help with your thoughts, unfortunately, if your ex wants to be a cunt then she'll do just that.
i've lost 2 very close friends to suicide and have first hand dealt with how it affects those that loved them. it's not worth it in any case. stay strong bro
If u can be assed, skip to 15 minutes in and listen.
Its the fall too, hate this time of year. Im lead on my bed right now, head on the headboard, left leg sprawled over the right, gritting my teeth. Outside is the moon through some clouds, the rain hitting my window.
Horrible
Save the pics for the custody battle, you will need them.
Whatever you do, do not get pissed and show them to the kids or tell the kids about bad things mom does.
Straighten your ass up pronto and don't worry about a fuggin race. Raise your kids well and take them to the races when things get sorted out.
Sorry you have to go through something like this and glad I never had to but don't fuck the kids over.
Where as she has a line of men just waiting
Also it's OK to cry it out. Life does suck sometime and a good cry needs to happen. You are not less of a man for letting it out.
Pit Row
I'll add to the others who've said to seek counseling. Don't go to a psychiatrist who's just going to pump you ful of anti-depressants, but go see a licensed psychologist who will help you work through everything you're going through. It worked wonders for me.
It was an easy way out of an uncomfortable situation.
Your little man has put up a hell of a fight, I think you owe it to him to put in as much effort fighting.
Keep your head up man, we're here for when you need to vent or to reach out.
I cant stop thinking how much we have gotten through though, we have had so much shit to cope with and kept strong abd beaten it time and time again, she loves motocross, our kids do too.... Its soo hard.
My parents split when i was 12, i just cant let my boys go through that
I promise not to b a coward. I shouldnt have said i was suicidal last yr, but i was. I did not mean i feel that way today.
I do have extreme deamons that keep trying to defeat me but its not happening . Its a no, not after the shit ive seen ppl go through in life.
When my ex and I were separated, prior to our divorce, my brother kept telling me to stay with her for the kids, too. The thing is, I knew my kids were smart enough to see through it, and they'd actually be even more hurt/miserable if they knew we stayed together, but couldn't stand to be in the same room. If your ex is sleeping with other dudes, write her off and concentrate on your kids and yourself. You'll be surprised how quickly the good things start to fall into place when you do that. I can honestly say I've been happier before in my life, but I have never been as comfortable with myself as a person, and as a father than I am right now. It's a good feeling, and it's well worth doing.
I dont wish bad on her, ill always love her.. Im just sad
I wish i was going to france in three days
Sure, it hurts now. But it won't in the future, guaranteed. As the saying goes, life is 10% what happens to you, and 90% how you react. You're young, you have your health, and I assume you're not a refugee. Compared to 95% of the world's population you're the freaking King of England!
Drinking is going to make it worse. You need to take control of your life. She`s not worth a thought of suicide no matter how good of a women or mother she is. It`s over between you, don`t fight it. There is no coming back from this. It will always be between you.
Sully wrote a very good post.
All it gonna take is a little time. Don`t rush things. Try not to talk to her if every conversation becomes a fight. Your boys don`t need to see a thing of this. I know it`s hard but you`ll just have to put pants on and be a man in this situation. Most importantly- love yourself! (it has nothing to do with selfishness)
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